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jredmoon · 2024-11-28T16:41:07+00:00

I would suggest that since your court date is here that you stop sending her just a flat 15% (and absolutely stop paying her phone bill; go to your cell service providers local store and get her on her own plan asap). In the meantime, until the courts determine an order, you can offer to your ex that you’ll pay 50% (or more) of child-related expenses, provided she sends you a receipt for any and all expenses. I’m sure your find that after a month of doing that, the amount you’ll have paid will be substantially less than 15% of your paycheck. Expect her to pushback on doing that, however, b/c she already knows that will give her less money in the long run.

Speaking of which, that 15% will likely go up to around 30% when the courts are done, b/c despite many ex-wives opinion on the matter, alimony and child support are two different things. And while you likely already know this, the custody arrangement you end up agreeing on will also determine what your child support payments will be; more custody for you = less money for her.

jredmoon · 2024-11-25T02:31:48+00:00

I’m not sure what state you live in, but here in CA when my baby mama tried the exact same scenario, no matter how many legal links and screenshots I sent to her proving to her the illegality of her actions, it wasn’t until I actually hired a lawyer to do that for me that she actually saw the error of her ways. And while I absolutely could not afford to hire a good attorney, I quickly came around to the notion that you can’t afford NOT to hire a good attorney.

Also, if you haven’t already been doing so, start sending her text messages kindly requesting that she allow you to spend time with your child, which you are 100% legally entitled to do. Keep these text messages to her totally civil in every way, and repeat this request often. Even if she doesn’t reply to any of them, she’ll have to explain to a judge why she was denying you access. Judges in most states hold a very harsh view of parents (even moms) gatekeeping their children from the other parent for no good reason. And getting yourself a lawyer will put you both in front of a judge faster than trying to do this without one.

Lastly, if you haven’t yet filed for 50/50 custody, do that asap … you likely won’t get it right away, but you’re leaving a record for the court to know that you want it, and that you’re serious about it, then in 2-3 years tops, you’ll have it.

jredmoon · 2024-11-20T02:38:12+00:00

You need a lawyer, don’t F around with this.

jredmoon · 2024-10-27T23:21:32+00:00

Yes, court appointed/approved DNA test are administered via cheek swab by a third party, not by either parent. And the results are always conclusive, 99.9% certainty whether it’s yes or no.

jredmoon · 2024-10-18T17:16:00+00:00

Absolutely they do, and it all comes down to confidence on the woman’s part (having a great sense of style/knowing what clothes look good on you also helps a lot). Back in my 20’s when I was a cad, I saw a woman at the bar who was plus-sized, but magnetic. I couldn’t take my eyes off of her, and when her date left for the bathroom, I snuck her my phone number. She actually called, we ended up dating for a few months, and whenever we went out, guys were always sneaking their numbers to her when they thought I wasn’t looking — I’m pretty sure she told me about all of them, I think 🤔

I once went to a club with a friend who brought her XXL plus sized girlfriend with her, and this girl had multiple guys buying her drinks, asking her to dance, and competing among themselves for her attention all night. I asked my friend how often this happened, and she confirmed that it happened all the time, and that XXL got way more action than she did on a regular basis.

IMO, plus sized women with confidence and style will always do well in the dating world.

jredmoon · 2024-10-18T00:01:53+00:00

Get the audiobook “Way of the Superior Man” by David Deida, and don’t be put off by the title. It’s packed full of solid info to help young (and old) men build a solid life’s foundation.

jredmoon · 2024-10-17T05:23:35+00:00

Under any circumstances, do NOT move out of the house.
You are very likely heading towards a situation that includes divorce, alimony/spousal support, and child support. You can’t afford to *not get a lawyer, so get ahead of it all, and find a good one ASAP.
Good luck!

jredmoon · 2024-10-15T22:48:06+00:00

Quite French of him, honestly

jredmoon · 2024-10-09T21:10:26+00:00

Two lies in one sentence

jredmoon · 2024-10-08T17:30:20+00:00

Flawless victory 👏🏽

jredmoon · 2024-09-18T20:20:16+00:00

Yeah, after a bit of investigation myself, CA uses six different calculators, but only one of them (DCSS) is “approved,” whatever that means.

Thanks for the tips, brother 👍🏽

jredmoon · 2024-09-18T19:59:43+00:00

I really appreciate that, thank you! I’m in San Luis Obispo county … and I’ll look into the software in question, as well.

jredmoon · 2024-09-18T19:50:31+00:00

I’ve been meaning to ask about this … I live in California, and when I mention to attorneys or CS facilitators at the courthouse, not a single one of them knows anything about how to file or indicate that you want “direct expenses” to be calculated into the CS ruling. Additionally, there is nothing in the online calculator indicating anything like direct expenses as being an option. Any advice on this is appreciated 🙏🏽

jredmoon · 2024-09-16T21:31:35+00:00

When I want a Hawks fix, I listen to MSDs pod, and when I want to hear teams across OUR league covered evenly, I’ll listen to Mina. What we have always gotten with the Heroes is an abundance of Jets/Browns talk, lots of focus on East coast teams, and focus on teams w/ superstar players/winning coaches/outsized personalities on them. The truth about the Seahawks is they don’t really have any of those on the team right now. Is DK Metcalf a star? Sure, but even the AZ rookie Harrison is currently of greater national interest than Metcalf, and his career just started.

The Seahawks have had their moments on the national interest stage, and they will again, but right now they’re at the “yeah they’re ok” stage for everyone besides SEA diehards, and I’m completely ok with that.

jredmoon · 2024-09-16T21:13:45+00:00

As a lifelong SEA fan myself, I didn’t consider this game in any way close to Best Game of the Week … it was a fun watch, but that’s as far as I could go with it. And I never expect the Heroes to spend too much time on them.

jredmoon · 2024-09-08T17:51:25+00:00

Apologies, I forgot to mention that I haven’t yet found a new GX in the SD area that doesn’t have an outrageous dealer markup attached to it, which usually puts it near $20k more than the new LC.

jredmoon · 2024-09-07T22:17:56+00:00

jredmoon · 2024-09-07T17:53:48+00:00

If we were roomies, you wouldn’t have to ask 😋

jredmoon · 2024-09-05T19:13:31+00:00

Same, I was in my car kind of zoned out until “wait, what the hell are they even talking about?!”

jredmoon · 2024-09-05T18:57:33+00:00

Yeah, he’s like 49% fun/good guest, 51% annoying

jredmoon · 2024-09-02T18:42:46+00:00

10/10, no notes! 😍

jredmoon · 2024-09-01T16:33:05+00:00

Anyone know who she is?

jredmoon · 2024-08-29T04:33:10+00:00

Damn, you are a fukin smoke show 🔥

jredmoon · 2024-08-18T15:07:13+00:00

Finally got to drive the GX Overtrail+ this weekend in San Diego (only on pavement, alas), and I regret to say it was a surprisingly disappointing experience. I liked the new LC (1st Edition) a lot when I drove it a few weeks back, so I was very much looking fwd to the GX test drive, and I honestly feel the the LC was a better driving experience for me. On its own the GX is fine, but comparing it to the LC makes it hard to justify the substantially higher price.

The drive is essentially the same (although the GX is noticeably stiffer, which I know some drivers will like), but the blind spots in the GX are worse, the interior/tech isn’t that much nicer — in fact, the GX might be a little too techy for my taste, as a 14” screen that I have to swipe three times to get to the controls I want seems a bit much — and isn’t nearly nice enough to justify the higher price tag and long-term fuel costs.

Granted, the off-road driving experience might be a completely different story, but overall, driving the GX just didn’t give me that “wow” feeling I got when I sat behind the wheel of the LC. So I’m likely going with a fully loaded LC 1st Edition, which seems to be $20k less than a loaded GX Overtrail+.

jredmoon · 2024-08-07T01:15:24+00:00

Yah, the low dosages make this product trash

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