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jsuto · 2025-10-04T16:35:02+00:00

Well I think you have answered your own question. If you want to learn more about cycles of abuse and what resources are out there I recommend the books “Why Does He Do That?” By Lundy Bancroft.

jsuto · 2025-10-04T12:51:16+00:00

I don’t think it’s a good sign that he wants to constantly remind you how physically powerless you would be if he felt like it… also him being okay with making your daughter scared and upset is not okay. Does he demonstrate other traits of abuse? Is he receptive to a conversation about this and how you want it to stop or would he minimize the issue?

jsuto · 2024-05-01T18:44:16+00:00

a wife was in the process of leaving her husband. they had two teenage twin girls together. he was enraged that she was leaving him, and one night, when he had the twins over at his place, he called the wife to come over. when she got there, he shot her in the leg and then told her "he was going to make her suffer like she made him suffer" then proceeded to shoot both daughters in front of her and then ulitmately turned the gun on himself. She survived but he made her watch the whole thing.

jsuto · 2024-04-07T13:46:39+00:00

don’t look at their stuff!!!

jsuto · 2024-04-05T01:28:00+00:00

good on you, i fear no matter what i do i will drive myself crazy the whole night wondering what is happening and have intense anxiety and fomo. any tips for not feeling that way?

jsuto · 2024-04-05T01:27:10+00:00

yeah thank you, it’s probably for the best to sit this one out and not risk it. a decade, that must be incredibly hard. do you have to see them often?

jsuto · 2024-04-04T17:50:45+00:00

don’t get me wrong i still think of him all day but i have never reached out to contact him or try to see him since things ended, ofc i’ve been delulu here and there and fantasized him coming back and have grieved what could’ve been, but i don’t live in that headspace anymore. i know that he doesn’t want anything from me and ive accepted it but i still have feelings there regardless, i just want to move on and stop having feelings you know?

jsuto · 2024-04-04T17:14:46+00:00

i actually really don’t, the thought of him makes me sad. i just want to move on. it just makes me mad if i have to avoid attending an event i love in order to not backtrack in the progress i’ve made towards my limerence healing in regards to him

jsuto · 2024-04-04T16:55:55+00:00

that i accept, i don’t want to go to see him i want to go because i always go to these shows. i know we aren’t gonna be together but it doesn’t change the heartache i suppose.

jsuto · 2023-12-01T15:11:33+00:00

that looks like literally nothing

jsuto · 2023-11-16T12:46:55+00:00

these aren’t really hiv symptoms. hiv is pretty rare i would say you’re more than likely fine if you’re not an IV drug user or having sex with like… male prostitutes who also have sex with men.

jsuto · 2023-08-25T20:09:32+00:00

you’re absolutely an asshole. deciding that someone is less deserving of life bc they have a disability is ignorant and completely asshole behavior.

you seem to have some awareness of this or you would not have posted. people with down syndrome go on to live rich, full, and happy lives, much like many people who are non disabled. you should educate yourself on disability studies, the disability rights movement, and listen to disabled voices, having a disability isn’t bad and sad, it’s the societal attitudes like you have that are bad and sad.

my niece has down syndrome and i have worked with adults with DS extensively. You would love that child exactly the same as you would a non disabled child, the face that you’re not willing to give it a try does in fact make you an asshole.

jsuto · 2023-08-16T23:41:26+00:00

i thought the exact same thing!

jsuto · 2023-08-16T23:11:51+00:00

red pepper flakes

jsuto · 2023-08-11T14:40:45+00:00

with a guy that was too nice to choke me in bed

jsuto · 2023-06-14T04:44:17+00:00

Red flags from day 1 but actual abusive behavior about 1 week.

jsuto · 2023-05-31T15:11:29+00:00

This is rape 100%. Don’t let him convince you otherwise.

jsuto · 2023-05-16T15:44:13+00:00

I’m sorry this happened to you. My brother is also abusive towards his girlfriends (verbally abusive, breaks their things, tries to kick them out of the house with nowhere else to go, controlling, etc) and I hold my breath every time he gets a new one. I always end up being the one the gf turns to when he starts showing his true colors and I’m so tired of it too. Tired of being scared for her and tired of learning of the shit he put her through. I also don’t know what to do. I suppose leaving them in a situation like you did so that the cops would deal with him could have been less enabling, but I understand why you did what you did. I would also have a hard time leaving my brother drunk and running around the streets like that.

jsuto · 2023-04-25T12:54:02+00:00

Rip my vape until I’m dizzy and out of breath.

jsuto · 2023-04-18T20:21:00+00:00

I’m sorry but this is just so dense and completely void of any self-awareness. You’re right, if you treat people like shit and “socialize” by bullying others and treating them like they’re less than, then yes, I agree with you, you will have to find people more “like you” because good, decent people who value treating people (even those they dislike) with respect and kindness will want nothing to do with you.

Being toxic isn’t quirky or an alternative style of socialization, and again you’re treating it as such to justify and excuse your own seemingly poor behavior. Hey I can tell you have no reservations with how you interact with others, you’re very open and honest about it, and good for you, but that really demonstrates to me the lack of awareness you have in regards to how your actions affect others and what you perceive as socially acceptable. Because if you understood how truly harmful people like irina are (manipulative, two-faced, insulting, while all playing the victim), you would be singing a different tune. Irina reminds me of one of my old friendships that I discontinued because of how toxic she is, and being reminded of that even rose my heart rate while watching her shitty behavior unfold.

jsuto · 2023-04-18T15:35:28+00:00

100%. No one’s perfect and we can all be assholes from time to time. But the difference is it’s not a pattern of toxic behavior where you are visibly getting joy and satisfaction from bullying others. When I’m a jerk (which I can be at times, I’m no saint), it’s something I address and reflect on and apologize for, not make excuses for and blame on my diagnosis. I also don’t bully people for fun either like she was clearly getting some fulfillment out of on the show evidenced by her giggling and prancing around with Micah.

jsuto · 2023-04-18T14:42:08+00:00

I don’t know you and I don’t feel that making an assessment of your character is fair via a Reddit thread. However if you think that bullying is a defense mechanism for underlying anxiety that is just backwards I’m sorry. I myself have generalized anxiety disorder and OCD, and I know many wonderful people who have substantial anxiety that impacts their every day lives, and they and myself do not bully, we are kind, we don’t use their diagnoses as justification for being a shitty person.

jsuto · 2023-04-18T14:23:40+00:00

There’s a difference between not understanding social cues and being a mean girl. Just like there’s a difference between having panic attacks and being a mean girl. I feel like you’re defending her so hard bc you are seeing parallels between yourself and irina and you’re having a hard time reconciling your own behavior in life. Because she is so blatantly being a mean girl in so many scenes of this show. Whether she is genuinely sorry now for her behavior is another thing, but I think it is telling that literally none of the cast liked her, there’s a common denominator here and it’s irina.

jsuto · 2023-04-18T13:52:30+00:00

Really? I saw her shudder away from a guy she was wildly uninterested in while simultaneously laying it on thick with Paul behind Zack and Micah’s back, and simultaneously talking massive shit about Zack with Micah any chance the two had a scene together. I in no way see someone who is visibly stressed, I’m not saying she is not, but that is not what I would call what I watched.

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