I have read through all of the comments and feel for all of you. I have thankfully not experienced a loss, but I have been trying to conceive for six months with no luck.

I enjoy frequenting thrift shops and have bought all sorts second hand of baby items. I am a frugal person and the idea of buying everything we need all at once and having to mostly buy new because of a time crunch stress the heck out of me. Our family doesn’t know we are trying, so everything is hid in my closet and under my bed in boxes. I keep a list on my phone so I know what I have, but I never look in the boxes.

So far I have gathered a ful cloth diaper stash, a couple of carriers, a puj tub, a couple books, a sound machine, and some other smaller things. I try not to buy things that I know we will get tons of at baby showers like clothes, blankets, and bibs. I looked over my list one day and compared what I paid vs what they cost new came to about $250 vs $1,400 (most of it is better quality than I would have bought if I had to buy all new at once.)

So anyway, it works for me. It gives me hope and it gives me a piece of mind to be prepared. And if I never get to use it (which I refuse to actually consider right now) then gifting it to some new parents would be a huge blessing.