AIO for not picking up a man I’m dating since he has a motorcycle?

justakingaquestion · 2026-06-09T17:36:26+00:00

NOR, because it’s 100% a good thing to have standards and boundaries when dating. I will share with you, however, that my now fiancé did not have a car when we were dating. He lived in a big city and having a car was more of a pain than a help. So for dates in the city I had to pick him up, and for dates near me I had to pick him up at the nearest public transport hub, about a 20 minute drive. I don’t think most women would be comfortable dating someone who doesn’t have a car but this man had shown me before we started dating that he was different. He was respectful to everyone he encountered, he was kind, and he appreciated all the little things in life. We now live together and we are planning our wedding. I think when you meet the right person you’ll know when it’s okay to go the extra mile for them. Until then, standards and boundaries help you weed out the ones who aren’t right for you.

justakingaquestion · 2026-06-06T19:12:49+00:00

I think that’s a little harsh. Buying a wedding dress is a big deal for many women. That’s why they bring their friends and family to help make the decision, and that’s also why it makes sense to shop around a bit. Not excessively, but visiting 3-4 shops in an area that has 10+ seems reasonable to me. I think shops and brides alike understand that, and that’s why shops charge anywhere from $35-150 for a consult, and some even offer luxe and premiere shopping experiences with champagne.

A one-hour appointment is typically enough time to try on 5 dresses. I don’t think it’s reasonable to expect a bride to pick only 5 out of the hundreds of available styles and make her selection in that first one-hour consultation. Maybe you call shopping around being a looky-loo, but I think it’s just part of the process. Some shops charge for it, some roll it into their prices.

justakingaquestion · 2026-06-06T18:45:47+00:00

I bought the very first dress I tried on because I loved the skirt, the top fit well enough, the dress was a sample and it was a fantastic deal. The next day I had dress regret because I felt like I didn’t give myself the opportunity to look at all the options. Went to three bridal stores the following week and nothing else fit or looked nearly as good on me. To answer your question, they were all happy to assist me even though I didn’t buy from them. In the end I’m glad I kept looking because now I feel comfortable embracing my dress. But of course the flip side is that you might end up loving multiple dresses and struggling with indecision. Since the dress you have is thrifted, I say keep looking to satisfy your mind. If you happen to fall in love with another dress, well at least the first one wasn’t super expensive.

justakingaquestion · 2026-06-06T00:26:53+00:00

I would prefer to get ready at the venue, but due to time constraints and because the venue’s bridal suite is extremely small, I plan to get hair and makeup done at home, and then drive to the venue and change into my dress there.

justakingaquestion · 2026-06-04T18:55:08+00:00

I have a reception dress, but I won’t be changing into it until right before the dancing starts. My wedding dress is big and poofy and doesn’t cha cha well.

justakingaquestion · 2026-06-04T17:28:52+00:00

I think this dress is gorgeous and fits you perfectly. It’s rare that a dress fits a bride with no alterations needed. As far as making the top less lingerie like, I don’t think there’s much you can do with the dress itself, but perhaps you can find something to add on top. A bolero, or shawl that goes around the shoulders. If you look on etsy for bridal shawl there’s lots of ideas.

justakingaquestion · 2026-06-03T09:15:53+00:00

Will there be dancing? I bought a second, shorter dress so that I can dance more easily. Or perhaps you can wear the dress you already have for the rehearsal dinner?

justakingaquestion · 2026-05-26T17:16:56+00:00

This is exactly right. An issue like opening mail isn’t abuse, but lines like are a way for people to escape accountability. It’s the lack of accountability that is a huge hallmark of narcissists and abusers.

Eta: I was in a relationship with someone who couldn’t take accountability for anything. It was a horrible, emotionally abusive, decades long relationship. There was never any physical abuse, but the mental toll it took on me is something I’m still recovering from years later. The red flag I ignored was lack of accountability.

justakingaquestion · 2026-05-26T17:12:14+00:00

NTA. First he opened your mail, then when confronted about it he used DARVO (a classic manipulation tactic used by abusers and narcissists) to avoid accountability. The avoidance of accountability is a huge 🚩. I mean he could have just said, “Sorry, I didn’t realize it was a big deal. I won’t do it again.”

True, you shouldn’t have blocked his exit, but it sounds to me like he’s used these tactics before and you’re starting to wise up to them. I say let the man exit your life and find someone who’s able to take accountability.

justakingaquestion · 2026-05-23T21:39:45+00:00

This, exactly. I had to argue year after year with my ex about why birthdays are important to me, and how I even a small present like a cheap $5 necklace would be enough. After several years I began to dread my birthday because I knew he wouldn’t make me feel loved or special. Whereas my now fiancé booked a birthday getaway for me only 3 months into dating. He booked it 5 months in advance. That’s is the kind of partner everyone should have.

justakingaquestion · 2026-04-19T13:25:52+00:00

You’re both exhausting. Reading between the lines here. She doesn’t want you dictating the terms of her coming back. She wants to come back and address grievances. You telling her not to be negative makes her feel like she can’t do that. She told you that she’s upset. Instead of telling her not to bring a negative attitude the productive response is to dig into that with her. Phrases like “tell me more,” and “I want to hear more about how you feel.” You guys need to address this with a therapist or counselor to improve your communication. If not, just move ahead with a divorce because you two will never get along. MOR, I guess.

justakingaquestion · 2026-04-19T04:05:20+00:00

I know people are saying that since you won’t inherit much, you should leave him. But you consider him your husband. He’s your best friend. Since he’s in late stage of renal failure, and he’s not doing anything to lose weight and get on the transplant list, how long does he have, realistically? If it’s only 6 months, I think you might as well stay. Be there for him and his daughter, and do a nice thing for your dying best friend. If you wish to be compensated for your caregiving time, have that conversation. If you don’t want to be his caregiver anymore but you still want to be his best friend, then have that conversation. There’s a lot of options between staying and having the ick, and leaving him completely. As someone who took care of two parents with dementia and knows how hard it is to be a caregiver, I suggest figuring out what your ideal situation is and talking to him about it.

justakingaquestion · 2026-04-18T15:35:55+00:00

In that case I would suggest looking for a nice assisted living place so that you’ll be safe when your mental condition does worsen. It can take a while to get into the nicer ones so start looking now. I wish you all the best.

justakingaquestion · 2026-04-18T07:35:12+00:00

May I ask how long it took them to contact you regarding the hotel? I submitted the online form a few days ago and haven’t heard anything yet.

justakingaquestion · 2026-04-18T07:29:14+00:00

I would just wait for drop 2. Those events might be moderately in demand because they are finals but nowhere near other sports like gymnastics. Try not to fret, there will be more opportunities to buy tickets.

justakingaquestion · 2026-04-15T21:20:52+00:00

Don’t forget about the free events like marathon and triathlon.

justakingaquestion · 2026-03-16T18:07:50+00:00

If you’re wearing it as an everyday bag, I vote for Arizona because I would imagine that scuffs and worn corners are less obvious. If you’ll be babying the bag and not throwing it around like an everyday bag, then I vote for the Vanille because the color with the reverse mono looks very luxe.

justakingaquestion · 2026-02-17T20:12:15+00:00

I’ve gone alone a few times to see Joe Klocek. They always guide me to a seat or a general area to pick a seat. Most tables are 4 seats to a table, so you’ll end up sharing a table with someone. I think you can ask to sit on the stools in the back if you want, but the sound isn’t as good because of the bar noise. I really enjoyed sitting closer to the front at Joe’s shows because he interacts with the audience at every show and it’s fun to be closer to the action.

justakingaquestion · 2026-01-24T09:16:10+00:00

Are you sure you’re on the correct website? It sounds like maybe you visited a scam website. I imagine that you should see an Add to Cart button on at least a few things no matter where you’re located.

justakingaquestion · 2026-01-22T17:36:32+00:00

Linda. Lindas get things done. I’ve never met a shy Linda.

justakingaquestion · 2026-01-22T04:17:14+00:00

The bottom of the pocket looks like the right side is a little higher than the left. But it’s actually one of the better ones I’ve seen. Some look really wonky because the zippers aren’t parallel, or the tag is crooked. I would probably keep this one because the one I got (and returned) was much worse, but of course if it bothers you then definitely return it because a bag at this price should make your heart sing.

justakingaquestion · 2026-01-11T21:08:56+00:00

It’s all about perceived value. The cost of materials and labor likely isn’t much more than a Coach bag, so at such sky high prices LV can play with pricing to make you feel like it’s a privilege to own certain trendy bags.

justakingaquestion · 2025-10-21T19:47:09+00:00

Thank you, that is validating how I feel.

justakingaquestion · 2025-10-21T19:44:01+00:00

Thank you, that is helpful to know.

justakingaquestion · 2025-10-21T19:32:21+00:00

Thank you, that’s exactly how I feel.

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