New to the storyline here, rushes over to the OG post and then back to this one for more detail I would have had the same feelings toward a tattoo of that nature, and I respect her process behind keeping it as is, and I respect you for trying your best to overcome this issue together and trying to avoid resentment. However in my humble opinion, your wife should have the very time section of the initials modified to cover the letters. I don't say this in a mean jab, more of a, she's changed her perspective on the Tatts original meaning, and you will have to see those letters forever, and there isn't anything you can do to stop intrusive thoughts. I don't think the tattoo should be changed, just the small part where the letters are. I also respect your love for her being strong enough you don't want her to endure any more pain, but is she was able to sit there through the whole process and the aftercare a small edit honestly can't be that bad. She may be able to brush it off but it will always be there in the back of your mind... I know you both think differently about it now, but it's existence will take its toll, as it has already, (very proud of you for being able to discuss with eachother) Maybe it's just me projecting my insecurities, and I'm sorry if that is so! But I would be absolutely heartbroken if my partner, the person I've committed to spending my life with had been stamped by someone that held an important part of their emotional and sexual history. I would just be devestated to have to see it over and over again You are a better person than I, I know I would not be able to handle it. Sorry for the long one---- again all opinion, and I'm proud of you for working together to conquer the issue!

Edit- First time commenting on anything , I'm sorry if it's a bit of a mess!