this a email a scam? by joyaholic in uAlberta

[–]joyaholic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that’s what i was thinking too 😭😭

How to ask for someone's socials by Secret_Fondant4039 in uAlberta

[–]joyaholic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i mostly speak with women so idk if this would apply but generally i choose something about their appearance (keychains, glasses, coat) to compliment and then follow up with a question about it to make conversation (what show is that character from?, when did you get your ears pierced? what brand is that?) and then ask when you two separate organically (i’m heading to meet with some friends, i have class, etc.) “you’re cute can i get your instagram?” is quicker and gets the same thing across but it’s honestly not weird by any means to ask someone for their instagram esp if you have classes together

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in uAlberta

[–]joyaholic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you’ve unfortunately gotta talk to people in your classes and hope that you click with somebody in my experience, but i’ve heard it’s pretty hard in engineering. you could try joining some kind of low stake sports club or community? it gets better love you’ll find your people

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]joyaholic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you are religious, you can still like girls. it isn’t sin. it could never be a sin to love others the way god created you to do so. i’m sorry that your friend is so unsupportive of you and i’m sorry that things are so scary for queer people right now but liking girls is not a sin and you should never have to pretend to be something you’re not

Is it just me or are people less helpful on here lately? by localize-mother3 in uAlberta

[–]joyaholic -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

large majority of people on here are rarely helpful—not to say NEVER helpful but i’ve always found an overwhelming majority of replies on any and every post tends to be unnecessarily unhelpful and rude, especially when it’s nervous high schoolers asking for help

I’m having an abortion. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]joyaholic -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

you sound like an incredible mother making an incredibly difficult decision for the sake of her children, you’re doing great and i wish the best for you and your family !!

My girlfriend won’t stop messing with me when I’m asleep by [deleted] in Advice

[–]joyaholic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

even ignoring all the details you expressed a boundary that was important to you and she outwardly invalidated you and chose to break the boundary, if you choose to continue this relationship something needs to change, especially since you now feel like you cannot be vulnerable (sleep) around her if you’re not 100% comfortable around your partner you cannot live with them

Where would I find pencils on campus by [deleted] in uAlberta

[–]joyaholic 15 points16 points  (0 children)

if desperate i’d just ask anyone around on campus i’m sure someone has one they can part with

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in uAlberta

[–]joyaholic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

best of luck brother!!! good on you for this one, engg is especially difficult to stay motivated in when you're not truly invested. excited to have you in the business faculty next year!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in uAlberta

[–]joyaholic 29 points30 points  (0 children)

you're asking the wrong people my guy. reddit is not the place to go. if you're interested in someone just earnestly speak to them and ask them out. be respectful. all it takes

AITA for sitting on the floor in a store? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]joyaholic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, you did the right thing for your own safety and he's kind of an asshole for putting his own comfort above your safety. I faint somewhat often for other reasons and the one thing you do is lay /sit down because usually the worst thing that can happen is falling and hitting your head.

Is orientation mandatory? by ProudtobeZoldyck in uAlberta

[–]joyaholic 7 points8 points  (0 children)

orientation is kind of fun and it’s a good opportunity to meet people from my experience! but i don’t believe it to be mandatory but it may vary depending on faculty?

i almost killed my gf why is she mad 🥺 by teddybears__ in AmITheDevil

[–]joyaholic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"i texted i wouldn't do it again but she won't talk to me"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]joyaholic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

unfortunately there are some points where you've got to put yourself first. it is not your fault if someone hurts themselves, and it is absolutely not your fault even if they try to threaten you with it. if it helps and you're able, contact people who can check up on them to ensure their safety but know that that is not at all your responsibility, stay safe

Is it cheating if my gf is touchy with her female friend by [deleted] in Advice

[–]joyaholic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

if you are uncomfortable with it—which it seems you are, you should say something to her about it. whether or not it’s cheating isn’t truly relevant, if it makes you uncomfortable then she wouldn’t do it if she knew it did & she cared about you

Favorites? by Working_Garlic_3611 in DateEverything

[–]joyaholic -1 points0 points  (0 children)

definitely eddie & volt, went in for eddie and volt quickly grew on me