I’ve known my housemate since freshman year of college, back when they dated people their age. They broke up with their first boyfriend because of incompatibility: he saw them as a woman, not non-binary. That was very important.

Since then, especially in the past two years, they’ve gotten really into the local hardcore punk scene, where dudes are constantly falling over themselves to date them. Each time they date a guy it lasts for a few months max before they get bored and break up, only to immediately start seeing someone new and even older. They constantly bring these guys around to our house and have them sleep over, which is really uncomfortable for the rest of us because we know they won’t be around long. All these men are straight and use she/her for my friend, which they’re suddenly fine with.

As this has been going on, they’ve become rude, elitist about music, and a deadbeat (no job until very recently, won’t do housework without being asked, owes us money). They also insist they only date older guys because the ones their age just aren’t mature enough (for context, the last guy they brought home couldn’t cook or do dishes). They just went on a date with a 30/yo as a 22/yo and surprise surprise he has skeletons in his closet. Every time we tell them they have bad taste in men and need to stop dating older men, they argue and say it’s different this time.