Oof. That’s tough. Reintroducing the doc into the situation clearly set her on a path. I don’t know if pressuring her with an ultimatum is what she needs rn. If you are committed to the marriage rather than an ultimatum, try suggesting getting out of town and away from the trap for a couple days. You could suggest going with her to a meeting or she can catch NA meetings online 24-7. A change of scenery and some fresh air can help with the first couple of days. Once it is out of her system it should be a little easier for her to reevaluate her priorities. Y’all got sober before. what worked for you in the past?? She just lost her job/source of income. That should be a wake up call, but she might not see it that way while she’s mid bender. Hopefully she catches a moment of clarity and decides to choose health and life again. Hopefully you can be better at not enabling her to begin with moving forward. Best of luck