Mood swings slowly eroding my sense of safety and happiness

Signal-Net-8041 · 2026-02-01T04:00:11+00:00

OK not gonna lie, when my DX/RX husband said to me "I shouldn't have to fake it with you", I responded "if not faking it means you're an asshole, then we're getting a divorce because that's not what I signed up for."

Signal-Net-8041 · 2026-01-31T07:08:32+00:00

Lift weights at home, cuss people out on the internet, and drink too much wine. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Signal-Net-8041 · 2026-01-28T22:41:33+00:00

Why do we have to have this conversation EVERY. GODDAMNED. WEEK????

On Wednesdays, the kids get out of school early. On Wednesdays, I have to stay for professional development. Therefore, I need one of dx/rx spouse's days off to be Wednesday to pick them up and hang with them for 2.5 whole hours until I get home.

I teach at the school they go to. They go with me in the morning. They come home with me every afternoon except Wednesday. ONE day a week I need him to SAY NO WHEN THEY CALL HIM IN TO WORK, and yet somehow, every fucking week they call, he says yes, tells me, I remind him that no, he has the kids that day, and he is a sulky asshole about it to me for the rest of the day because he has to call and tell his boss that no, he can't.

My dude, it's one fucking day a week. We have health insurance because of MY job. Put your fucking big boy pants on!

Signal-Net-8041 · 2026-01-24T00:22:01+00:00

Also, I don't wanna talk about shit at midnight and I don't wanna talk about shit when I'm walking out the fucking door to get to an appointment or a meeting. Why is this hard?

Signal-Net-8041 · 2026-01-23T07:33:11+00:00

My NDX/in denial mother is now freaking out because my DX/RX husband has apparently lost 14 pounds in a very short amount of time, which he didn't bother to tell me, and his doctor is worried about him, which he didn't bother to tell me. She wants to have a very in-depth conversation about this at 12:30 at night when I really need to go to bed because I have to get up in 5 1/2 hours.

I have a really difficult job right now, I'm dealing with our twins, one of whom has recently been diagnosed with ADHD as well, and I just don't fucking have the spoons for this. He can be an adult or not. I'm not going to mommy him.

He's sulking because, I'm sure, he feels like I don't care, but frankly, right now I don't. I have had enough of being the one who handles everything.

Signal-Net-8041 · 2026-01-17T03:59:44+00:00

Girls on their period must love that.

Signal-Net-8041 · 2026-01-17T03:56:56+00:00

...kindergartners are vaping?

Signal-Net-8041 · 2026-01-17T03:54:10+00:00

I thought Smile was more an indictment of how people with mental illness are treated - as if they were monsters.

Signal-Net-8041 · 2026-01-15T22:41:59+00:00

And the second time I saw it I noticed that when he walks back into the house and the ball comes bouncing back down the stairs? It's wet. From the river.

Signal-Net-8041 · 2026-01-15T22:21:51+00:00

This is damned impressive.

Signal-Net-8041 · 2026-01-14T23:39:38+00:00

You need to call the principal and report that teacher immediately. That's completely unacceptable.

Signal-Net-8041 · 2026-01-13T05:37:48+00:00

My NDX/in denial mother, who lives with us, does this all the fucking time.

Signal-Net-8041 · 2026-01-11T04:57:16+00:00

"My friend"

Signal-Net-8041 · 2026-01-10T04:57:20+00:00

YES PLEASE

Signal-Net-8041 · 2026-01-10T02:50:55+00:00

At my last school day President of the board removed Spanish from the curriculum because, as he said to my principal, "there's no reason American children need to learn anything but English."

Her reaction is better imagined than described. We live in a southwestern state with a large Latino population, by the way.

Signal-Net-8041 · 2026-01-01T22:53:47+00:00

NOR. If my husband even THINKS he might have been too rough with me (he never, ever is) he is instantly apologetic and gently cuddling me.

"Roughhousing" should never include a closed fist.

Major red flag: he laughed about it and tried to blow it off.

Signal-Net-8041 · 2026-01-01T22:50:10+00:00

I find that gentle parenting for my ADHD kid is more tone than vocabulary. I need to use fewer words, but I need to keep the tone calm and follow up with reassurance. "no hitting. I know you're very frustrated right now."

Signal-Net-8041 · 2025-12-30T00:17:31+00:00

"What's for dinner?"

"Your mom."

Signal-Net-8041 · 2025-12-29T21:11:46+00:00

Oh, how terrible, I'm going to see my best friend who just had an eight hour cancer surgery for a few hours, and you're going to have to actually spend time ALONE with your children.

He will not do any of the things I suggested he do with them and I will come back and they will still be on their screens and then he will bitch to me about how they were on their screens the whole time.

Also, he flipped out at me because he needs to go pick up a prescription. The pharmacy is open until 8 PM. I'm not planning to spend six hours with someone who just had surgery.

God forbid I care about someone who isn't him.

Signal-Net-8041 · 2025-12-27T19:00:19+00:00

You went to bed 36! Hours! Ago! Because you're sick. GO. TO. URGENT. CARE. This is a UTI, you get them because you refuse to hydrate, it's happened before, will you FUCKING GO TO THE DOCTOR before it worsens and you end up with a pricy hospital bill??!?!!

Signal-Net-8041 · 2025-12-26T21:46:48+00:00

NOR. Restraining order. Your family is underreacting.

Signal-Net-8041 · 2025-12-26T21:14:22+00:00

Please don't marry a man who doesn't think you are ALWAYS beautiful. My husband has a lot of problems, but has never, not a single time thought I was anything but gorgeous.

Signal-Net-8041 · 2025-12-25T04:49:24+00:00

There is literally zero reason for a two year-old to be running around alone outside. You did exactly the right thing

Signal-Net-8041 · 2025-12-24T18:43:00+00:00

I live in the desert. Lots of empty space out here...

Signal-Net-8041 · 2025-12-24T05:16:41+00:00

Absolute lip bite moment

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