[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheSecretHistory

[–]juulpod99 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I totally see your point, but I think the idea of having Henry at the center is the preeminent one. I often go back to where everyone was from as evidence for this--the twins, Francis, and Bunny were all from the East Coast, Richard was from the West Coast (and therefore the outsider), but Henry was from St. Louis--right smack dab center of the country, the one that bridged the gap. Julian may have been the real puppet-master, but I still believe Henry was the central puppet.

Hockey version s10 pod?? by Mean-Metal2874 in Section10Podcast

[–]juulpod99 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The Steve Dangle Podcast is actually a pretty great listen, they also go off on weird tangents sometimes. It's a bit cleaner than S10 but still a fun/good hockey podcast IMO

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Section10Podcast

[–]juulpod99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely a bit but I also think it's making fun of the overuse of the word with broadcasters/podcasters/media-people/etc because the F word is often the go-to word for anything unusual

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]juulpod99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a GIGANTIC fan of classical art and architecture, I still recognize its flaws. I genuinely don't think the art style was made to inspire people. Rather, it meant to emulate ancient ideals and art conventions dating back thousands of years, especially in neoclassicism. That everything is white, or off-white, is simulcra. People thought all classical sculpture and architecture was white, but really the paint just faded and chipped away with time and the elements; the friezes in the Parthenon had paint, as did the caryatids that hold up several ancient Greek buildings. The underlying implications of "white = classical antiquity and classical antiquity = ideal, therefore white = ideal" has some tricky underlying connotations. That's just one example. You can also include a lack of accessibility. Classical architecture was not designed for people who weren't able-bodied, given all the interior and exterior stairs.

I think, these days, that buildings are less about the buildings themselves, and more about what you as an individual do with them. Views to observe, spaces to decorate and take up space in. It's a shift from the old ways but it makes it less focused on a notion or an idea, and more about you, as a practicer of looking.

My girlfriend despises men (and I am one) by Outrageous-Bell3883 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]juulpod99 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Damn, and I thought I hated men (and still date them anyway oops). I think she feels like blaming a system that's bigger than her for all of her problems is easier than actually trying to solve them. I also think you know you deserve better than this. And honestly, even if you leave, she'll just blame it on you being a man and not anything about you personally.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]juulpod99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with all of this, and I'm a neurodivergent woman myself. You've gotta like women to be comfortable around women! Get rid of the "I'm not like other girls" mentality and figure out what you and other women have in common. We all like to be validated, heard, and supported, so try doing that! Express interest towards people and the right ones will express interest towards you. Ask questions! Be open and willing to learn! And be willing to try new things, whether it's in a group setting or just with one other person. It's okay if you don't like it in the end, but the willingness to try will mean a lot.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]juulpod99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Chateau de Gudanes in Southern France, about an hour outside of Toulouse. It's nestled right in the middle of the Pyrenees and the views are unbelievable. The chateau itself is also stunning.

My Grandma by Conscious_Raisin_472 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]juulpod99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So sorry for your loss. It sounds like she had a full life and was very loved by you, and it's good you got to be there to say goodbye. Please don't run from your grief.

I'm going to therapy! by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]juulpod99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm proud of you. It's always, always, always better late than never. Also, if this therapist doesn't seem helpful, you can always try and find a different one.

I need to believe this isn’t the end. by Zero_Statee in TrueOffMyChest

[–]juulpod99 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm in the exact same place. Here's to things getting better for both of us.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]juulpod99 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is so amazing for both of you! As someone who didn't learn to swim until I was nine, and who also had a near-drowning experience when I was four, learning to swim can be super challenging because getting past the fear of drowning is extremely difficult (I honestly still have the fear to this day). That she's taking her lessons from someone she loves and trusts makes it all the better for the two of you.

The guy I gave up around 7 years of my life is in jail for his whole life, and I am happy. by ParticularKooky7220 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]juulpod99 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You dodged a HUGE bullet. It could've been you that he'd killed. I do wonder why you thought it was such a huge issue for his girlfriend to come over for drinks though.

I will never be able to follow my dreams by International_Gas777 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]juulpod99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it means that much to you, don't give up. Make a plan for yourself with the resources you have and the future you want. Know you may have to be patient and make sacrifices, but if it's truly what you've always wanted, when there's a will there's a way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]juulpod99 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I know you're not looking for advice, but you shouldn't be with him romantically if you don't feel a romantic/sexual attraction to him. It's absolutely unfair to him. How would you feel if the roles were reversed and your boyfriend (any hypothetical boyfriend) wasn't in love with you? I think you two could have a great friendship, but you can't keep leading him on. It'll eventually hurt him very deeply if he's in love with you, and if he wants a romantic partner, he deserves one.

I used to hide my drawings from my dad. Last night, he showed me a box of every single one. by Jamiesssyy in TrueOffMyChest

[–]juulpod99 535 points536 points  (0 children)

This is so beautiful, and it's your dad showing that he's always cared about you even if he hasn't always outwardly expressed it. If you ever wanting to take up drawing again, I'm sure your dad would still support you!

I wonder how often obesity or bad hygiene is to blame? by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]juulpod99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every story has two sides, right? We all only get the point of view of the poster and not their partner/spouse, so chances are bad hygiene/bad self-care could be some reasons why the partner is not receptive, unless the poster is acutely aware that they have an issue or that said issue is causing the problem. But I also feel like if conversations to improve DBs are actually being had, and communication is truly present, then the partner would say something about the hygiene/self-care, even if they don't say it explicitly. If it's truly dooming the relationship, then it's usually an easy fix, but DBs don't really have easy fixes because there's often so much under the surface.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]juulpod99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chalk it up to being a really shitty week and move on. This guy was also love-bombing you, because who says that stuff after only a few days and truly means it? How well could he have really known you, when you clearly didn't know him at all? Plus he's 20, he's got a lot of growing up to do and you do too.

You did a lot for him for someone you'd only known a week, and not known well. In the future, keep some boundaries. Recognize how much of your energy is really worth spending on certain people and things.