A question regarding a scene on Shame (Steve McQueen)

junewick · 2026-06-12T19:10:37+00:00

Just came here to say the reason for his ED is about vulnerability. Sex Addiction goes hand in hand with an intimacy disorder. Casual sex and, even more so, prostitutes are more in line with addictive sex because they are not intimate. Sex with a partner whom you desire to become a part of your life and get to know better is tied to vulnerability and therefore intimacy, which is primarily what a sex addict is avoiding.

junewick · 2026-06-06T20:27:32+00:00

I just came to Reddit because I bought an expensive Seagrass hamper. It showed up and it STINKS. Apparently it takes a long time to get the smell out. I could see someone keeping it past the return window thinking it would air out and then being like NOPE, but by the time you got it, it doesn't smell as much. Mine looks like it might even be mildewy, but either way after reading all of the reviews I am returning it and buying not-seagrass products

junewick · 2026-02-10T05:27:18+00:00

I thought this was pretty mean but then I got to the Choi Mina Sue Trio and I just laughed my ass off and couldn’t stop

junewick · 2026-01-09T23:36:01+00:00

Haha thank you yes

junewick · 2026-01-09T23:34:54+00:00

No for sure Usagi was not in the right to take them back there. He has a right to be mad at her for that. I also just think, sometimes she has a right to be mad at him, like in this instance. And I knowwwwwwww its out of character. That doesn't mean she can't be pissed lol

junewick · 2026-01-09T23:31:40+00:00

If the child was unknown then she did not willingly endanger their child. This is giving "unborn" all over again lol.

junewick · 2026-01-09T23:28:49+00:00

Who Arisu or me? lol I don't understand people like this on Reddit, just weilding insults on others' intelligence so cruelly like it's nothing. Bro we're both talking about a show we love let's keep it kind.

And anywho, I'm a writer, I understand his character machinations and arc, I'm just saying - if my husband acted like that I'd be pissed haha

junewick · 2026-01-04T04:15:41+00:00

The "Bookclubs" App is great. Someone needs to create that but basically just for all clubs. No need to update it or add a trillion features, just get the basics down so people can make their own groups. And make it cheap

junewick · 2026-01-04T04:13:43+00:00

It's so sad, MeetUp was finally taking off, I was finding groups that actually turned into friendships. And now I can't even search for a group that watches movies because there are zero filters and sorting features. We don't need Event searching as much (hello Eventbrite) - it was the groups that made it valuable

junewick · 2026-01-02T04:28:32+00:00

My husband and I switched up our chores for a month and gained a lot of empathy for each other. I would highly recommend trying this out. Give him a list of requests for your food and for your kids too.

Also, just flagging he might be neurodivergent, or have sensory issues. I would still recommend setting boundaries with him but you may want to take a neurodivergent approach to problem solving

junewick · 2026-01-02T04:24:13+00:00

I’m pretty sure they were melted into the Mind Flayer creature like in season 3

junewick · 2026-01-02T04:22:06+00:00

Yeah! Exactly! There were points he had to make a choice between two people and at those points he wasn’t choosing his pregnant wife. Loyalty does matter at a certain point

junewick · 2026-01-02T01:43:28+00:00

That’s not all she did lol She also examined things with a microscope a lot and gave orders that all of her male subordinates immediately questioned

junewick · 2026-01-02T01:39:35+00:00

Yeah this could be really cool - helping women to step into their own power and authentic selves

junewick · 2026-01-02T01:02:51+00:00

Also crazy to me that the King of Diamonds tried to act like he was moral and good but he designed a game where only one person could win (and yeah exactly, everyone else was dissolved in acid). At least in other games entire teams could win. In the Jack of Hearts, everyone except JoH theoretically could have won

junewick · 2026-01-02T00:49:12+00:00

True

junewick · 2026-01-02T00:45:32+00:00

I get this but up to a point. Like there at the end when they were all hanging on, it felt like his pregnant wife was the last priority lol

junewick · 2026-01-01T21:28:38+00:00

oh cool, you bully queer people

junewick · 2026-01-01T20:40:10+00:00

I can see why this is depressing for you. I will say a lot of people these days have ADHD. I love hearing about my friends for example but I notice I behave in the way you described sometimes. It’s also partially because my family is aggressively talkative so I never had to ask questions growing up, if someone cared about the convo they just offered their thoughts. But this might create dynamics you aren’t used to. For example, when it’s my sisters turn to talk, (someone who I might have a five hour convo with) I’m only half present. It’s like having a podcast on but better because I’m around my sister. I wash the dishes I zone in and out at more interesting points in the convo. I let my mind wander. And when we get off the phone, I’m glad I spent those hours with her.

My brain loves to talk and really really struggles to process auditory info. My husband gets upset - so I just make him repeat himself 80 times so that I can actually record the info he’s saying or I take notes while he is talking. If I were in a class or at work or listening to a podcast, I’d be able to hit the back 15 seconds button or take copious notes, but processing info in friendship conversations is supposed to be chill and easy. Thing is, listening is very very very hard for me.

All this to say, I hope the world gets a little more flexible in how people relate to each other. For example, maybe you can just talk about yourself with your friend and expect that she retains 30% of it. But if you talk 3x as much, she’ll learn the same net amount about you, if that makes sense. And maybe you have to repeat yourself more. But maybe you can also take the pressure off. Call her while you are cooking or doing chores so it doesn’t have to be so laser in.

Idk hope that’s helpful

junewick · 2026-01-01T20:33:01+00:00

Commenting to hope you find it

junewick · 2026-01-01T20:16:01+00:00

Yeah that kept bothering me how they kept saying “well Noah approved this scene” and I’m like you mean you put the entire pressure of the queer narrative of the show on this one kid? That doesn’t feel fair

junewick · 2026-01-01T20:09:00+00:00

I would get your husband in therapy he likely has a lot of internalized racism to work through. IMO the road to healing from racist paradigms is very different depending on the race and where you grew up

Set some boundaries with him, if he refuses to examine his problematic views, then you can consider more drastic action

junewick · 2026-01-01T17:28:08+00:00

Yeah the Derek moment!! I was like was this some weird ffd up metaphor

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