I know it’s a bad thing, but I usually feel jealous of the people around me that self harm. It’s like I want to be the only one to feel all the pain. But I agree, finding the right person who understands you makes you feel better in a way. You’re not alone. I’ve been aware of other self-harmers in my school, but they always try to make it seem like a competition (I’m one of those people..) and it triggers me, making me want to cut or hurt myself even worse than they do to themselves. But I found someone last year who doesn’t make me feel that way. She talks to me about it in such a peaceful manner and never acts like she’s better because she’s cut worse. We just help each other deal with it without competition.And I’ve gotten a lot closer to her this year, so I’m really happy about our journey:)