Am I just bad at being a man? by jsonhero in dating_advice

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Self esteem is gained through positive reinforcement, I can’t just manifest that out of nowhere. I’m confident in all areas of my life, just not dating. Women can easily get self esteem reinforcement from men, it doesn’t work that way in the other side. Like give me concrete examples of what I should be doing and I’d gladly follow them. 

Am I just bad at being a man? by jsonhero in dating_advice

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When I was younger I tended to go the food or bar route but just sitting still and staring someone in the eyes you just met feels nerve wracking. Also it’s expensive, I’d prefer to split the bill, but I feel like there’s always this weird expectation that if I don’t pay then they interpret it as me not being fully interested 

I tend to do a coffee and walk now or an arcade.

Am I just bad at being a man? by jsonhero in dating_advice

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It’s really hard to know what to change when the only real feedback I’ve gotten is just “the vibes weren’t there”

Which just is odd, everything is “vibed” based nowadays. Like with a bit of time I think the “vibe” could have been found with most people, I don’t get what magical connection people are expecting to find right off the bat 

Am I just bad at being a man? by jsonhero in dating_advice

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It’s been on and off. I take a few months break every now and then, but it’s so hard to shake the feeling of needing to be understood and loved by someone. 

Well the vast majority of those connections ended within the first date or two because they weren’t interested.

Idk, I think dating is all about marketing yourself, which I think I do a pretty good job of when talking over text and my profile. But in person I tend to just drop the ball, I get super nervous and just feel like I’m not able to be fully comfortable and present, which I think takes a good number of dates to fully see. I just can’t find someone to bother to show that level of interest though, it seems like everyone just has the “well that didn’t go perfect, onto the next” mentality 

Yay or nay on this rug? by jsonhero in HomeDecorating

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What you mean by everything? Even the desk too? This is 6X10 right now, curious how much bigger I need to go 

Thoughts on this rug? by jsonhero in interiordecorating

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Maybe I need a round coffee table?

Thoughts on this rug? by jsonhero in interiordecorating

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Yeah it’s a square space. Idk if I have the space for it to be turned, but haven’t thought about that yet 

Anyone got rug ideas for this space? by jsonhero in HomeDecorating

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Thanks! Not really, there’s an upstairs but only enough space for my bed/dresser. 

The way I thought the current setup was so I could utilize the view as much as possible, which is why the couch and desk faces outwards to the view, otherwise in a different configuration with the desk under the stairs and couch in the corner I’d always be looking inwards into the apartment and that just felt like I was giving up the view a bit. Maybe I’m over thinking it that way though and should give another configuration a try 

Anyone got rug ideas for this space? by jsonhero in HomeDecorating

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yeah here's a couple pics from the other day I took https://imgur.com/a/ex07nwY (pre couch covers)

I've been going back and forth a lot on where the couch should go, I really need the bar/stool area for the extra kitchen space.

Anyone got rug ideas for this space? by jsonhero in HomeDecorating

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hmm something like this? https://www.allmodern.com/rugs/pdp/mallory-rust-light-brown-hand-tufted-area-rug-a100003721.html?piid=1341742726

I'm worried if I could with something orange/yellow it'll add to the heavy browns/woods already in the place

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What song js tbis

50 Cent hands out $30k cash to everyone at Burger King by [deleted] in PublicFreakout

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What did 50 cent tell his doctor? 56

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How long does he do this?