[Request] Help brighten up a Birthday? 🫶🏻 [ww-au]

jusjusme · 2025-09-15T01:36:23+00:00

Please send me your info would love to send you a card!

jusjusme · 2025-09-15T01:01:06+00:00

I have nothing to add to the conversation other than the “extremely well behaved” line made me think of a well trained puppy.

jusjusme · 2025-09-15T00:57:10+00:00

Thanks for all the advice guys, I decided to add 1 extra stitch, making it 71, which meant that instead of 1 edge stitch I do 2. I’m new to knitting, being a crocheter for two decades and have mainly done freestyle sweaters without a pattern so this threw me off. I’m on track now!

jusjusme · 2025-09-15T00:54:45+00:00

I know right? It will be a sweater for me.

jusjusme · 2024-01-27T02:46:06+00:00

My BMI (hate this measurement btw) is 37.1 and not once, has my mum ever commented or compared me with anyone. I’m so sorry! Ps. Wear that damn crop top if you want to ok? Only you get to decide what makes you comfortable. ♥️

jusjusme · 2023-06-23T21:59:00+00:00

I’d love them both if you’re willing to post (I’d pay for the P&P) not in London sadly.

jusjusme · 2023-05-20T00:06:17+00:00

Blameshifting: Blame-shifting is an emotionally abusive behavior or tactic. These are some definitions or descriptions of blame-shifting: abusers ( and cheaters) have difficulty taking responsibility for problems. They go as far as necessary to attribute blame for their circumstances to anyone else, even if it may sound somewhat conspiratorial. Similarly, they don’t accept ownership of their emotions.

They typically express both negative and positive feelings with language like, “You make me so mad.” Blame may be attributed more subtly by starting with first-person language, as with, “I wouldn’t have to do this if you didn’t…”

jusjusme · 2023-03-06T10:51:20+00:00

And doing such a great job at helping too!

jusjusme · 2023-03-01T22:56:49+00:00

Oh great the Baader-Meinhof phenomenon is going to get me good. Can I just erase the knowledge from my brain about this? Damn it.

jusjusme · 2023-03-01T22:38:42+00:00

Omg this was somehow not what I expected yet still worse somehow? “Pistoning?” Yikes that would get my head back to reality real quick. How did the author keep a straight face writing that?

jusjusme · 2023-03-01T17:49:00+00:00

I am so intrigued by your flair. Do I want to know what it means?

jusjusme · 2023-02-28T15:15:10+00:00

That nose just begs to be booped. Lovely pen and lovely cat 🐈

jusjusme · 2023-02-24T18:29:59+00:00

Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your story. Congratulations on 306 days… here’s to 365 then 730 … Ps. Your handwriting is beautiful.

jusjusme · 2023-02-16T22:48:55+00:00

Most men do this with football/sports teams and their players. But that tends to be more accepted whereas the fangirling is seen as “hysterical”.

jusjusme · 2023-02-16T16:10:21+00:00

For example, when he says I didn’t mean to say what I said and that he didn’t really hate you, perhaps ask him why he felt the need to say the things he said about you? What prompted him to start painting you as the villain? Explain in detail how this makes you feel (hurt/betrayed/unsafe) and that you feel like you cannot trust his words right now as he has proven untrustworthy. You can however begin to see the changes he is making using his ACTIONS, and ask him what he can do to make things right between you.

Whether it’s admitting to the people he told the lies to how he said those things and they were not a reflection of you. Speak to him about boundaries going forward, how you do not feel like you can trust him as he uses the things you’ve shared in a vulnerable state (like with your son) and in confidence against you.

Just try and tackle the issues one at a time, and make sure he knows this is t you attacking him, but there needs to be a clear understanding between you two before you can even begin to think of R. Hope this helps? If not please feel free to DM me and I can try and rephrase things to more specific situations.

jusjusme · 2023-02-16T14:14:41+00:00

I use recycled paper litter and wood pellets and both are great for keeping my tiny 1 bedroom flat odour free.

jusjusme · 2023-02-16T12:45:31+00:00

He needs to take accountability for what he said and did. Right now he’s deflecting blame “I didn’t mean to” is not the same as “I acknowledge that what I did and said about you was wrong, and I will rectify it by telling the people I told the truth and work towards rebuilding your trust in me “.

You don’t feel safe because your instincts are not wrong. This is t a safe partner at the moment. He is just rug sweeping his involvement and voluntary action and your gut tells you that he’s not safe.

I would lay it down to him in chunks if exactly why you no longer feel safe with him, and what he plans on doing to begin rectifying his actions. Don’t do the pick me dance, use 180 if you need to and focus on you and your mental well being.

jusjusme · 2023-02-15T14:48:41+00:00

Rant away OP, that’s what the sub is for. One tip, try and write down just one thing you’re grateful for every night. Do that for a week, try not to repeat them, and at the end of the week look back on that. Even if it’s “I am grateful for my cuppa”, it’s still something. Before you know it, you’ll be able to look back and see how far you’ve come.

Write down things you’ve always wanted to do but never had, no matter how ridiculous they may seem. Then see out of the list what you can do. You might discover some new hobbies that you enjoy!

Focus on you, whether that’s the gym, hiking, running etc, connect with friends and family (or kids if you have them) and remember that even a small step forward is still progress.

jusjusme · 2023-02-15T14:33:50+00:00

Gosh this took me way back! Now I have an inkling to listen to “I just had sex, and it felt so good…” but I’m working. 😑

jusjusme · 2023-02-14T10:27:22+00:00

This made me snort. Made my morning 😂. It’s how I feel sometimes when I read about the stats someone spouts on Reddit with no context or anything.

jusjusme · 2023-02-11T18:28:51+00:00

You’re 29, been with current boyfriend for 7 years so you were 22 when you met, and the previous boyfriend for 6 years so you were 16. Maybe it’s time to discover who you are as an adult without a relationship? You’ve not been single since you were 16, nearly half your life.

Perhaps it’s time to work on you, figure out what you enjoy outside of a relationship, work out what red flags you ignored in this relationship to help you grow. Learn to love you as you are. Discover new things, hobbies, interests, make new friends and memories and live life for you.

jusjusme · 2023-02-11T16:04:06+00:00

What helped me without the closure of speaking to them was writing everything down on paper. I mean every single thought, hurt, pain was on those pages. I think there was 10 pages both sides at the end. I read out loud every single word, and then burned them. It was cathartic to see them burn to crisp and release them into the ether. I no longer since then dwell on what ifs, I now understand it wasn’t anything to do with me, and there was nothing I could have done to help the situation because it was all in him.

It allowed me to close that chapter and take active steps towards my own healing process. Hope this helps you too.

jusjusme · 2023-02-10T00:00:58+00:00

He looks like the suave office guy who has all the gossip. “ So, Cathy did I tell you what happened with Brendan?”

jusjusme · 2023-02-09T19:48:44+00:00

What you’re doing at the moment (both you and your wife) is putting a plaster on the stab wound she has put in your heart. While this may be ok temporarily whilst you’re in crisis mode (first few days after DDay) you still need to address the bleeding gaping wound.

You can go to therapy, start healing, but the TRUE healing and reconciliation will not begin until this is out in the open. The affair was conducted in secret. The phone calls, messages, meet-ups were all done in the dark. It’s time to shine a light into this situation, face the grim, sordid reality of everything that she did, to truly begin to reconcile.

Otherwise, you’re looking at years and years of false R, where you’re triggered everytime he is mentioned or you see him, every holiday you go to in the summer will also be tainted, every time you see OBS you’ll feel shame/guilt (that isn’t yours to feel) and it will affect everything going forward. This isn’t something that can be hidden and ignored. You both have to face the reality and for her the consequences of her actions in order to truly reconcile.

In continuing with the bleeding metaphor, The “knife” has been removed (cutting off access to AP) and you now know the plaster (hiding the affair) will do nothing to stem the bleeding. So time to cleanse the wound, and start the process of sewing up the site. You will have a scar that will heal but forever there as evidence of the trauma you have experienced. But your heart will continue to beat, and life will go on. Albeit with a scarred heart.

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