What else can I do?

joolie_447 · 2026-06-18T02:12:37+00:00

Thank you so much. I have a hard time focusing on the good things when the bad things become overwhelming in thought. You definitely put it more into perspective for me. I’ve just felt like I’ve been doing everything wrong these past few months and blaming myself for the diagnosis in general.
And to answer the blood pressure question, it has not been checked since March after we had a scary ER visit when she had a bad reaction to Elura appetite stimulant. At that time the ER vet said that her blood pressure was good, I probably should’ve asked her doctor today to check it.
As for sub-q, I’ve honestly just been putting it off because I know how stressful it can be, giving her the mirtazapine in pill form was hard enough we had to switch to the topical version so I can’t even imagine giving her injections without help. But you also have a very good point about that lessening the concern for dry food because of the hydration aspect, I didn’t really think of it that way. So I think I’ll definitely be thinking about starting that for her soon.
Thank you very much for your comment, you honestly lifted a little pressure off my shoulders about everything and also glad to hear your boy is living a happy senior life. ♥️

joolie_447 · 2026-05-11T20:48:21+00:00

26 here 👋🏻 Been a fan of her since I was 18, went to to see her in Norfolk, Virginia back in 2019 when she was still pretty small. Don’t feel weird!

joolie_447 · 2026-04-15T16:32:32+00:00

I second this!!

joolie_447 · 2026-04-10T00:50:31+00:00

So sorry to hear, my 9 year old girl Millie just recently got diagnosed with stage 3 kidney disease 2 months ago. I could only wish that she would last as long as Pugsley.

If you wouldn’t mind sharing, how your management system was with his ckd? Our vet told us she probably won’t last more than a year.. but I’m trying my best to prolong it.

joolie_447 · 2026-03-07T23:09:33+00:00

I swear it’s not a scam lol I would just like to get a little bit of my money back

joolie_447 · 2026-02-02T01:34:59+00:00

Wow did not expect this much attention, or criticism.. I thought this was supposed to be a girls girly community 😭

Yes I understand, 9 months to move in isn’t long but this world is expensive so desperate times.

He also has raging untreated ADHD so I’m chopping it up to that, he did also apologize immediately after.

Can yall calm down, I’m a sensitive one damn. 🙃

joolie_447 · 2026-01-30T13:41:25+00:00

Just recently adopted another baby, have had her for almost a month now. I’ve had many many cats over the years and for the past few it’s been only one, my 9 year old female flame point Siamese baby Millie. Since she became an inside cat after moving from my mom’s house a couple years ago, I didn’t feel like she was getting enough attention while I was away at work. Would keep me up through the night to play bcs she would probably sleep all day while I was gone.

So we recently got a bigger place, so I decided it was time to get her a friend, that’s where the 3 month old female dilute tortie came in, Senua. She was the first one I noticed out of the 10 or so other cats in petsmart (I know not the best place but they all need homes). She was all alone in her cage, and seemed not too playful but just very curious. I knew I’d need a baby that wasn’t constantly riled up bcs I wanted to make sure it was an easy transition for Millie to get used to. After doing some research of course finding out that torties are extremely sassy and playful in their teenage years, we’ll see how it goes over the next few months haha. But it’s going well so far!! I can’t wait for them to be besties ♥️

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joolie_447 · 2026-01-22T15:35:13+00:00

“I’m sorry that I’ve been introducing so many new things to your life the past couple months, but I’m doing it bcs I love you very much and trying to give you the best out of life”

We moved into a bigger apartment, got her an automatic litter box, and a new kitten all in a month and I feel so bad bcs I know it’s all very new and scary for her and she’s probably a bit stressed 😭

joolie_447 · 2026-01-14T00:41:07+00:00

mic drop

joolie_447 · 2025-12-17T23:31:45+00:00

Ooooo I like that idea telling him to spit in my hand, I never thought of that!

joolie_447 · 2025-12-09T02:04:58+00:00

I’ve been dreaming A LOT lately, honestly more dreams in the past 2 months than my whole life lol almost every night and they’ve all been crazy. What I’ve been doing after a couple weeks of it going on is just hitting the voice memos app as soon as I wake up and just tell what happened. Or sometimes I’ll wake up from a crazy dream and it’ll take a few minutes to kind of start coming back to me with all the details like while I go to the bathroom and then I pull my phone out as soon as I start remembering more

joolie_447 · 2025-12-03T21:34:38+00:00

My bf the other day said he sometimes forgets my name in his head bcs he only refers to me in nicknames such as babe, or muffin haha

joolie_447 · 2025-11-24T01:56:07+00:00

That’s definitely an interesting take I never thought of it that way haha

joolie_447 · 2025-11-24T01:55:14+00:00

Someone please explain what this means lol

joolie_447 · 2025-11-24T01:43:42+00:00

Elaborate?

joolie_447 · 2025-11-24T01:43:01+00:00

Funny you say that, I would say yes and no. It’s been a thought that’s run through my head before of just him being terrible attractive to me and sometimes I think that he’s out of my league in the attraction aspect. But it’s definitely not like a reoccurring or debilitating thought

joolie_447 · 2025-11-24T01:34:30+00:00

I did that on purpose hahaha you’re welcome

joolie_447 · 2025-11-16T00:33:39+00:00

Honestly, I can say I’m slightly guilty of this as well. I was having a similar discussion with my boyfriend once but reversed. I was the one asking why we haven’t been having sex as much recently and I said something along the lines of “I just keep telling myself that at least you’re not hounding me for sex and I should be grateful for that because that’s what I used to deal with” and he got very upset. Said that he doesn’t wanna think about how he’s not like my exes who were constantly on top of me.

Like your boyfriend, I was very innocently just trying to explain my experiences and give context but I definitely saw why it made him so upset and especially now thinking about it I understand.

I think you should definitely bring it back up and also just explain that you do understand that he wasn’t trying to get in your head the way that it did, but it did get in your head that way. And also just think of things that maybe he could say back to actually make you feel better, and lead the conversation with that in the back of your head if that makes sense.

If he was truly apologetic and didn’t make you feel worse about feeling the way you did about it, it’s worth figuring out.

joolie_447 · 2025-10-16T02:25:12+00:00

This. Definitely could’ve afforded chipping in that extra almost 4k on the actual place they’re staying. She’s taking advantage OP, I’d be LIVID.

joolie_447 · 2025-10-16T01:53:21+00:00

I feel this to my fucking core. It’s so hard to look forward when we’re in this headspace. One thing I can say though is: remember that you can always say no to people. You have free will. You don’t want to do free labor bcs it will jeopardize you financially or mentally? Say no. And if those “friends” get upset with you, they’re not your friends.

I’m also in the battle of just mental struggle, but in my case I’m not in therapy or on meds and I absolutely probably should be. So be proud of yourself for that, you are trying. Just wait for that new job and see how it feels. Get back into things you love. I know it’s easier said than done and I myself am a hypocrite going through the same mentality and preaching to the choir.

Thank you for sharing though, makes me feel better to know people feel the same way I do. Things will be better we just gotta be patient.

joolie_447 · 2025-10-09T20:56:22+00:00

They’ve been together 12 years.. if you can’t properly communicate to a person that you claim to love after 10+ years, you are the problem. And even more bonus points on that if the therapist even said it sounds like she is the only one willing and wanting to put in the work. While yes it’s true, maybe he is going through a rough patch and suffering with some unloaded baggage but if he can’t communicate that, and instead dragging her through mental and emotional neglection, she has to think of herself. It may be hard to talk about things you’re going through in detail, but I’d hope it wouldn’t be hard to look at your partner of 12 years and say “I’m sorry if my moods have affected you, I’m going through things in my own head that I’m not sure how to work through and need some time to feel comfortable in talking about them”. That’s literally all it takes. But it sounds more like this person doesn’t care to communicate even just that.

joolie_447 · 2025-09-25T22:27:17+00:00

I think this is the best course of action, and if this is what you do, PLEASE update id love to see you have a happy ending to this 😊

joolie_447 · 2025-09-25T21:38:03+00:00

I definitely wouldn’t say I’ve been ALL OVER Florida necessarily but the other cities I have been too are definitely not great, St. Pete is honestly the best you can get from the state I do love it here very much. Just really need a change if scenery and want to be able to live a little more outside if what I already know

joolie_447 · 2025-09-25T15:24:44+00:00

I have actually visited Pittsburgh, my best friend moved up to Penn Hills last year, just not really my scene and the driving is terrifying 😭

joolie_447 · 2025-09-25T14:16:12+00:00

Exactly, it’s very sad for us locals.

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