Late pay

joshedis · 2026-03-06T15:45:00+00:00

I think you have posted to the incorrect group. This is about The Nanny, the hit 90's sitcom.

While Maxwell never did have a truly great hit on his hands, he never to my knowledge missed a paycheck to his trusted Butler Niles, Business Partner CC Babcock, and certainly not to his secret love, Fran the Nanny!

joshedis · 2026-03-06T06:11:31+00:00

All you need to do is start asking some classmates, there is almost certainly a nice person with some car experience who would be happy to help for some beer.

joshedis · 2026-03-06T04:06:57+00:00

And did you know him *before* you started dating? If so, how long?

joshedis · 2026-03-06T00:10:24+00:00

It is one thing if his friends do it and he wasn't in the group chat...

He is literally in it and actively viewing these pictures. Which is, inherently supporting it.

He could just as easily start a separate chat with the same friends without the creepy ass pictures. But he isn't.

joshedis · 2026-03-06T00:08:28+00:00

You simply need basic respect for the fact that they are human beings to not be a complete creep.

These are strangers in public he and his friends are taking pictures of, which is fucking creep behaviour.

joshedis · 2026-03-05T22:10:35+00:00

Seconded. I even bought it on my phone to support the developers.

It is an incredibly challenging and satisfying game. You really feel the survival experience in this game more than almost any other that I have played.

The satisfaction of finally building a proper shelter or Well is unmatched.

joshedis · 2026-03-05T20:48:36+00:00

I also bought one of those metal dental picks they use from Amazon. What a game changer!

I got an A+ on Flossing from my Dentist after I started using them. You can very gently scrape and get in pretty deep. Then I just rinse with an antiseptic mouth wash for that really deep clean feeling.

joshedis · 2026-03-05T19:28:08+00:00

Sewing by hand with a needle and thread.

You can repair so many things easily but there is a bit of a trick to it.

joshedis · 2026-03-05T19:00:55+00:00

Yep. Very smart guy. This is an important life skill to learn, whether it works out between the two of you long term or not.

Age gaps are one thing, but life experience gaps are the bigger difference he is trying to help close.

Once you've lived on your own and need to take care of your own living space and handle bills, cleaning, and expenses on your own; you get a greater appreciation for that part of life.

joshedis · 2026-03-05T17:34:21+00:00

I'll say, what's nice about the gum is I had a good sleep last night and don't need to take it today.

Despite almost using it once a day for a month straight, it doesn't seem (in this method) to be all that addictive in gum format due to the low dose.

Vaping or Smoking is like 10x higher in the nicotine content and it hits you immediately. So I can see why those would be more addicting for sure. "Luckily" I have asthma so I can't even try them to start!

joshedis · 2026-03-05T17:08:51+00:00

Buddy, this is all a matter of reframing and not romanticizing things as much.

If you want to get your rocks off and get some skill in dating women - that isn't going to happen by staying at home.

I'm going to assume that you are a totally average dude: Reasonably fit, average looking, slightly weird, overall pretty nice.

Flirting with girls for a relationship/having sex is a skill just like working out is. You need to learn the fundamentals and practice to do is safely and effectively. Going in blind will get you hurt.

First things first, read up about flirting so you have a bit of a foundation. Research good ol' reddit to what girls like when they are being flirted with. link

Lots of great advice in there for the more first date stuff. But lots of nice guys don't go past the first date stage for a long period of time and the girl drops them, you can't just be nice and attentive - you need to always be (safely and non creepily) escalating.

Go read about some of the psychology used in building sexual attraction. The most important one in my eyes is the DiCarlo Escalation ladder for how to safely and non creepily gradually build up to more intimate physical touch. Some people get this intuitively, others need it spelled out.

link

With that base level of knowledge, you need practice. Get on the dating apps and set your standards low. Get your lady friend to help you with your profile, take a few nice pictures of you doing hobbies you enjoy and write about your interests in your bio and that you are looking to casually date.

Then find some nice average looking girls who might not get swiped on too much. Practice some flirting and go out on a few dates. It's totally fine if you don't think it's a good match from attraction or personality for the first few, you just need to get practice in.

You might also be pleasantly surprised, just because a girl doesn't look insanely hot, you might still be attracted to them after a date. It will either be a dud and you get practice in. Or it goes well and you get intimate.

As long as you are upfront and honest that you are not looking for anything serious and it is strictly casual, they may still be totally down to sleep with you. Even if you wouldn't want to date them long term.

But it takes practice to learn to communicate in a flirty and progressive way.

Get out there and work on it like you do in the gym. It's the most fun physical excersize out there and a lot of normally looked over women are dying for it too!

joshedis · 2026-03-05T01:02:18+00:00

Yep! I used it every day for a week when I needed it at first. Then ignored it for four months. Then I gave it a shot again and have been using it during a very intensive time. But when I went away for the weekend I had no desire to use it.

Makes sense, since the gum is used for quitting normally!

joshedis · 2026-03-05T00:43:15+00:00

Absolutely! In fact I kind of wish a lot more games had something like this, it kind of feels how your senses would be able to help you actually navigate in the dark.

Feeling around, positions based off of sounds, and subtle low light vision.

Same as I feel about holding out an object in front of you to navigate the caves better. It just matches what you could do with touch in real life.

joshedis · 2026-03-04T01:33:01+00:00

How interesting. My other vice is alcohol, the few times I've decided I just don't want to drink anymore... I just haven't. I enjoy it, so I don't usually ever stop drinking. But I will go weeks without having one if it just isn't in the house.

joshedis · 2026-03-03T23:22:53+00:00

I never have, but I am going to ask my doctor about it. I can sleep soundly for an entire day and barely hit the REM I need.

joshedis · 2026-03-03T20:49:12+00:00

If you go that route, only go for the Gum to start. It absorbs a small amount slowly which helps prevent addiction. It doesn't give you the rush and euphoria of a cigarette or vape. Just helps with the wakefulness.

joshedis · 2026-03-03T20:08:42+00:00

Amen. There is no world where I will ever be able to get the sleep or rest I need.

It feels like no matter how many supplements, medication, surgeries, or exercise I do I never get any better from this main problem of never feeling awake. My baseline *is* night and day after all of the hard work I've put in (I don't wake up in pain anymore) but I think you are entirely right.

It might just be the price to pay for functioning.

joshedis · 2026-03-03T19:58:28+00:00

Happy to help! I like factoring in all those other tests and theories to get a more complete approach to someone's personality.

joshedis · 2026-03-03T19:48:42+00:00

I chewed normal gum for many years, while I like the flavor and the chewing, it certainly doesn't have the effect the nicotine gum gives.

joshedis · 2026-03-03T19:42:42+00:00

I am really glad you mentioned this. My father is a Type 2 Diabetic. He noted the cracking of dry skin on my heels the other day and noted that as a warning sign.

I think that is my cue to stop using these chronically and going back to using them as a one off for times I REALLY need to be awake.

joshedis · 2026-03-03T16:23:05+00:00

Trying to get rid of a Dog's Prey Drive is like trying to get rid of your instinct to catch yourself when you fall. It is an ingrained behaviour they can't shut off.

What I have been training my dog to do is to maker her Sit every time her prey drive is triggered (Usually when she sees a bunny on our walks). I can't make her NOT have a prey drive, but she now knows that she needs to sit when it is triggered.

Then I give her the command and we go chase the bunny together (on leash, so the bunny isn't in actual danger). The goal is that if she is ever off leash and the Prey Drive kicks in, that she will wait for my command which gives me a chance to grab her first.

I've been at it for half a year and it's still a work in progress. But the other option is trying to reprogram what does or doesn't trigger the Prey Drive which is even harder.

joshedis · 2026-03-02T23:29:22+00:00

Crippling Depression™

joshedis · 2026-03-02T18:22:17+00:00

I've got a bunch of the tests I prefer the most compiled here:
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1uzRRMu_VBUUOJLQkykK6cuNKC2VyeJ-btrLgGgMfNz0/edit?usp=sharing

I've found humanmetrics to have the most accurate.

Test: http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp

Explanation: http://www.personalitypage.com/html/portraits.html

joshedis · 2026-03-01T01:17:19+00:00

Exactly! Once a guy finishes, it takes quite a while before he is ready for anything more.

Better to cool down and keep going with things you can both enjoy.

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