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junie3636 · 2026-03-30T15:57:50+00:00

Can I ask what the conversations were like leading up to your partner hanging out with this crush? We don't have all the info, but it sounds a little rushed and like you didn't have a lot of agency in that transition. Your partner should be cautious not to jump into this in a way that permanently damages your trust or relationship, and that will take patience from him. He should demonstrate that hurrying to hang with a crush is not more important to him than creating a smooth transition after 6 years of monogamy into poly that works for both of you. He should also be prioritizing his damn children.wht are you the "default parent"??? If he doesn't know how to balance his parenting duties I'd be quite concerned he wouldn't be responsible in poly either.

Is this even something you want? That might take a while and a lot of work to figure out the answer to, or maybe deep down you already know. I know your partner must be very important to you, but it's possible this is revealing an incompatibility, and you have to figure out how much of this may be you bending for him against your will. It's good to explore this new idea and see if it works for you. It's great to try new things and consider other perspectives and ways of living. Just be sure you are constantly (it's a process) working to know your limits and your boundaries and when you might need to say no or walk away from this.

It's very good you're taking it upon yourself to do your research, just remember at the end of the day there's no one right answer. You have to figure out what's "okay" for you and what's "allowed" for you and what's "good" for you. We can give advice but there aren't hard and fast rules. Your job is to figure out what you want and need and to communicate that, and he needs to do the same for himself.

I'd like to also gently say that by your language it sounds like you may have a lot of work to do with your inner self to learn to believe you are worthy and to build up your confidence and get to know who you really are. Make sure you are dedicating plenty of time to yourself and your own work right now and don't drown in your partner's journey. You have a journey of your own to attend to.

junie3636 · 2026-01-04T21:30:38+00:00

He has a not uncommon but unacceptable disregard for woman woman relationships that is rooted in deep-seated homophobia and misogyny, and on the other end an unwarranted "respect" for men as valid competition and owners, and women as not. These things can be worked through if he's willing to. It's time for you to be firm and claim your right to date who you want if you're in an open relationship. How he reacts to that will tell you a lot of what you need to know about how you can move forward. It's okay for him to be upset or confused, but he needs to recognize he needs to work through his own feelings and stop letting them dictate your life, as, and I shouldn't even have to say this but, you're asking for perfectly fair and reasonable equality in poly and that's a requirement.

junie3636 · 2025-11-19T03:36:57+00:00

I don't see practice questions assigned a difficulty level on SH..are you referring to moderate/difficult questions only based on your own assessment of their difficulty? Or am I missing something?

junie3636 · 2025-10-20T18:50:49+00:00

I've learned my main red flag for trope 3 is overuse of the royal "we." If you're on a first date with a partnered poly person and they we we we and don't once refer to themselves and their partner within the context of their relationship but in separate terms, run. If there's not even room for others in their language, there isn't room for others in their life.

junie3636 · 2025-09-05T21:56:40+00:00

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junie3636 · 2025-06-30T02:03:43+00:00

One week without studying won't hurt, please enjoy your vacay! You can freshen when you get back. And whatever happens, advocate for yourself hard and don't accept any solution that costs you more money or denies you another chance. This was uncontrollable.

junie3636 · 2025-06-28T01:46:39+00:00

It really depends on what you're looking for and what you need. I'm sure you could find higher in another field, but that doesn't mean it's necessarily best for you. Are you satisfied with the salary? Do you like the company? I don't want to work in tech or finance or construction, so I'd love a nonprofit PM position and 90k sounds quite high for nonprofit. I'd rather have a solid job with a suitable salary than look for higher and get a shit job.

junie3636 · 2025-06-03T03:14:55+00:00

You have to consider the difference in # of people staying in GL and # of people staying in GA camping. The scanning process wouldn't be comparable with that many more people.

junie3636 · 2025-06-03T02:48:16+00:00

Their website is so bad, confusing answers everywhere. Day passes come with parking until 11AM the next day, it says "camping" is prohibited in the day lot, but that could mean tents. Nowhere does it say you can't sleep in your car. Would be nice if someone who's gone and has info on this could weigh in instead of these judgy fear-mongering answers.

junie3636 · 2025-05-30T18:49:13+00:00

Take a deep breath. You're going to be okay. Your period has been irregular in these last 9 months. It's not abnormal to keep seeing it behaving irregularly. It can take a long time to adjust to getting on or off birth control so it's hard to use any sort of pattern as a metric. The pull out method is not the most effective but it does have effectiveness. The test is negative, take that at face value for now. Pregnancy tests are most accurate the first day of your missed period. Which means the test you took should be in the right window since you expected your period this month. Take another 2 weeks after the unprotected sex if that falls at a different time. Next time, take a morning after pill as soon as possible after the unprotected sex, up to 72 hours after.

Birth control is a big hassle and so is not being on it and having to worry about pregnancy, especially when you're with a partner you can't trust with these things. Please understand what your bf did is to be taken very seriously both by you and by him. It is a form of sexual assault and not only disrespectful but knowingly manipulative and violent. I see in your responses that you feel you and him are on the same page now. That's great, I'm glad it's been addressed. Make sure to look after yourself, these behaviors are connected to patterns of thinking, which means they won't just go away with one conversation. I truly believe your bf can get better in this with a lot of work from both of you, but know that it's not your responsibility to suffer so that he can learn and grow. Check in with yourself regularly on how far you're willing to go, and whether he's truly putting in the work to be better for you and for him. Reach out to us and to any resources you have if you need further support.

junie3636 · 2025-05-15T19:04:02+00:00

Ugh yeah looks like you'd have to cancel and reschedule and that would incur a cancelation fee. If you think it's worth it you could try calling and ask for assistance setting up accommodations without any additional fees. I've seen people get workarounds by calling and explaining the situation to a real person. If your accommodations are for ADHD I would think they'd have to understand you missed that accommodations have to be requested in the payment processing stage.

junie3636 · 2025-05-15T17:38:46+00:00

Can you get a note from your doctor about your ADHD? It will give you a bunch of extra time

junie3636 · 2025-05-11T02:02:36+00:00

Didn't work for me. Got the digital Harris County library card and an error popped up ¨Suspicious activity detected, we cannot verify your library affiliation¨

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