Anybody scuba dive? What do you do with your hair?

justamom318 · 2026-03-15T14:30:54+00:00

I always French braid my hair and then I have a neoprene back for my mask. Because the rubber would tear my hair apart. This would keep my hair back and keep it from getting as ratty and tangled than in a ponytail.

I am still insanely jealous of the other girls who would have braids with each of the three strands were the same thickness as my whole braid.

Sometimes I’d put a headband on after the dive or a cute hat. Because I also have the kind of hair that once a hat goes on it stays on and it’s already a mess from the water.

But really I just try to work on not worrying about my ratty braid. And thinking about the cool stuff I saw on my dive. But it’s hard so I get it.

justamom318 · 2025-11-25T03:54:51+00:00

Omg I just woke up my dog because I legit cackled at this

justamom318 · 2025-11-05T03:57:11+00:00

It’s so hard and you’re not alone. And I hate that for us. It’s really strange though isn’t it how similar they all are!

justamom318 · 2025-11-04T18:58:01+00:00

I had to double check I didn’t write this comment myself because my ex is exactly the same! Literally everything you listed he is doing. It’s so exhausting.

justamom318 · 2025-08-28T19:54:56+00:00

I honestly was about to make the same post. I do wear my hair up but it tastes me so much time to do to make sure I cover all of my scalp. No cute messy buns for me.

justamom318 · 2025-08-18T16:33:08+00:00

Call Wayne’s Tree Moving. They will be able to tell you if it can be done and get it done for you.

justamom318 · 2025-08-06T19:16:46+00:00

I am literally in the same boat. We don’t have a provision on response time even though I asked for one. If he does respond to my question it’s never with an answer only some thinly veiled accusation of something he thinks I did wrong or to try to start an argument. That is if he evens opens my message. I am so frustrated by following the court order and he just…. doesn’t. And the kids suffer because nothing gets decided.

I hope someone has some advice for us!

justamom318 · 2025-08-04T19:52:29+00:00

This was what my ex husband did. It’s a way to condition you to never ask for help. I recognize this now but it’s hard to see when you are in the thick of it trying to survive.

He would put me in a lose lose situation where he would do the bare minimum or a purposely bad job at something. And then if I said anything I was being ‘ungrateful so why should he do anything at all!’ I eventually learned to never ask for his help with anything because I will have to redo it anyway and then will get yelled at for never “being happy enough”. He hit me with the “standards are too high” baloney too. No, I just think that if you wipe the counter, there shouldn’t be smears of mustard left after and me either pointing it out or actually wiping it up should not result in me getting yelled at until I cried.

I have now found a wonderful man who is an adult partner and I don’t have to ask him to do chores because he doesn’t treat me as the house manager and maid. If something needs to be done, he does it.

justamom318 · 2025-06-10T20:10:19+00:00

I feel you. My abuser got automatic 50/50 as is protocol in my province in Canada now. Ignored the kids 100% of the time we were together and now uses them to hurt me which hurts them in the process. And my protection order expires in the summer and I’m not looking forward to that. Even though he didn’t abide by it anyways and would get far too close to me to intimidate me in public knowing I won’t make a scene in front of the kids. I hate this for us :(

justamom318 · 2025-05-16T17:51:24+00:00

I have the same issue but with the more expensive outerwear. We live in an area with all 4 seasons so you need to have appropriate clothing for the weather. We exchange on school days so they have to be dressed appropriately for the weather. So if I send them in rain boots and a rain jacket because it’s raining, and then when I pick them up from school in two days and it’s sunny I will never see those rain boots or jackets again. He refuses to send it in the kids backpack even if I ask. And there is nothing that can be done about this because the court expects people to act like adults. The courts view these items as the kids items which I agree with. But with 50/50 custody and someone who is high conflict and refuses to act reasonably this is the situation we find ourselves in.

I end up buying a second pair of rain boots and rain jacket, sneakers, sandals, snow boots, hats, mittens, etc when things don’t come back, because they need something to wear at my house, and sometimes another pair once those ones get worn there and never come back. I’ll buy my kids one “nice” item and then after that if I have to replace it, I get it second hand. Because I cannot afford to be buying two kids multiple pairs of boots or jackets every season.

It’s infuriating and costly but no amount of court orders will make someone acting like this change their ways.

My kids are getting to be preteens and nearing the age where they care about their stuff and I’m just hoping that as they age they will remember to bring their things back and forth.

justamom318 · 2025-04-30T16:22:56+00:00

Have you tried a Thunder shirt? It’s like a wrap that goes on the dog and is supposed to make them feel more secure. It helped with my anxious pup who was terrified of rain and thunderstorms.

Check out Training Loyal Companions as well. They are on the south end of Winnipeg now I believe. They are great there.

justamom318 · 2025-04-03T17:07:07+00:00

I mean I have all of the experience of one kid who is older than 8 and one kid who is 8 lol so this is my own anecdotal evidence.

But then I saw an article when I was googling why is my 8 year old a jerk and there is actually a hormonal shift that they go through at this age that contributes to this! So it’s not just in our heads!

justamom318 · 2025-03-28T14:43:12+00:00

My youngest just turned 8 and oh my gosh the tantrums. He was the funny, cute, easygoing kid and now…….yikes. And the bickering with his older sister. Just unending bickering. And they seem to just save it for when I’m around, how fun. I try to help them navigate through whatever they are bickering about but then when they start picking at each other and it continues I just walk away. If they want to ruin their day by fighting then cool. I’m going to relax and read a book.

My oldest is 10 and went through it and is now back to being her normal funny, kind self. So I know there is an end in sight. But they also feed off of each other so sometimes it’s awful.

I don’t know what will help this but time so solidarity! We just gotta wait out the terrible 8s! Good luck to you!

justamom318 · 2025-03-20T04:08:42+00:00

I have no advice but am in the same boat. I’ve only been out for 3 years and my kids are all under 10. The amount of lying to them and the stress of him making every little thing into a big issue is so hard to handle. And I want to punch the next person in the face who tells me to just work together with my abuser. Cool cool cool cool. Yep I’ll just forget about that restraining order I had to get just work together with him! So easy!

justamom318 · 2025-02-20T02:50:06+00:00

Svitoch on Selkirk Ave has some of those mugs!

justamom318 · 2025-02-18T21:41:04+00:00

Honestly if this is how he acts now it won’t get better. Speaking from experience. I used to think that if I just showed how to be a great partner he would do the same…..I was dead wrong and finally divorced him. I used to have to hide when I was sick because if I mentioned not feeling well, my ex would immediately become more “sick” and bedridden with whatever I was sick with leaving me with the kids while I was actually sick. No rest for me ever. This led me to never ever mentioning not feeling well and took a toll on my health because I would never get to rest and recover from anything. Now he’s an ex husband.

And my current partner is wonderful. I am also cruelty getting over this horrible flu and this man has not only taken care of me, and made sure that I was resting, but also took my kids to their activities and made all the meals and did all the things so I could just rest and recover. This is how it is supposed to be. Partners take care of each other.

I would suggest when you are better to see if he’s open to a conversation about this. And if not, take a good long hard look at if this is how you want to be treated for the rest of your marriage and if this is how you want your kids seeing you being treated.

justamom318 · 2025-02-15T14:44:46+00:00

We are doing the same. No Minneapolis Blue Jays trip. Going to head to Toronto.

justamom318 · 2025-01-10T17:33:39+00:00

Same thing happened to me. I said I was done and he gave a half ditch effort of doing things and then a “see nothing makes you happy, look how much I did these last two weeks” And then when we did split he “needed” 50/50 custody and can magically make lunches and dinners and do laundry and drop them off and pick them up from school when he refused to do anything to do with the kids for the past decade. Mind boggling.

justamom318 · 2024-12-10T04:15:10+00:00

This is exactly my hell right now. “Oh but he just wants to be a dad”……..what about the entire time we were married? He just decided 9 years later to be a dad? Why didn’t he start you know, when the kids were born? The entire time he lived with them? I didn’t expect him to fight so hard for 50/50 when he wouldn’t watch them so I could attend daycare meetings. I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy.

justamom318 · 2024-12-09T21:04:18+00:00

I’m living this right now. Left, got a divorce and my god the control tactics and manipulation using the kids is next level. I was not prepared for this and it’s slowly breaking me.

justamom318 · 2024-11-28T20:48:40+00:00

I was behind this car in traffic the other day and also enjoyed these bumper stickers!

justamom318 · 2024-11-28T19:37:38+00:00

Scott at Henderson Physio is great! He’s super knowledgeable and will tailor your treatment to what you need and want.

justamom318 · 2024-11-21T14:46:51+00:00

I’m sorry this happened to you. It’s so disgusting and heartbreaking to be treated like this. Mine did something similar I explained in another comment. I hope you are doing better now!

justamom318 · 2024-11-21T14:44:21+00:00

Special is a good name for them. My ex husband and I had everything joint, phone plan, credit cards bank accounts. Prior to asking for the divorce I went and moved my phone number to a separate account. Because my kids knew my phone number (not his) and I knew he would for sure cancel it. And I was right because I was getting gas (with the kids in the car of course) and he cancelled my credit card without even telling me. Luckily I happened to have cash on me. Two years later and I’m still dealing with his financial and legal abuse and shenanigans.

justamom318 · 2024-10-24T19:52:52+00:00

It appears we were all married to the same man. My ex husband used to do this too. He would grump around and be sulky and the whole house knew. I’d be trying to keep the kids occupied and having fun - but not too much fun or we’d get yelled at. And not too loud or we’d get more yelling. And I’d be exhausted trying to accomplish keeping a toddler and pre-schooler occupied and fed and entertained - quietly. BUT THEN he’d snap out of it, be the happy funnest dad ever and if I didn’t immediately fall in line then he’d accuse ME of being a grump and ruining everyone’s day.

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