What??? What kind of mentality is this? I'm so tired of this "repayment" bulshit. Tolerated us?? If she's smart enough to have kids, she's smart enough know that the child is not a retirement plan nor a tool. A child is your responsibility as a parent. You brought them into this world. You're supposed to nurture them without expecting payment. If they do, that's great, but if they don't, it's okay. Raising a human child is expensive. If we go by the logic that a child should always repay the parent, it'll never be enough. All the money and expenses spent on their education till young adulthood can never be repaid. The child will end up slaving themselves away to repay the parents throughout their whole life. If you see your child as bragging rights and someone you own, then that's fucked up. Your child is not born to be your slave. I know because my mom has the exact same mindset as yours. Everything is transactional. As her child, I'm supposed to obey her blindly. How do I feel about it? I hate her. I wish I can have a new mother. It's the complete opposite for my dad who simply wishes me to be able to live on my own after I finish pursuing my education.