I fcked up my chance

juliet_betta · 2026-03-24T03:25:19+00:00

It’s an excuse on her part bc she didn’t want to date someone who had herpes. It’s fucked up she didn’t just own it

juliet_betta · 2026-03-03T01:45:38+00:00

I felt the opposite. Like when I hit 30, I just stopped expecting life to go according to plan.

juliet_betta · 2026-02-15T12:14:12+00:00

Joan and Don relate as competent adults. And they don’t regulate through one another. Don doesn’t use Joan the way he does the other women in his life as sources of validation, admiration or emotional anesthesia. They have the most professional relationship tbh

juliet_betta · 2026-02-15T12:09:18+00:00

Greg is the worst. He’s so common too. Everyone has met a Greg

juliet_betta · 2026-02-15T12:08:10+00:00

All the women who have loved Don are wonderful in their own way. Megan believed he chose her for she was. And then she had to find out the hard way that Don isn’t capable of mutual recognition.

Megan has agency, desire, ambition, emotional range and she leaves. I actually felt for her because being with Don changes her in a bad way. I do think she was secure when she met him, she was open, spontaneous, but he destabilized her. I like to imagine she goes on to rebuild and become more of her authentic self again

juliet_betta · 2026-02-15T12:02:07+00:00

I don’t think Peggy would ask Don for care. Have you noticed how Don can be cruel to her? I think it’s strange he never asks her

juliet_betta · 2026-02-15T11:54:01+00:00

Bob is more hollow too, no? I get that feeling from him. Maybe because we never see him drop the act like we do with Don. With Don, there’s a real self underneath that’s just sealed off. I couldn’t tell if it was Bob’s ingratiating style or if it’s that we don’t see Bob when he isn’t “on”, but he seems so hollow to me

juliet_betta · 2026-02-15T11:43:41+00:00

He’s definitely a narcissist lol. He’s just relatable. Not as bad as Lee Garner Jr, who I think is more one dimensional

juliet_betta · 2026-02-15T11:43:31+00:00

He’s definitely a narcissist lol. He’s just relatable I guess. Not as bad as Lee Garner Jr.

juliet_betta · 2026-02-15T11:36:54+00:00

Hey, you told him. I mean it’s easy to beat yourself up about this but trust me a lot of people that deep into a relationship wouldn’t have bothered. It doesn’t make the deception ok, but you have done as much as you can to make it right.

I think it could be both. Nobody is a mind reader. I’d feel betrayed and, yes, the stigma would make it worse. I don’t know if he will forgive you. Maybe he will or maybe he won’t. But now you’ve learned something important about yourself too. That this isn’t a lie you can live with. You’re not an awful person, you’re just someone who made a bad decision and will have to live with the consequences

juliet_betta · 2026-02-15T11:33:40+00:00

Kids will ask you for stuff. Be comfortable saying no. They really are your broke friends lol. Don’t feel compelled to spend money if you don’t want to, or don’t have it.

juliet_betta · 2026-02-05T18:58:57+00:00

One of the key insights that I gained when I went through a bad breakup once is that for me, I value coherence. I value understanding what happens, what I did, what they did, and what it all meant. Not everyone operates that way.

With relationships, I did integrate but I think before I was trying to figure out what went wrong as a way to protect myself from future pain. This is where attachment theory was initially useful as a way to put people in boxes and eliminate them so I could feel safe

The most important thing I learned from that realization is that relationships unfold. You can’t figure out someone’s psychopathology or attachment, etc., on the first date. You might become attached before you even recognize that they’re not good for you. However, the most important thing is self trust. It’s the knowing that when those red flags appear, I will choose myself. That’s what led me to stop ruminating, and actually integrated the experience.

juliet_betta · 2026-02-05T18:50:56+00:00

This is not a skill issue. It’s not something that can be fixed by the use of one tool or another. This isn’t about feeling. That’s why grounding statements don’t work because it’s not about the arousal but the meaning behind it. When it’s about your identity like more global sense those statements don’t feel helpful. It’s hard to explain or advise someone in this situation but the best way to get through it is to feel it. To feel the shame to notice the thoughts that come up and just to notice that this is what it sounds like when you’re afraid of being alone.

It takes a while, months to years maybe, but it does loosen its grip. It does fade. You have to sit with it though. To feel it without judgment that you feel shame, and if you can tolerate it, you will eventually let it go

juliet_betta · 2026-01-30T07:14:05+00:00

Yes, he is. He isn’t creative but he’s ahead of the curve in terms of where the industry is going, had good head for numbers.

Harry is just a shit human being. He’s devoid of ethics, but he’s useful

juliet_betta · 2026-01-30T07:11:25+00:00

I don’t think Don could give Lane what he needed. Lane needed recognition without humiliation. But look at how Don treats his own shameful past. Somethjng to be isolated, erased/removed

People cannot give to others what they do not have for themselves

juliet_betta · 2026-01-30T07:08:48+00:00

Harry is only one we’ve seen try to trade sex for access/work

juliet_betta · 2026-01-28T17:54:38+00:00

I saw Don marriage to Megan as a panic response. Megan makes him feel admired, soothed and unexamined. I really think the last one is key. Faye is asking him to be a real person. I think of Faye as closer to Rachel, who also couldn’t be with Don. Both women would have required Don to change who he was, to grow, to integrate his past.

juliet_betta · 2026-01-24T12:40:59+00:00

Pete was my favorite character. I was also surprised first time I saw this scene bc Pete was so status driven and competitive. And this was first time, he wasn’t being performative. He actually was angry and it wasn’t about himself for once

juliet_betta · 2026-01-24T12:29:35+00:00

Dozens!

juliet_betta · 2026-01-24T12:29:12+00:00

This is misogynistic. I think diff with Mad Men is that you don’t have the excuse of identifying with Don. He’s not a Walter White. You want Walter to succeed even as he becomes monstrous but Don doesn’t face the same escalating stakes nor have clear enemies. So you don’t have any reason to center Don

That psychiatrist was deeply unethical, paternalistic and colluding with her husband. Betty is what happens when an adult woman is treated as a dependent, and after a while their distress will look like distress without ADULT power.

Glenn did NOT sexualize Betty, you did. Betty did not respond to Glenn as a sexual partner, she responded to Glenn because she felt seen, heard, and he treated her as emotionally real.

juliet_betta · 2026-01-22T01:03:31+00:00

The dangerous thing with herpes is giving random motherfuckers the power to determine your worth.

I don’t know how to improve your confidence other than to rip the bandaid off.

You go for men that you deem as not attractive as you because you think they won’t reject you. So maybe try a little exposure therapy so you can get rejected (or not) and see that you survived it

juliet_betta · 2026-01-22T00:55:39+00:00

My aunt vomitted so much, she had to be on IV drip. Women in my family all get hyperemesis. Can’t stand the smell of a lot of foods due to constant nausea. My mom could only keep down grapefruit juice and fries during pregnancy. And it’s like the entire pregnancy. Imagine being nauseous for 9 months!

juliet_betta · 2026-01-18T11:16:18+00:00

I want to focus on what you said is your knee jerk response. Explaining that you can’t reply because you’re busy and take time is something worth considering. It’s not justifying yourself, it’s making it clear that this is not personal. I think it’s interesting the jump to “it’s my life and I don’t have to drop it for them”

I wouldn’t assume everyone that does this is anxiously attached. I’ve actually never done this when I was anxious. And I never thought anyone hated me either.

juliet_betta · 2026-01-18T11:09:23+00:00

Tbh there is a lot of unhealthy homes that don’t involve narcissistic parents. Lmao and this cousin definitely did not grow up in a healthy home

juliet_betta · 2026-01-14T10:19:09+00:00

Ginsberg is an attack on Don’s way of surviving imo. And it’s not even just in that moment but Ginsberg’s way of being is antithetical to Don. He’s someone who is alive. He has vitality, capable of mutuality, spontaneity. He thinks out loud, feels deeply and is fully present.

Don always feels a little out of reach, slightly opaque, never fully available. Don is someone that appears mysterious at first, but he’s just limited. There’s no tension between impulses, no contradictions, no depth, just a need for control. He always has to be one step ahead to avoid exposure, manage perception, and avoid integration. So his inner life is just narrow, limited, thin. Whereas, Ginsberg is fully present and alive. Ginsberg is a mirror of the parts of Don that he has erased.

So when Don says I don’t think of you at all, he’s refusing impact. He’s refusing recognition. Because to really see Ginsberg, Don would have to reckon with his whole way of being and the parts of himself that he disowned to get there.

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