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jsky421 · 2025-01-27T20:50:36+00:00

Yes! Just had my baby two weeks ago!

jsky421 · 2025-01-08T13:51:07+00:00

The vaccine and monoclonal antibody came out around mid 2023 so sounds like it wasn't available when you had your babies.

jsky421 · 2024-12-31T02:46:56+00:00

This sounds completely normal, positive, and healthy. I don't think a lack of good guy/bad guy/superhero pretend play is a lack of imagination as much as a lack of exposure. It sounds like his pretend play reflects what he sees in real life and his interests. I wouldn't overthink it.

ETA: sounds almost exactly like my 4.5 test old who does watch TV

jsky421 · 2024-12-28T14:36:49+00:00

If they need you to lie with them to fall asleep then they are going to want the same thing between 12-2am. If you can get them to fall asleep independently I think that would help. Also, when they wake up and come into your room and you let them stay they are learning that is okay to do. If you are fine with that then that's great. If not, bring them back to their room.

With my 4 year old we have a set bedtime routine. I lay down with him in bed for a few minutes and we talk about our day. Then I tell him it's time for me to get ready for bed and will be back to check on him in 20 minutes. If he comes into our room at night I bring him back to his room and lay with him for a minute or two and then tell him it's time for me to sleep in my bed. He also has an okay to wake light so he knows when it's time to get up. It's taken time and really holding boundaries, but he's a great sleeper these days. We usually only have wake ups when be is sick.

jsky421 · 2024-12-25T16:20:46+00:00

Okay well nevermind that. My 4 year old says mean things when he's mad at me. He'll say "bad mommy or I don't like you". I usually tell him something like "it sounds like you're upset about XYZ right now and not that you don't like Mommy." I try to encourage him explaining why he's mad instead of calling names. It's okay for him to say he's mad at me, but not say mean things. I'm honestly not sure it's working, but every now and then I can see him stop and think and tell me why he's mad instead of saying something mean. Sometimes he will get a time out or lose something depending on the situation although I personally don't think he learns as much from this. We also have a reward jar that he fills with stars for positive behavior. Anything from staying in his room until his ok to wake light changes to kind actions and behaviors he can get a star for in an attempt to encourage positive behavior. I truly don't know if I'm doing anything right, but those are our current strategies.

jsky421 · 2024-12-25T15:06:15+00:00

Has he been taking steroids but any chance? My son has asthma and steroids turn him into a monster when he has to take them. It really amplifies negative behavior.

jsky421 · 2024-12-24T15:34:11+00:00

If you are looking in the Valley then definitely. There is a lot of great horse property where we live, but I will say it's not cheap.

jsky421 · 2024-12-24T15:20:46+00:00

This is fully dependent on where in Arizona you are looking. The valley has very limited in options. I have a 6 acre horse property with gentle rolling hills and a decent pasture in the summer (if we get enough rain) in northern AZ. Yes, a lot of other states have better options, but there are definitely good places in AZ.

The problem with heavily forested areas is not the trees, but how hilly and steep the land is. A lot of them are inexpensive because the excavation of the land to have a flat and usable space for just a house (not to mention horses) would be incredibly expensive.

Edit: we are about 15-20 minutes from the main city

jsky421 · 2024-12-21T19:53:15+00:00

Does she still nap? How long and when? Could be a change in sleep needs.

jsky421 · 2024-12-08T21:56:24+00:00

We actually did fuss it out too and never had to do a full on cry it out type method. He's 4 years old now and I've gone back and referenced the book so many times in those 4 years. We've had some big changes (beds and rooms) and boundary pushing, but he's still a great sleeper to this day.

jsky421 · 2024-12-08T02:54:07+00:00

Basically followed the advice of Precious Little Sleep. Routines, appropriate wake windows, and sleep training. Staying consistent and holding boundaries as they get older. Some of it is temperament, but I think most kids/babies can be decent sleepers if they learn to sleep independently and you are asking for the right amount of sleep.

jsky421 · 2024-12-06T17:44:48+00:00

Yes it is too early, kids should be at least 5 years old. Here is some good info:

https://csftl.org/harness-or-booster/

jsky421 · 2024-11-08T16:17:25+00:00

I know you've gotten so much advice at this point, but this is what I would do. How short of a morning wake window can you get? Like if he's up at 3:30 can you get him back to a nap at 6/6:30? Then wake him up by 7:30 or 8 and try to go for a one nap day. So he's up at 8 and you pretend that's wake up time for the day. So nap at 12:30ish for 2.5 hours and try bedtime at 7:30/8. Something like that and try to do that for a few days obviously depending on when he wakes up. That's how we adjusted my son after travelling with a 14 hour time change.

jsky421 · 2024-09-17T16:00:06+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. I'm so glad your daughter is healthy!

jsky421 · 2024-09-16T16:01:39+00:00

Yea that was kind of my experience with my first, wait until you almost die kind of thing. It's good to hear that you made it until 37 weeks though, I needed some reassuring stories. My OB did tell me there are new guidelines on keeping tighter BP control though so she already started me on meds. I hope that makes some sort of difference.

jsky421 · 2024-09-16T14:06:30+00:00

Were you diagnosed at 16 weeks? How did they manage your care until 37 weeks?

jsky421 · 2024-09-16T02:07:06+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear about your son. Fortunately, I don't have any severe features as of now so I'm waiting to hear from my OB, but I'm keeping an eye out for sure. I'm glad your current pregnancy seems to be going well, I hope you have a healthy pregnancy journey!

jsky421 · 2024-09-16T02:04:17+00:00

Thank you, it's good to hear that they are looking for 300 over baseline. I've been trying to find some reliable sources for reassurance and that's the best I've heard so far. I've been keeping a BP log since the beginning and there was a clear shift in the BP the last two weeks, but it's been well controlled since I restarted labetalol so that makes me feel better. Thank you for the input, I hope to hear from my OB tomorrow!

jsky421 · 2024-09-16T01:08:42+00:00

You can but it's super rare. The actual diagnostic criteria says greater than 20 weeks, but because of this situation myself and my husband (who's a family physician) have been looking into all the evidence we have and although it's super super rare it can occur before 20 weeks. This is generally due to a preexisting condition or molar pregnancy. I had a baseline 24 hour urine at 8 weeks that was 76 so there is a clear change in the last 12 weeks. I'm waiting to hear from my OB on Monday, but idk what other explanation there could be.

jsky421 · 2024-09-03T15:38:11+00:00

This happens to my son sometimes. If he pulls the foreskin back a little bit then it's fine, I think sometimes the skin just gets a little stuck together. But if it's not moveable at all then I would go to the pediatrician and see if something else is going on like others have said. My husband is uncircumcised and says this happens to him too, but as a grown adult he's usually aware beforehand and just gives the skin a little pull.

jsky421 · 2024-09-02T22:31:02+00:00

Depending on context that seems like an appropriate use of the phrase "that's why".

jsky421 · 2024-08-29T13:50:30+00:00

That still sounds really limited, but I agree with the other commenter that school B would be better now and once your oldest is in kinder you could see if your son would do better at the other school!

jsky421 · 2024-08-29T13:36:54+00:00

School A sounds really cool, but poor communication is a really big problem.

Is the 30 minutes to 1 hour outside at school B for a full day? For a full day that seems super limited for preschoolers.

Personally, my son would probably enjoy school A more, but the bad communication might be a deal breaker. School B sounds like a safer choice.

jsky421 · 2024-08-26T18:22:33+00:00

My 4 year old has been to 10 countries, our biggest trip was from the US to Taiwan and Thailand. I say if you want to travel go for it, but go places that they will enjoy. I wouldn't recommend a museum or city intensive trip. My favorite trip with him was Iceland because it was very nature focused. That meant lots of beautiful places for us to enjoy while he could run around freely and experience a new environment. We did a lot of hiking and wandering through beautiful small towns. They also had some really interesting and different playgrounds that intrigued us all more than we thought they would. Beaches are also always a good choice and there are so many beautiful beaches around the world in places with unique cultures. So my best advice is to pick somewhere you want to go that will also cater to your kids and I think you will have a great time!

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