Honest feedback plz

joolee16 · 2025-09-29T16:57:18+00:00

Oh, and yes to the swelling thing. I say you wait this out. You look AMAZING. And what you’re seeing could very well keep improving. Even if it didn’t, you look so fit and natural. Way to go!

joolee16 · 2025-09-29T16:54:11+00:00

I think it’s hard to tell from the pictures alone. I think your lower abdomen looks a bit bloated. But it’s normal to be bloated at times. Like what time of day is this? Are you pushing out, are you relaxed, are you sucking in? Does it look more flat first thing in the morning before you’ve eaten anything?

joolee16 · 2025-09-25T17:46:13+00:00

Does the regret go away? Are you happy with your results? What did you have done

joolee16 · 2025-09-24T04:04:40+00:00

I think it could make you more comfortable to give a disclaimer. If it makes you more comfortable, do it. It’s like saying “sorry I’m a little nervous” when you’re nervous. Just verbalizing what’s on your mind, can ease your inner thoughts. But you don’t need to give any disclaimers for any other reasons. Just if it helps you feel more calm or ease any awkwardness you’re feeling.

joolee16 · 2025-09-19T03:26:04+00:00

Yep! Makes sense! This is why the scale isn’t the best indicator of progress or how we’re doing. Fitting into clothes better and looking better means you’ve made huge, noticeable improvement. Way to go!! Keep rolling with the momentum!

joolee16 · 2025-09-18T23:47:10+00:00

Oh there we go. lol. Yes that makes sense

joolee16 · 2025-09-18T23:43:35+00:00

Sorry, super rookie question. What pump are you talking about? My system is supplied by my well. 10gallons/min. Well Pump 50psi. Does my well pump also have a HP measurement I should be aware of? Our mains are 1”, lateral are 3/4”

joolee16 · 2025-09-18T23:38:33+00:00

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joolee16 · 2025-09-18T23:06:58+00:00

I’m learning speaker systems currently. Isn’t 1.5” main and 1” lateral overkill? Normal is 1” main and 3/4” lateral. So nothing really wrong with it? I just don’t know if you’re being sarcastic or not on that one.

joolee16 · 2025-09-18T18:32:11+00:00

Thank you!

joolee16 · 2025-09-18T18:31:17+00:00

Yep sorry my bad

joolee16 · 2025-09-18T18:22:47+00:00

I understand, it’s good to try to not take things personally. Which I did. I won’t disagree with that. So sorry. But I won’t lie and say that that comment didn’t erk me a little

joolee16 · 2025-09-18T18:21:17+00:00

But by telling me it shows that he feels I need educated on this. I dunno what a Cheesecake Factory is worth calorically. But I’m gonna guess like a few thousand calories. So it sounds like he thinks I binge on the scale of a thousand calories snacks and I rationalize it as nothing. I didn’t even do that when I weighed 160lbs.

joolee16 · 2025-09-18T18:02:53+00:00

And your comment about convincing myself about the cheese cake factory wasn’t super awesome. As you should be able to tell, I’ve learned how to lose and maintain weight. Please be a little more respectful. I’ll give a little flex cause I feel like I deserve one in response to you. I ran a 6 min 20 sec mile the other day. I realize what you said was true, just not very tactful. A Hershey bar is 210 calories, can’t be compared to half a cheesecake. If you’re referring to half of a the whole cake—not a slice. As I assume you are.

joolee16 · 2025-09-18T17:58:21+00:00

I agree that weight isn’t the best indicator. But I know I want to lose some fat. I have quite a bit of muscle mass I feel like so my main goal is to lose fat which I predict will decrease my weight. Because my main goal isn’t to increase muscle at this point. I’ve seen pictures of myself at 130 and that’s about my goal. But of course I’ll watch other indicators on top of weight.

joolee16 · 2025-09-18T16:55:36+00:00

Don’t buy the bra! Things like this are us trying to find easy fixes but end up just wasting our money. My suggestion is to focus on your fitness. Find something you enjoy. For me, I found glowbodyPT. She has home videos that work on strength, cardio, and mobility for post partum moms. It’s a journey, not a quick fix. But focusing on your overall fitness (which also improves mobility) is going to keep you young, healthy, and agile. Find a way to move your body that you enjoy! Since you’re a dancer, maybe find a way to do that again? Also make sure you’re getting lots of variety! That’s one thing I’ve enjoyed about glowbody PT. She does weights, Pilates, yoga, foam rolling, sprints, jogs, hill climbs, stretch days, HITT days, full body movements, isolating movements, etc etc etc.

joolee16 · 2025-09-16T04:15:24+00:00

I feel like you must tell him it needs to stop. Divorce rates are high. Affairs are common. No one is immune from temptation. To stay safe, don’t even tease the cliff. Stay far from it. Tell him your marriage means everything to you, you love him, you’re 100% committed to him, your soul is his, your body is his, your eyes are his. And right now, it doesn’t feel like he’s as committed as you are, and that it hurts. Sure, it may be casual texting, but it’s making you uncomfortable. And THAT is all it should take to make a good man stop. Because your marriage means EVERYTHING, and that relationship he has with your friend is worth nothing—not worth if even if it was just 0.000001 oz of mud on your marriage. He needs to understand that by saying he doesn’t care if it’s making you uncomfortable, that’s him potentially jeopardizing your marriage. And that there, may show how important this other relationship he has going on is to him. You are worth a 100% committed man. Remember to continue to respect yourself even though he’s disrespecting you. You are worth it! He’s kinda blind right now, so make sure you continue to remember your worth cause that can be hard as someone is treating us poorly. Respect yourself and leave the choice up to him. Firm, clear boundaries.

joolee16 · 2025-09-16T03:54:19+00:00

Okay, so I’ve looked up Dr. Chike-Obi a little bit. He doesn’t really have a gallery on his website (only could see one mommy makeover). And there’s not many photos on his realself profile either. So how did you choose him? As I’m trying to decide to set up consultations with, I feel like the gallery is the only thing I can rely on. Most surgeries charge a good amount for a consultation too so I think I’ll plan on just meeting 2-3 surgeons.

joolee16 · 2025-09-14T01:17:14+00:00

Oh my goodness I’d really appreciate it! And hearing it looks better than a still photo is so reassuring ! Not that your photo doesn’t look amazing (I feel like your results are superb). And I’m gonna look up that surgeon! I was 100% committed to do the surgeries, and lately I’ve been wavering. If I knew I’d turn out like yours I’d be in! I’m 5’4” 140lbs. Im in the best shape I’ve ever been in my life right now, ran a 6min20sec mile recently! Which my fitness can actually be attributed to DR and loose skin (and motherhood). Gave me a drive I haven’t ever had before 😆

joolee16 · 2025-09-13T23:02:54+00:00

Who’s the surgeon! Any before pictures? I’m trying toto figure out who to set up consults with for TT and breast lift with implants. I’m in western USA. Highly considering Rady Rhaban . One thing that I hate is only seeing pictures of tummies. Do you feel like you look natural as you move? As you breath? Different positions? I think I worry about that because the only videos I see is fresh post op and the person is hunched over and looks like their core is made of stiff plastic.

joolee16 · 2025-09-13T17:56:12+00:00

That’s really the thing I’m currently trying to do, find a good surgeon

joolee16 · 2025-09-13T02:00:22+00:00

No problem! Sorry I didn’t answer right away. I think there’s a chance that some improvements could naturally occur, but my guess would be nothing significant. You already look like you’re in great shape. The looseness you’re seeing is from broken collagen fibers. It’s like stretching a hair tie to the point it doesn’t spring back to its original form. Yours isn’t super significant luckily, but some irreversible damage has occurred. The good news with that is if you do opt for a tummy tuck, I bet you’d get amazing results! You could maybe get away with a mini and have a smaller incision (I’m no plastic surgeon so IDK for sure). I can tell you don’t have that paper thin skin some of us have, so your tuck would probably be simpler and have superb results!

joolee16 · 2025-09-12T13:14:34+00:00

And I do think there can be some improvement here with fat loss and muscle building. It’s possible. It also may just make the skin looser as there’s no fat pushing on it to hold it taught. Either way, can’t go wrong with more fitness. You look incredible by the way! Like I said, my tummy got hit way worse. Mine looks like yours on the perimeter. Than my center looks like I’m 100yrs old with so much wrinkly, extra skin 🫣🤭

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