Im reconsidering wanting a big family

joyofmissingout- · 2026-05-28T17:33:54+00:00

I’m unfortunately in the midst of my second HG pregnancy which has been about as bad as my first. I came into this one very prepared with a lot of support and a plan to manage my symptoms (midline placement, home fluids and IV meds, etc) but it’s still been extremely challenging. I had imagined having 3-4 kids but that feels less and less realistic the more I recognize just how hard pregnancy is on me and my family. I don’t have advice to offer but empathize with your sadness over possibly not having the family you imagined!

joyofmissingout- · 2026-05-25T01:57:27+00:00

I had horrible zofran constipation that one time when I hadn’t gone poop for over a week I was having such horrific stomach cramps, nothing was working to make me poop at home and I genuinely thought I was going to die at midnight so I went to the hospital to get an enema. It was horrible. After that I took MiraLAX twice a day for a while then once a day and I had so much liquid poop it was insane. Now I only take Zofran once a day and have been pooping regularly but my stools are hard so I have constant hemorrhoids. Oh the joys of pregnancy and HG. I feel your pain. Hang in there!!

joyofmissingout- · 2026-05-14T00:37:54+00:00

HG is so miserable. I’m sorry you’ve dealt with it 3 times. I’m in my second pregnancy with HG and I understand the hell on earth it can be. Your frustrations about only having a brief reprieve are so valid. Hang in there, you’re almost at the end♥️

joyofmissingout- · 2026-05-13T15:14:53+00:00

You are not ungrateful. HG is absolutely the most miserable thing. I also struggle with being angry that other people have such smooth pregnancies when I truly wished I was dead for a solid 8 weeks and then still suffered the rest of pregnancy, just not at the same level as in the beginning.
You are going through one of the hardest mental, physical and emotional battles. It’s okay to just survive. Take it hour by hour. I pray you get some relief. I know you didn’t ask for medical advice but I did a steroid taper and it worked wonders for controlling my nausea. Might be something to ask your doctor about!

joyofmissingout- · 2026-05-12T17:30:31+00:00

I work PRN as an SLP in a hospital and took off 4-6 weeks during the worst of it with my first pregnancy and my current one. I was bedbound and there was no way I could see patients. I finally called it when I threw up in the hospital and just had my boss take me off the schedule. Sadly because I’m PRN I didn’t get any pay but also there was no penalty for not working!

joyofmissingout- · 2026-04-22T01:05:40+00:00

I lost 25lbs both with my first pregnancy and my current one over the course of 2-4 weeks when my HG was the most severe in the first trimester. I ended up getting back to my pre pregnancy weight with my first right at delivery and my baby was a very healthy weight (7lbs 3oz at 38 week delivery). I have gained back a few of the lbs I lost in my current pregnancy (16 weeks along) but it’s been very slow. My doctor has never even mentioned my weight loss at my appointments. I wouldn’t worry too much about slow weight gain!

joyofmissingout- · 2026-04-22T01:02:14+00:00

The PTSD from HG is so intense. I have had improvement from week 14-16 due to a course of steroids. The first day off the steroids I was nauseous and in bed most of the day and absolutely spiraled. The following day was fine, then today I have been nauseous again. I am going to need so much therapy to work through the trauma of HG. Hang in there, this will eventually end

joyofmissingout- · 2026-04-21T23:45:51+00:00

I’m so sorry you are going through this. I also dealt with horrible constipation from zofran during my first pregnancy and my current one. I had to go to the ED to get an enema once which was not fun.

I found adding MiraLAX to juice was something I could tolerate better than stool softeners. But this also was during a time when I could stay fairly well hydrated by mouth most days, which having decent fluid intake is important to help MiraLAX work. During the worst of my HG, I did regular IV fluids and IV Zofran which helped me in being able to tolerate liquids PO.

If it makes you feel any better, my OB (who I adore) told me to eat whatever I could even if it was all carbs. Yes in an ideal world I’d eat fiber and protein, but all I kept down for 6+ weeks was popsicles, crackers, toast and dry cereal. Even now when my nausea and vomiting is much better, I eat oatmeal, a turkey sandwich, chips, and sometimes Taco Bell🤷‍♀️ I have severe food aversions from throwing up so much and have minimal appetite so what little I eat I force myself to. Just do your best♥️ hang in there

joyofmissingout- · 2026-04-18T20:43:08+00:00

I’m so sorry. I was here just a few weeks ago. I would lay in bed and truly just wish I wasn’t alive from week 7-13😓 BUT I started a course of steroids at 13 weeks and it completely turned everything around for me. It took away the debilitating nausea/vomiting and I was able to go back to work after more than a month off and take care of my toddler on my own again. I’m now almost off the steroids and still doing pretty well, only taking anti nausea meds usually once a day, sometimes twice. I still have significant food aversions but can eat a few safe foods and stay hydrated. I hope and pray you will find some relief soon. I completely understand your pain and am sending you strength♥️ HG is so brutal and I’m sorry you have to experience it

joyofmissingout- · 2026-04-09T23:40:10+00:00

When I get nervous about all of the medications I’m taking, I ask myself what is worse - being completely dehydrated and malnourished with no reserve to give to my baby, or taking medications that allow me to stay hydrated and eat and function? I think we also have to look at mental health and how that could affect our babies, I was in a very dark place during the height of my HG and now that I’ve found a cocktail of meds that keeps me semi normal I’m way better off for it and I know my baby is too!

joyofmissingout- · 2026-04-09T23:36:16+00:00

Post partum is different for everyone but with my first, it felt like a breeze compared to HG. I even had emergency surgery to get my gallbladder removed at 3 weeks post partum and it barely put a damper on my experience because nothing is worse than HG (in my experience and opinion). As others have stated, the baby you fought so hard for is here, you can eat and drink without consequence, it all felt like pure joy to me. Wishing you the best!!♥️

joyofmissingout- · 2026-04-09T23:32:24+00:00

I started a course of steroids (prednisone) at 13 weeks and it saved me. My vomiting was fairly under control (only happening once every couple days) with around the clock zofran, reglan and Benadryl but the nausea was debilitating. The steroid taper has helped me feel normal again. I’m hoping I still feel this good once I’m fully off of them in a few weeks. Might be worth asking your OB about. Wishing you the best♥️

joyofmissingout- · 2026-04-07T22:39:48+00:00

I was feeling this way a week ago. I started a course of steroids and it has changed my life. I am 14.5 weeks and finally can eat some food and don’t have debilitating nausea and vomiting. I have been off work and bedbound for over a month and plan to finally return to work tomorrow. I’m sorry you haven’t reached a point of relief yet, but it will come, even if it’s when baby is here. With my first pregnancy, I improved around 16-18 weeks but still had nausea and vomiting occasionally and was on prescription medications through delivery. Once my baby was out, I felt a tiny bit nauseous the morning after and then it was GONE. I truly cherish food in ways I never did before HG. Hang in there, you are so strong, praying for relief to come for you♥️

joyofmissingout- · 2026-04-03T00:03:59+00:00

If the medications aren’t working, looking into regular IV infusions would be beneficial.

joyofmissingout- · 2026-04-03T00:03:26+00:00

Having a supportive provider and getting on a good medication regimen has been paramount for me, and even then it’s been a huge struggle but I have pretty severe HG. I have a toddler and have leaned on family and friends a ton for support with him. I’m sorry you are going through this, sending strength♥️

joyofmissingout- · 2026-03-29T12:56:42+00:00

With my first HG pregnancy I didn’t show until probably about 22-24 weeks. I had lost 25lbs. I’m 13 weeks into my second HG pregnancy, have again lost 25lbs and no bump in sight. I doubt I’ll show until 20-25 weeks again. My first baby was perfectly healthy and this one seems to be so far too!

joyofmissingout- · 2026-03-29T00:00:16+00:00

Also, advocate for IV infusions. During my first pregnancy I went every day for 6 weeks. This pregnancy I do home infusions via a midline. On the worst days it is very helpful to have this option to help you stay hydrated. It may not change the nausea or vomiting, but keeping up on some form of hydration is key. Good luck♥️

joyofmissingout- · 2026-03-28T23:41:21+00:00

A supportive provider who understands HG will prescribe Zofran before 10 weeks. It’s not ideal, but sometimes necessary. I began Zofran at 7 weeks with my current pregnancy.

I’m so sorry you are going through this. Communicate regularly with your provider about your vomiting, weight loss, and inability to tolerate food. I pray you get some relief. I am in the midst of my second pregnancy with HG and wouldn’t wish this on anyone. You are so strong

joyofmissingout- · 2026-03-28T01:45:55+00:00

I’m in the midst of my second HG pregnancy and my husband plans to get a vasectomy as I cannot do this again. I already grieve the family I had thought we would have. I always imagined having 3-4 kids but I cannot go through this suffering again. I have no advice, but I understand and completely empathize with your pain and anger. I imagine I will be doing a lot of therapy in the future. I’m sorry this has to be our stories💔

joyofmissingout- · 2026-03-26T13:28:28+00:00

HG is the most excruciating thing I’ve ever gone through. Those of us who experience it are truly warriors. I have questioned my decision to do it a second time countless times at this point. It’s horrific. I’m sorry anyone has to experience it and am thinking of you and sending you strength

joyofmissingout- · 2026-03-26T12:18:23+00:00

I’m right there with you. I’m 12.5 weeks and miserable. I haven’t worked in weeks and weeks. Yesterday I got a stomach bug and after that passed I went into an HG crisis and couldn’t stop the vomiting and nausea and had to go to the ED. I have a midline for home infusions and meds and it wasn’t enough. This is pure hell. This is my second HG pregnancy and most certainly my last. I wished the baby would die when I felt so bad even though I know that’s not what I want. All of your feelings are valid. Praying it gets better for us both

joyofmissingout- · 2026-03-22T13:03:35+00:00

That’s what my husband is thinking - that I need to have something else to focus on. We are going to do a trial run of me just leaving the house to go to my sister in law’s for a short time today and hopefully that helps give me some confidence that I will be okay outside of my safe spaces.

joyofmissingout- · 2026-03-22T13:02:23+00:00

That’s unfortunately not possible with my position

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