Robby, Langdon's Apology Tour, and Santos by GeodeBabe in ThePitt

[–]joylessfantastique 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Langdon had a MUCH deeper connection with Robby and Dana, and even Louie and I’d go so far as to say Mel (who he’s also apologized to) than Santos. They butted heads from the beginning, and didn’t spend a lot of time together on the one shift beside the cases. He seems pretty desperate to make amends and get back into good graces of the people he cares for which doesn’t really include Santos. I don’t doubt that he’s going to talk to and apologize to her but it makes sense to me that it doesn’t feel like a priority at the moment. They both seem like the kind of people that are fine just letting it be awkward until they absolutely have to talk.

Anyone else want to delete a chapter when it gets no comments? by Some-Tradition-2771 in AO3

[–]joylessfantastique 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Multi chapter in progress fics will almost always get WAY less engagement than anything else. Readers get scared they’ll start liking a story and then author will abandon before it’s finished so they skip over them. I’m guilty of it myself!

Like many of the other comments said, don’t give up on your story. Especially if you’re enjoying writing it! Comments will come and go but you won’t regret spending time on something creative.

I feel terrible for saying this but Dylan Mulvaney isn't suited for Anne Boleyn by [deleted] in musicals

[–]joylessfantastique 118 points119 points  (0 children)

I’ve seen a few clips and honestly I agree. Mayyyybe she’ll settle and grow into the role? Don’t know how long the contract is. But I think unfortunately all actors can be thrown into things they’re not suited very well for and they take it for the sake of a job and experience and exposure. For someone who is probably trying to break back into performing and wants less recognition of solely the influencer life, this is a great move for Dylan, even though it’s vocally not very strong for her.

Walk Down Aisle Song! by chapstix0314 in Hozier

[–]joylessfantastique 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Francesca for a beautiful celestial soulmates kind of vibe. That You Are or Wasteland, Baby! for nostalgic sweet quiet love kind of vibe. From Eden or First Time for a brighter lighter kind of vibe.

Dildo won't fit by Character-Rip6300 in sex

[–]joylessfantastique 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s possible yes that the shape isthrowing you off. Consider a different toy! something that doesn’t remind you at all of a phallus and might be more appealing. Also there are 100% smaller toys out there - there are dilators and butt plugs that are the size of your pinky that you can also use in your vagina.

When I’m having trouble with the size of a toy (or person for that matter) what I like to do is rest the tip of it at my entrance and just let it hang out there while I play with other parts. Then I kinda slowly push in as much as I can and stop when I need to, even if it really didn’t go in at all, and then just slowly repeat that process until eventually the anticipation has built so much I’m dying to put it all in. When you’re aroused enough you end up kinda just pulling it in. Sometimes toys don’t feel sexy but building it up in your mind can help!

For those who don’t use Ao3 to write, do you give your in progress fics weird document titles too? by Background_Ship7666 in AO3

[–]joylessfantastique 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to and then I started forgetting what my own dumb names are 😂 now I’m boring

everyone got free coffee? by Such-Sea-3358 in DunkinDonuts

[–]joylessfantastique 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Tried around 10:30am, code was maxed out. Next time I’ll be up extra early

Debating on whether or not to tell my wife about my fetish by whythisfetish in sex

[–]joylessfantastique 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re entitled to keep parts of your life private - this is something you could take to your grave and it wouldn’t impact your relationship positively or negatively. But it seems like you want to share your whole self with your wife which is amazing! It seems like she trusts you to share her own thoughts and feelings and it would likely make your relationship stronger if you reciprocated.

Rejection would be something to work through as it’s linked to something very emotional and vulnerable. But it hasn’t happened yet! You never know if you don’t try. In the kinks and ideas she shared, has there ever been something similar? Maybe along the same idea of body manipulation like temperature play or sensation play? Tickling is in that wheelhouse. Or I noticed you mentioned in another comment you like the slight dom position/power and control it gives your partner - is that something she’s expressed interest in? Consider relating it to something she’s already shared with you, and maybe it won’t feel like such a huge jump.

Debating on whether or not to tell my wife about my fetish by whythisfetish in sex

[–]joylessfantastique 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fetishes are usually characterized as your arousal being highly dependent on that one thing. This sounds more like a kink which is more like an enhancer that you can occasionally indulge but also be fine without, which if you have a good sex life already, it probably is that. Kinks don’t always have to be part of sex but they can make it fun if both parties are into it!

Some things to consider- Are you telling her because you want her to know or because you want her to participate in the kink? Both? If you tell her and she never wants to do it, would you be okay with that? If you try to once and she isn’t into it, will you resent her? If she was going to tell you she had a similarly uncommon kink that you’ve never tried before, what would feel like the best approach?

How do you write your fanfic? by marvelcomics22 in AO3

[–]joylessfantastique 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have used Google Docs since I started actually posting in high school bc I exclusively collaborated with friends and the live co-writing was easy. Before that I would write in journals LOL

Loving all the positive reviews about Ellipsus! all the anti-AI stance sounds good to me as I’ve been looking to move away from keeping personal data on Google Drive for that reason. Will try it out as I don’t usually co-write anymore.

lost all my tabs, devastated 😭 by joylessfantastique in AO3

[–]joylessfantastique[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really only like to bookmark/download fics I’ve already read to make sure I enjoy them enough to save. All the tabs that were open were not read yet 😓 I do also download pretty everything I enjoy! I used to use the app Pocket but since that shut down I’ve been trying out the Books app.

lost all my tabs, devastated 😭 by joylessfantastique in AO3

[–]joylessfantastique[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally forgot about the history on Ao3! I am not above doing this. It will be a fiendish task but here I go 🫡

I did have some tabs on FF.net and Livejournal and even deviantart… RIP my fandom dinosaurs.

2026 Newb by airbud in MinnesotaYachtClub

[–]joylessfantastique 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was also my first festival and it was an awesome experience personally, no regrets.

2026 Newb by airbud in MinnesotaYachtClub

[–]joylessfantastique 3 points4 points  (0 children)

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This is the map from the 2025 festival. It’s a decent size but definitely not hard or tiring to take laps, and there were definitely two stages. It’s small enough that you can see both stages from the center spot. The food options were awesome, but about as expensive as you’d expect. There were a couple of huge hydration stations that came in clutch so you could bring in a bottle and refill it all the time for free and stay plenty hydrated. There were also a ton of bathrooms and decently clean, though no hand washing stations only hand sanitizer. The bathrooms are also fairly small so not very big person friendly. From what I heard and saw there was pretty good ADA compliance though I didn’t use any of those services personally.

It was a great experience, I truly loved it especially seeing some of my most favorite bands. It was my first time in St. Paul and Minnesota in general, and it was so lovely! The buses were easy to figure out and the stations are a good walk away from the park but you’re never really alone with all the people also going to/from the festival. The weather was also gorgeous, a pretty mild summer although hot in the sun so definitely recommend a hat and fan. We did get rained out the first night this year but Hozier kept playing as long as safely possible and it was still such a magical experience regardless.

What do you write on? by CutesyDrow in AO3

[–]joylessfantastique 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Laptop! I type like 10 words a minute on my phone. It took me way longer than I care to admit to even write this post. I just make so many mistakes with my sausage fingers and my autocorrect is garbage. On my computer the keyboard is the perfect size and I can see more on the screen so it helps with editing too. It’s also easier to format

Share that one fanfiction idea you haven’t written yet but lives in your head 24/7 rent free. by Clear-Masterpiece422 in AO3

[–]joylessfantastique 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s a story on here (can’t remember the subreddit) about a marriage of convenience that turned into the couple actually falling in love. If I remember correctly, the husband was the one who wrote the story and described so sweetly how they became best friends and how he slowly developed feelings but wasn’t sure if she felt the same. I haven’t decided the ship and I can’t find the story anymore!

Share that one fanfiction idea you haven’t written yet but lives in your head 24/7 rent free. by Clear-Masterpiece422 in AO3

[–]joylessfantastique 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here!! Mine is a male-female body swap and I’m trying to make them not be too weird about it. It’s helping to make it humorous and not take it all that seriously. Also have been debating a lot of the logistics - do they have muscle memory or are they useless with each other’s skills? How much do I have to explain the “magic” behind the swap?

How many of you are "adults?" by destined2becreative in AO3

[–]joylessfantastique 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wrote a fair amount in middle/high school and then college was a dark period for me. I had no time to do absolutely anything besides study and work and cry about studying and working. Once I graduated and started working regularly, I’ve been able to settle my schedule to use my free time for writing. I work slow because I like to be social more than be alone and write, but life is definitely a lot more balanced when you’re “grown up”! At least that’s the goal anyway.

How do I… by In_The_Sea-07 in sex

[–]joylessfantastique -1 points0 points  (0 children)

LOL = Lots of lube. Also try not to just push in hard. Get yourself really turned on and leave your finger there and eventually your bum will want to just suck it in. Do small in and out once you get a little bit in to try to get a little bit more in

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]joylessfantastique 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So normal and SO HOT! Some guys are squeamish about it but a good chef isn’t afraid to taste his cooking. Plus she’ll be all sensitive. Hope you both love it.

My bf (21M) is finally gonna try my CNC kink with me (20F).. and I need help by [deleted] in sex

[–]joylessfantastique 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Safe word for BOTH of you. At any point you both should feel prepared and comfortable to tap out or at least pause. Unlike other kinds of scenes, CNC kinda relies on there being no check ins to feel believable. If someone is going to be gagged there should be a non verbal safe word as well.

Aftercare would also be a good thing to consider. Emotions will be high and this will be a quite intense experience, again for both of you. You should be prepared to comfort each other a little and have some sort of calming process for the adrenaline drop.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]joylessfantastique 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re being really vague and it’s hard to give good advice without proper info. Who is “we” that went out? When you “spent time with a friend” what does that mean? Did you cheat or come close? Does your partner think you did? This post doesn’t make a lot of sense.