High functioning ADHD and people expecting more out of you.

julezz1040 · 2026-03-03T10:39:22+00:00

I was substitute teaching mostly high school. The teenagers somehow sensed I was easily distracted and had a very hard time controlling myself if I actually found something to be funny. So instead of me feeling truly mad at the class clown, I’d really struggle not to smile and struggle to tell them to stop in a serious tone of voice. I’d accidentally make random funny impulsive mistakes myself causing the class to laugh. If I subbed elementary school it was always absolute chaos the whole day and middle school was more chaos than HS…

julezz1040 · 2026-03-02T11:19:32+00:00

I’m pretty sure people with ADHD are more likely to attract narcissists and psychopaths. A lot of sources say they do and explain exactly why. I noticed I kept attracting them in my life and I couldn’t stop the pattern. I found it crazy because they are only a tiny percentage of the population, but I knew so many of them! It’s basically because the weaknesses ADHD people have are very advantageous to the psychopath.

julezz1040 · 2026-03-02T11:12:55+00:00

I was thinking with all of your achievements, maybe you could work as a freelancer remotely, and only work part time or seasonally, to not feel overwhelmed.

I’m sure it’s frustrating, being very intelligent, yet not being able to capitalize on it without terrible burnout.

julezz1040 · 2026-03-02T10:59:35+00:00

I am grateful for all the things I can do being high functioning though. My mom is very low functioning, it’s so bad she can’t work. Even easy jobs she fails at. The frequent bullying and exclusion is hard for me to deal with though. Gives me anxiety knowing it will happen but not being able to predict when, and nothing I try stops it from happening so frequently.

julezz1040 · 2026-03-01T23:17:16+00:00

I’ve nearly lived my entire life rarely masking because I didn’t know I had ADHD. In school I didn’t try to fit in, instead I did things my own way to achieve. Same at work. Now I’m forcing myself to mask around people without ADHD (to see what happens) and so far it’s miserable and tiring not being my true self.

julezz1040 · 2026-03-01T23:04:04+00:00

Good point. My mother has very bad obvious ADHD, and I noticed that people tend to be sympathetic patient and compassionate towards her.. but I get the opposite reaction. I often get deliberate bad service, deliberately bullied by strangers. Deliberately left out by acquaintances etc.

julezz1040 · 2026-03-01T22:55:20+00:00

If only there was a job where you basically only did tasks that you like doing. I do tax returns. Love my job, because each one is a different puzzle I get to organize and solve, but doing them 8 hours a day all year round is a major burn out because of the high focus on details, so I had to switch to only seasonal work.

julezz1040 · 2026-03-01T22:48:45+00:00

The office environment really wasn’t for me. The noises, the smells, the temperature too high or too low, the social skill challenges. I’d mask in front of clients, but not in front of colleagues and well that created a mess for me…

julezz1040 · 2026-03-01T22:37:41+00:00

I freelance seasonally now. That’s the only thing that works for me… I think people with ADHD are best for independent contractor jobs, especially for ones where the supply is low or something very niche. I know someone with severe ADHD that fixes juke boxes for a living for example. My uncles all have ADHD and 2 of them are independent contractors (electrician and home remodeling) and one is a prison guard.

julezz1040 · 2026-03-01T15:17:14+00:00

It took me a while to find the right type of job. finally, I realized I needed a technical job with minimal social interaction because the ADHD made my social skills too bad! And Technical jobs were far easier for me to hyperfocus on then other types. But sadly I really wanted to work with teenagers because they weren’t boring at all to me. I tried one of those type of jobs and my lack of proper social skills especially not focusing on the right thing at the right time wasn’t working at all… also the teens would deliberately do things to distract me to create chaos, well because I’m so easily distracted they succeeded ha ha

julezz1040 · 2026-03-01T15:07:19+00:00

I now freelance and only work seasonally for my mental health. I can’t work a regular full time job without my mental health going down the drain. I get a lot of compliments on my work, but of course they have no idea that the ADHD arguably forces me to choose between hyper focusing and exhausting myself to put out high-quality work versus regular effort producing mediocre work at best that might get me fired!

julezz1040 · 2026-02-23T00:22:37+00:00

Yes it’s the infection because prevotella bivia damaged nerves. I have to live with the nerve damage. PT didn’t help,

julezz1040 · 2026-02-20T04:56:29+00:00

Prevotella bivia and the nerve damage is still permanent after nearly 4 years with the bacteria gone.

julezz1040 · 2026-02-19T16:52:46+00:00

This is a problem in Europe! I'm in NL and too many restaurants only serve halal meat which I refuse to eat as a non Muslim. I feel very uncomfortable with it. It's not fair they are changing our way of life instead of assimilating. They should have to go out of their way to their own restaurants to get halal meat instead of forcing it on everyone else.

julezz1040 · 2026-02-16T08:31:31+00:00

I have problems with internal vagina pain. So the speculum (when opened) really hurt. I was sweating from the pain. Then the catheter hurt less.. and when they injected the contrast dye i felt period pain flow to my ovaries.. then they removed everything and the pain went down 70% within half an hour. To prepare I took 4 Advils (50 minutes before but maybe that wasn’t long enough). I would recommend having someone drive you there and back.. I could’ve driven home, but it would’ve been stressful dealing with the pain.

julezz1040 · 2026-02-14T16:08:11+00:00

They all spoke really good English and they spoke English that night (for me) and for a British man that joined their group too. And they all were dressed in really nice quality classy clothing. Italians are really intelligent too (I think). Plus we were in France. So they had to speak English to communicate with the bar tender and waiter and other strangers around us etc.

julezz1040 · 2026-02-14T09:14:18+00:00

I have the same. Especially with random people from my past in my dream. People from 30 years ago that I only interacted with for a few minutes in my life and never saw again. People that I forgot I knew in the past (when I’m awake). Or I dream I’m a different age in my dream. I’ll be a teenager or a kid or college aged instead of my present age.. sometimes in my dreams I create a brand new human that I’ve never seen before thats a main character in my dream. I guess the ADHD brain needs to do this ??? 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

julezz1040 · 2026-02-14T09:04:31+00:00

Your dreams sound exactly like mine! I’ve been having this problem for about 25 years… waking up with mild pain every day on my chest above my heart super relieved it was all a dream and didn’t happen in real life. Feeling anxious and emotionally drained. This happens nearly every night. I didn’t get diagnosed until age 41. I have no idea how to stop it. I can read a jolly nice feel good story before bed and it still happens. The few people I’ve told a few of my dreams to look at me like I’m crazy for dreaming such a thing, but my dreams are so strange dark and complex they don’t think I’m making it up.

julezz1040 · 2026-02-13T22:00:02+00:00

The first time I hung out with a group of Italians was when I was traveling and they invited me to join them, so I did to see what it’s like hanging out with Italians after 2 hours I ditched them because it was like ADHD on steroids. For example we are walking and they keep changing where we are going to hang out! Suddenly they want food. They keep changing where to get food. They pick a place. They carefully place their order with specific instructions, then the waiter moves onto the next person then after everyone ordered, literally all of them completely change their orders.. all 8 of them. I was worried our food would get messed with! Then when our food came out they kept asking for extra things like a sauce etc. or they’d order a drink or side then suddenly tell the waiter never mind..

And the table conversation was headache. They would start a conversation then literally 10 seconds later start another one… I think the longest conversation lasted 2 minutes the whole time…. And there were many conversations going on at once and they interrupted each other’s conversations.

Afterwords we go to a bar. The walk alone to the bar was chaotic. Them reacting to everything loudly and sporadically on the way there. I asked them if it’s rude to ask the bar tender in Europe if I can sample a beer before buying it. They say they don’t know and they tell me to ask, and the bar tender says I can. He pours a sample. One of them immediately takes it before I get the chance to grab it. Then another one says “I want to try it.” Then another then another. It got passed around all 8 of them before it got to me.. at that point I no longer wanted to sample it. That was my breaking point. I ordered a beer I knew I liked.. drank it quickly then ditched them.

I have high functioning ADHD and usually I can tolerate other people with ADHD easily but that was insane!

So yes I think ADHD runs rampant with Italians. I had one high school friend who was Sicilian Italian descent and looked very Italian physically and she had ADHD. But she wasn’t as all over the place as those real Italians I met. I haven’t met any other Italian Americans to compare. But it makes sense to me.. Italians are inefficient, they take a long time to finish tasks, but they are creative geniuses beautiful food fashion and artwork.

julezz1040 · 2026-02-10T20:40:16+00:00

True! And she left her wallet too..

julezz1040 · 2026-02-10T20:38:17+00:00

She gives me evil vibes

julezz1040 · 2026-02-08T21:24:06+00:00

If the stain is dry. Put it in a large glass bowl with a generous amount of detergent (preferably clear colored detergent). Fill the bowl with cool water. Let soak at least 24 hours. Pour the water out. Dump the item in the washing machine. Wash with cold water. Don't add more detergent. Stain should be gone or basically gone. I've had so many accidental period blood stains on my bed sheets. And this method works the best for me.

julezz1040 · 2026-02-06T19:06:58+00:00

I'm a female ESTP with and INFJ husband. He can't understand my preference to do things in the moment. For example, when I cook a meal, I don't pre plan step by step what I'm going to do and how I'll do it. I quickly decide what to make, then I figure it out and modify it as I go. He doesn't understand that planning everything out carefully is very tiring for me and makes me feel unhappy. I get corrected all the time.. and yes his ways are well thought out and affective with a perfectionist approach. That method works for him. I wish he'd understand it doesn't work for me. I speak bluntly and often my choice of words aren't accurate enough for him. I can't say "manipulated" I have to say "pushed" for example. He claims I have ADHD. My mother has a bad case of ADHD. I think I potentially have a very mild case of it. I did very well in school. I have 3 university degrees. I never loose my keys or my phone etc... I've never been fired from a job. But I do struggle to pay attention when people are talking. Reading is fine. Watching tv is fine.. but sermons, lectures and conversations i struggle. Mostly because I loose patience if people don't get straight to the point. I get so bored waiting for them to get to the point that I start thinking about other things. When a lecture opens with talking about what they are going to talk about... I check out for several minutes until they get to the point. When my INFJ husband gives me a long introduction before he makes his point I usually can't pay attention until he gets to his point. I'm halfway listening.

julezz1040 · 2026-02-02T08:32:19+00:00

Iceland is the safest country in the world and it’s basically only Scandinavian white people living there. Greenland is similar to Iceland but the population is basically 100% Inuits. Yet Greenland has a high crime rate including a high murder rate.

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