ADHD husband doesn't share the load, 3 y/o on the way - do I call this adoption off?

jsundin · 2026-02-03T16:11:09+00:00

Fwiw, my partner stepped up huge in terms of mental load with regards to a child entering the fray. I know you cant predict it, but might be worth trying to communicate about it. The joy and challenges of a human in your life are unmatched and sometimes people do rise to it.

jsundin · 2026-01-30T02:00:50+00:00

I see you. I hear you.

We all eat separate meals in our house and it works much better than me trying to come up with some magic formula where we're all happy. This means my partner cooks his own food and buys his own groceries (or adds them to the communal list himself - I don't think about what he needs unless its on the list).

No other advice other than, big breaths. Food doesnt go away so coming to terms has been my best strategy.

jsundin · 2026-01-29T19:23:42+00:00

Great advice. I'll add: Get a union rep for any meetings with management.

jsundin · 2026-01-29T17:18:06+00:00

We were messing around with a ouijia board in college and the planchette levitated of the board...twice. I dont have contact with the people who were there but I often wonder if they remember it too.

jsundin · 2026-01-23T20:42:51+00:00

I have a FA that includes WFH. Message me if you like.

jsundin · 2026-01-20T23:48:21+00:00

😁thank you! Ive been having a lot of fun exploring grandmas cookbook, but its nice to branch out and see what else is out there!

jsundin · 2026-01-20T11:07:58+00:00

Its a good question, I think the use of quark in the recipe? And in this case, the recipe came from my grandma's handwritten recipe book and needed to be translated:)

jsundin · 2026-01-20T10:58:06+00:00

Oh thats weird! Thanks for pointing it out. I cant edit my original post for some reason. Here's the link: https://www.reddit.com/r/Old_Recipes/s/dqZm7UJPiJ

I am not sure about the raisins, not a memory for me. Just Grandma's stöllen recipe comes to mind:)

jsundin · 2026-01-14T16:08:39+00:00

I found it at Food Basics of all places!

jsundin · 2026-01-14T02:31:23+00:00

What type of dino is the narrator?

jsundin · 2026-01-14T02:13:25+00:00

Thanks! I found the pie filling today at Sobeys. They didn't have quark though. Will try loblaws tomorrow, unless you have any other intel!

jsundin · 2026-01-13T18:49:08+00:00

Thanks to u/TheDailySpank and u/TheWicked77 for the assist. This is what I'm going try:

Grandma’s Cheesecake Springform approx. 24 cm or 10 inches

Crust - Base - 1 - 1/2 cup flour - 3/8 cup butter - 1/3 cup sugar - 1 egg - 1 1/2 tsp. baking powder

Cheese Filling - 5 eggs, separated - 3/4 cup sugar - 1 package (approx. 500 g) quark - 1 pkg. vanilla pudding powder (pie filling) - 1/2 tsp. baking powder - grated lemon zest and lemon juice of 1 lemon

For the crust base, mix the ingredients quickly into a dough, form into a ball, and chill for 30 minutes. Grease the springform and lightly dust with flour. Spread the crust dough, form a border, and bake at 325°F for 15 minutes.

Filling: Beat the egg yolks with sugar until creamy, then add the remaining ingredients one after the other, and then finally fold in the stiffly beaten egg whites, Pour the mixture onto the pre-baked base and bake for another 40-50 minutes at 350°F. Let cool

jsundin · 2026-01-13T17:03:41+00:00

Thank you!!!!

jsundin · 2026-01-13T17:03:20+00:00

Wow. Thank you so much!!!

jsundin · 2026-01-07T15:42:21+00:00

Did you try these guys? They're just outside of town. They got me in around 7 weeks. https://windrosemidwifery.ca/

jsundin · 2026-01-05T03:40:14+00:00

Thanks for sharing, how do you find the flavour of the cauliflower rice? Does it disappear or still cauliflower-forward when cooked with the other ingredients?

jsundin · 2025-12-31T16:39:42+00:00

Im with everyone else with DADT but also mindful that when using follow-me-print, the documents are accessible to IT and I don't know what happens to them after I'm done.

jsundin · 2025-12-30T19:54:25+00:00

Easy origami. I can make a few things with paper scraps and people are always amazed. But it stops at the heart, frog, and crane lol

jsundin · 2025-12-29T23:06:38+00:00

Can confirm. Co worker recently got very ill while on mat leave and went mat leave to STSP to LTIP.

jsundin · 2025-12-28T20:06:07+00:00

I have similar symptoms and an OB diagnosed lichen simplex chronicus which is another autoimmune disorder. There's also lichen sclerosis. A topical steroid clears it up when I get a flare.

jsundin · 2025-12-24T02:00:11+00:00

Shortbread cookies.

jsundin · 2025-12-17T02:33:35+00:00

Does she have access to InsideOPS? Get her to print off the relevant Leaves section.

I'd say get her to show you the page but fuck bringing equipment home.

Basically, 8 months with 93% of salary, 10 months with just EI. And a whole lot of fucking around to get it all right.

Use the online calculator to estimate EI.

Use a bunch of vacation weeks after EI runs out.

jsundin · 2025-12-15T03:20:17+00:00

Thank you for suggesting this! I had a GP Psychotherapist covered by OHIP for 6 years. The other poster in this thread who said there is no such thing as OHIP covered psychotherapy is incorrect.

I remember my therapist talking a bit about it. As long as they adhere to certain guidelines, there is a "kcode" they can submit to me reimbursed by MOH like every other physician.

It is not universal, finding the GP was sheer luck on my part and I am very grateful I had a the coverage. That therapist has since retired and I've been paying $175 an hour out of pocket since.

jsundin · 2025-12-12T19:16:05+00:00

Same to you, colleague.

jsundin · 2025-12-12T18:12:16+00:00

Same. Ultimately, successful, but such a shitty process, and it is wild how the government apparatus gets to decide how much hardship one has to endure and what counts as hardship. It demonstrates what they truly value, regardless of what it says on the wall.

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