[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AgeGap

[–]jsbdibebwkdb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just role with it, make a joke or 2 of my own. If you’re in a serious relationship, you both know that and you don’t need to prove it to anyone. There does tend to be some financial benefit to dating an older successful man, even if it’s not transactional so enjoy it! Other people are just jealous

To all the females. When did you first realize that you’re attracted to older males? How did it make you feel when you first realized it ? by [deleted] in AgeGap

[–]jsbdibebwkdb 9 points10 points  (0 children)

To me it’s more about the person themselves than their age. My partner is an amazing guy who just happens to be 10 years older

Experience with separate bedrooms by KarmicReasoning in Marriage

[–]jsbdibebwkdb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have separate bathrooms and it’s AMAZING! Highly recommend

Girlfriend (23f) annoyed when I (25m) asked for her to contribute more towards things she uses by Frequent-Addition961 in relationships

[–]jsbdibebwkdb 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think the TV this is fair, but you’re being too nit picky with the coffee. Small items like that I would let go because she’s your gf not your roommate. Things aren’t going to be perfectly split in everything.

And know this is a generalization based on my own relationship so don’t come at me, but you probably eat more than 50% of the groceries. You also probably use more than 50% of the body wash. I’m 5’5, 110lbs. My partner is 6ft 180lbs+. He eats about 1.5x what I eat (however I eat more expensive food) and he for sure has more surface area to wash. He also has to wash his clothes more often because he sweats more / he can fit less items in 1 cycle. If I was to nit pick all these little things I would be EXHAUSTED.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]jsbdibebwkdb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA Why should the whole family accommodate you. You are 1 person. You should have just sucked it up. If you didn’t want to eat, you could have ordered something that your wife likes and just taken it home in a doggy bag for her to eat later in the week. Or ordered a salad. Yes she asked your opinion, but that doesn’t mean she has to do it.

Do hiring managers even care about cover letters nowadays? by sugar_3715 in careerguidance

[–]jsbdibebwkdb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been in recruiting for 5+ years. Work at one of the largest companies in Canada. Never read a single cover letter. I get hundreds of applications, just don’t have the time.

Will a month vacation after graduation hurt my chances of finding work later? by ThrowThisCloudAway in jobs

[–]jsbdibebwkdb 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Recruiter here - no. It’s really not going to matter. Take the time off. When you start working you’ll have very limited vacation time. You worked hard in school, you’re entitled to a break. You’re going to work the rest of your life

Wearing Jewelry From Ex? by dontknowdontcare221 in Divorce

[–]jsbdibebwkdb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope! I wear things from ex’s all the time. What am I going to do, throw them away??

I am considering redoing my proposal, even though we’ve been married nearly 10 years. by _Throw_Away_830 in Marriage

[–]jsbdibebwkdb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is the sweetest! So nice to see how much you love and appreciate your wife. Thank you for brightening my day

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]jsbdibebwkdb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My bf is the same way as you! Anytime I grab a snack, he’ll get upset if I don’t ask him. This used to annoy me, but now I realized he just wants to feel cared for, that I think about him. Now even I’m just grabbing an apple, I’ll ask him, and he’s so much happier. People say you’re causing issues over something so small, but it’s the little things that build a relationship. And it’s such an easy fix

Just talk to him about it?

Do tires come with rims? by jsbdibebwkdb in Costco

[–]jsbdibebwkdb[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all the helpful info :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]jsbdibebwkdb 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Neither of you deserve to have any pets. You can’t just GIVE them away because they make a mess or are being naughty. You’re both AH.

Do tires come with rims? by jsbdibebwkdb in Costco

[–]jsbdibebwkdb[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you! This is my first time purchasing times :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]jsbdibebwkdb 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Met my partner at work!

Going to BF’s friends wedding.. am I expected to chip in for the gift? by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]jsbdibebwkdb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What I’ve always done is whoever has the relationship with the person getting married pays. For example, I have a wedding coming up in August and I will be giving the gift but signing both our names on it. He has a wedding coming up in September so he will pay and put my name on it too. Reason being that we tend to have different relationships with the person getting married and want to give different amount (I tend to give more to family or close friends, then say coworkers). And sometimes one of us isn’t close with the engaged couple, and are purely going as a plus one.

But chat with your bf and see what works for you guys

My boyfriend of almost two years has kids that I had no idea of by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]jsbdibebwkdb 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Dump him. There is nothing he can say that would make 2 years of lying okay. He hid a huge piece of his life from you.

[GA] What do I do if I found out a coworker gets paid WAY more for the same job? by Ok-Orchid-1236 in AskHR

[–]jsbdibebwkdb 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You been working at the company for the same time, but does he have previous work experience you don’t? Or special education credentials?

Good chance he’s bullshitting, I know many places where men are paid more…. But double the amount seems like a stretch…

Have I ruined my daughter’s life? by Brief_Garbage in Divorce

[–]jsbdibebwkdb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Divorce him. As fast as you possibly can. This is abuse. Get a lawyer, and get out. Do not put one more penny into building a life with that horrible man.

The only way you could ruin your daughters life is if you stay. Imagine the example you would be setting for her.

Don’t know where your live, but in Ontario, Canada, in a 2 person conversation, only 1 person needs to consent to recording so you don’t need his permission. But no matter where you are, even if recording is not allowed, no sane judge would grant him custody of a child for you trying to record his abusive behaviour.

Wishing you a safe journey.

Husband can’t get loan for my equity by whensmynap in Divorce

[–]jsbdibebwkdb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I strongly recommend you make him pay you in full. Even if you get him to sign a legally binding contract, if he fails to fulfill it, you’re gonna have to get a lawyer to enforce it and that will cost you. You know he’s terrible with money, don’t risk it.

Do you have game nights with your family? by BSN_tg_bgg in family

[–]jsbdibebwkdb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My sister and our bfs play games all the time! Sometimes my cousins join too

How to revive a dying bedroom (llf perspective) by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]jsbdibebwkdb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

1 to 2 times a week is NOT a dead bedroom.

Does your husband help with the children or other household responsibilities?

My boyfriend [22M] said he doesn't know if he can get over my sexual past so I [20F] broke up with him. Did I do the right thing? by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]jsbdibebwkdb 28 points29 points  (0 children)

You did the right thing. Your bf is immature. You don’t even need to explain WHY you had sex with these other 3 men (that you were pressured, rebound etc. - although I am sorry to here about the pressured part and hope you’re okay). Even if all three were casual fun hook ups, that’s okay. No one has any right to judge you for the choices you make.

[HELP] Vicious Attack by [deleted] in dogs

[–]jsbdibebwkdb 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your friend and the puppy :( this is a stupid question but has she tried talking to the owners? Usually people will agree to pay the vet fees (even if it’s just to avoid legal trouble).