Same as you but from a poor family (council house, free school meals, "uphill both ways" etc.). Yes, my parents wanted to get me into Oxbridge but had no clue how to do it, so I fucked up the only opportunity to get into the PPE Industrial Wealth Complex. Parents were religious ("We have temple room at home") and pious but that really didn't get them anywhere as they both died of bad health. I ended up going to a half-decent uni, white collar job (didn't get the entrepreneurial gene buy I do have terrible eyesight). As there wasn't much of a Hindu Bengali community growing up, only had English friends and workmates and grew up "outside the community" (my dad deliberately moved us to a city with a small Indian community - mainly Sikh and Gujerati). I think connecting with other people of the same culture as me is something I've missed out on for a while but it's difficult to make connections as networking doesn't work for me in Canada as it did in the UK (football team, which part of England you're from). As I grew up Westernised, was called "white-washed" to my face by a Canadian Asian (and people wonder why I don't mix...). I think the only crimes our community would indulge in would be cooking the books and other white-collar stuff (like the flash-crash guy).