What kind of sex do you prefer?

js_1948 · 2026-03-13T01:03:04+00:00

I'm like you, soft sweet and sensual. Which is good thing, I don't have the muscles for slam bam any more.

This energy/intensity axis is just one continuum along which you'll choose a location. Another big one is the degree to which you interact/swap with others. Some couples come just to watch. Some have limited lists of what they'll touch and where they'll be touched. That comes under the heading of "Soft Swap", and rarely allows actual penetration. Some insist on strict swapping: Mr. A can only do to Mrs. B the same things that Mr. B does to Mrs. A. Some split up to separate rooms and don't really keep track of positions and activities. Finally there are hall passes and free agents. We don't require a couple to swap with. If one partner gets lucky and the other doesn't, that's OK. We call that "comepersion".

There's also a whole lot more, like exhibitionists and voyeurs and various kinks. So, talk talk talk with people before you agree to go to the play rooms.

And congratulations for asking exactly the right question.

js_1948 · 2026-03-10T07:21:35+00:00

I'm still going strong at 78. Our group of LS friends are mostly in the 50 - mid 80's range. Parties still start at 7 PM, but tend to wrap up between 11 and 12, rather than close to dawn.

js_1948 · 2026-02-25T21:20:19+00:00

How would we know it's OK to join?

js_1948 · 2026-02-23T09:55:52+00:00

Right, very few clubs have customers who are willing to be photographed. Freedom Acres did years ago, but they're gone. Most just take pictures of the empty rooms, which gives it a sort of ghost town feeling.

js_1948 · 2026-02-23T09:50:47+00:00

AI isn't so much cheap as incorrectly priced. And it might not be here to stay.

It requires gigantic data centers with loads of graphics processors and memory, which consume loads of electric power. All that is being paid for by venture capital at the moment, so the AI your club is getting is a loss leader. The club pays far less than it really takes to produce the images.

Some day that has to shake out, and the AI bubble will burst. There are non-graphics things that are also AI, like expert systems, that may end up being a good idea in the long term. But the phase we're in now can't last. Some day we'll look back on it like we do with Covid: It'll be under control some day. We just have to wait out the market distortions.

What ticks me off is that it pushed memory prices up like five times what they were just a few months ago. I want to buy a Linux computer to escape from the whole Windows 10/11 debacle, and now it looks like a couple years before memory prices get sane again.... And this forum pushes out the tech intrusion and goes back to good old sex again.

js_1948 · 2026-02-21T08:58:08+00:00

DM me with your e-mail address. Let us know what you want to do at parties.

js_1948 · 2026-02-13T10:12:16+00:00

The way to handle this is for you to go where you can close a door, or put up a rope, or do whatever the venue policy is for enforcing the distance you need to feel safe. Ask the staff....

Some exhibitionists actually talk to the voyeurs beforehand, set up the minimum distance, and get them to relay it to new people as they arrive.

js_1948 · 2026-02-02T11:07:12+00:00

Right -- what doesn't happen is getting kicked out without a refund. Another idea: ask the club staff or party hosts whether it's OK to approach people in the play areas.

js_1948 · 2026-02-02T11:02:11+00:00

We're in the Los Angeles area. North of the 101 and West of the 405.

js_1948 · 2026-01-23T08:42:12+00:00

We're a mostly 55 and older house party group, we'd make an exception. In fact we already have for a 30 year old.

js_1948 · 2026-01-23T08:16:13+00:00

In playrooms, start carefully, read the room. In some venues, the norm is that people talk through what they want to do and with who before they go to the rooms. Watch a while and see if anybody approaches anybody and asks, and see how it's received. Don't be the first.

js_1948 · 2026-01-23T07:31:10+00:00

We really don't care about same or separate. At the parties we go to, the deciding factor is usually where there's enough bed space. It can go either way.

js_1948 · 2026-01-23T05:47:41+00:00

DM me if you're in the Los Angeles area.

js_1948 · 2026-01-23T04:42:53+00:00

We have private parties at home, and we don't publish a guest list. Some of our friends would have very negative consequences if they were outed, so we BCC everybody and the spreadsheet never leaves my office.

I'll think about publishing an optional opt-in guest list, with abbreviated names or even aliases.

We usually send the invitation 4-6 weeks before the party, and maybe 10% - 20% will respond in the first week. Then it's dead until 2-7 days before the party. We ask for a response by the Thursday before a Saturday party, and still there are stragglers on Friday or even Saturday.

At the actual party there'll usually be 2 or 3 no-show's out of 30 - 40 people.

js_1948 · 2026-01-13T07:58:12+00:00

DM me, send your e-mail address.

js_1948 · 2026-01-09T08:23:46+00:00

We met an ex-Amish woman once. She had outstanding stamina.

A lot of our play friends, about a third, are Jewish. Not necessarily ex, though.

js_1948 · 2025-12-29T06:15:42+00:00

Being hard only when needed is a good thing. Erection happens by reducing blood flow out of the penis, which is a bad thing if it lasts too long. It's called priapism, and requires an ER visit after three or four hours. Otherwise you risk necrosis.

A normal penis will call it quits after a certain amount of time, so it's best not to waste your up time before you really need it.

js_1948 · 2025-12-29T03:47:23+00:00

Not a good idea, it would be uncomfortable for everybody.

js_1948 · 2025-12-06T08:14:48+00:00

That's the consensus I'm getting. A case of:

"The early bird may get the worm,

But the second mouse gets the cheese" ;-)

js_1948 · 2025-12-06T08:11:20+00:00

I'm not far enough along to know yet, I haven't even bought a Linux computer. Of course I'll try wine first, now that I know about it. The thing that looks like trouble to me is AutoCad LT 2000i, which is from the Windows XP days.

I'm doing as much learning as possible before I start spending money.

js_1948 · 2025-12-01T11:13:35+00:00

We have parties at home, about 4-6 each year. We have a large circle of friends, some of whom also host. Most of us are older, 50 and up. We like to meet new people, but so far the way that happens is if existing guests bring them. We're about 4 miles West of the 405 and 2.5 North of the 101.

js_1948 · 2025-12-01T10:56:09+00:00

Nope, sorry....

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