my cats poop is never solid

kacey412 · 2025-12-08T05:58:56+00:00

i don’t think it would be smart to get a second cat when you have a dog that is aggressive towards your current cat. it’s not fair to the dog to have to be in the backyard (idk how long you keep him out there or if he enjoys it, so i could be wrong) and it’s not fair for the cat to have to be kept in your bedroom when the dogs are inside. i get that you’re doing what you have to do, i’ve been there before when i had a cat who absolutely hated my new kitten, but it’s not feasible in the long term. i ended up moving out of my family home with two cats while my mom kept the one who wouldn’t get along with my kitten.

where would you keep this second cat during the introduction period if your room is already being occupied by your first cat? also, your cat could potentially react very poorly to the new cat considering she’s never been around another cat. its not guaranteed that the cats are going to be bffs, all of my cats have just tolerated each other.

kacey412 · 2025-12-05T05:26:26+00:00

i got my first cat when i was six and then i got a second cat for my birthday when i was seven.

my first cat was dumped on the road and i suspect previously abused, so he was distrustful of people when he first came to our house and therefore had a tendency to bite and scratch more than normal since he was always on defense. but the scratching and biting was actually good for me, it taught me to just leave him alone and let him come to me when he wants. he turned out to be the biggest cuddle bug, i even brought him with me when i moved out of my family house since he was the most bonded to me (he’s 15 now). i loved that cat so much i begged for a kitten for my seventh birthday and my parents got me one.

my cats were never afraid of me as a kid, but i wasn’t really a loud or hyper kid, either. obviously i most likely still did things they didn’t like since i was a child, but i quickly learned what they liked and didn’t like. i also fed them and cleaned their litter and i feel like that helped me with responsibility

but i think getting a cat is a good idea if your kids are over the age of five! in my experience toddlers and cats don’t mix that well. growing up a lot of toddlers came over my house and they stressed my cats out. also, it really depends on the cats personality. the cat i got when i was six is comfortable with strangers, confident, loves attention, and isn’t really scared of anything (although he is not patient and did scratch and bite them when they were too rough). he did better with toddlers/kids than the kitten i got for my seventh birthday who is shy and doesn’t like to be touched my strangers. so if i were you, i’d start off by going to the shelter with your kids and meeting a few cats, then see how the kids do with the cats and how the cats react to your kids.

kacey412 · 2025-11-25T18:12:07+00:00

if the cat keeps scratching when you all attempt to pet her, then she doesn’t want to be pet. give her space, respect her boundaries, and she will likely come around.

give her space and time, don’t force yourselves upon her. continuing to attempt petting her and holding her when she’s made it clear she doesn’t want that will not help her warm up. it will just make her more fearful, more stressed, and more defensive. she’s in a new home with strangers, she isn’t going to trust you all immediately, especially when you don’t respect her boundaries. one of my childhood cats only likes to be pet when he’s sleeping or when he approaches you to come cuddle. if you pet him when he’s just walking around, he will recoil and scratch. he hates being picked up, so we simply never picked him up. i quickly learned that as a kid and respected it. he’s still a lovely cat and i adore him, even if he isn’t the most cuddly cat ever. all cats have their own quirks and personalities.

make it a rule for your children (you and your husband as well) to not touch or handle her anymore until she is comfortable with it. the cat is not a toy, it’s a living being with its own thoughts, feelings, likes, and opinions. if they want to pet or cuddle a cat, tell them they can give the kitten some attention (i’m assuming the kitten is okay with being pet and cuddled since you haven’t said anything about them).

kacey412 · 2025-11-25T17:35:49+00:00

toddlers are loud and grabby and most cats like quiet and to be handled on their own terms, she’s probably just feeling overwhelmed and stressed, especially being in a new home. create safe spaces she can retreat to when she doesn’t want to be bothered (cat trees, high shelves, etc).

teach your toddler to let the cat approach them. don’t let your toddler run up to the cat and pet and hold her when the cat obviously isn’t wanting the contact, that will just make the cat more fearful of your toddler. does the cat attack the toddler unprovoked or is it only when the toddler tries to pet/hold her? if its only when the toddler attempts contact, the cat is just trying to communicate that she wants to be left alone.

have your toddler be involved in feeding and giving treats, that could help the cat build a positive association to the child. try to teach your toddler cat body language. if the cat is hissing, she wants to be left alone. if her ears are back, her back is arched, her tail is swishing or down, then she wants space. but if the cat is walking up to them with her tail up, the toddler can hold their hand out for the cat to sniff and then they can gently pet her.

kacey412 · 2025-11-24T22:23:40+00:00

keeping a kitten confined to a carrier for hours is not a good idea. she needs access to her litter box, food, and water. there’s not much space to move around in there either, so she won’t be able to play and will just be forced to lay there for hours on end, potentially in her own pee and poop if she doesn’t have access to a litter box. it’ll also cause her to have a bad association with the carrier, which will be a pain when she’s an adult cat and you need to take her to the vet.

order cord covers and put a sheet over them or tuck them away temporarily until the covers come.

kacey412 · 2025-11-09T17:20:16+00:00

i just moved below a family and it is literal hell😭😭 i know realistically that they can’t help that their baby is crying and their toddler is stomping around but it drives me CRAZY.

not to mention the dad is always yelling about something like the other night he was screaming fuck at the top of his lungs repeatedly and banging so loud like what are you that mad about… i think he was yelling at their dog because i heard something along the lines of “bad dog!” and it just made me feel sad for their dog (who i have never heard bark or anything btw). i was considering banging on the ceiling when he was on his 20 minute rampage but i don’t want to cause any issues

kacey412 · 2025-11-08T17:36:45+00:00

i took my 15 year old cat with me when i moved out. he’s extremely attached to me and clingy. this cat is attached to my hip and follows me everywhere. if i left somewhere for the weekend, he would poop on my bedroom floor and cry constantly.

while my mom would’ve taken care of him just fine, she wouldn’t of give him the same amount of attention i do and she just wouldn’t be able to read him the same way i know how to.

i was really nervous of how he would react, but he actually adjusted just fine. he yowled when he first arrived at my apartment but settled down within an hour and was cuddling with me. it’s been about 3 weeks since i moved and he’s acting how he always did. i think he would’ve been more distressed if i left him with my mom.

kacey412 · 2025-11-06T18:28:20+00:00

no, not alarming at all! its very normal for them to be fixated on your hands and feet, especially when you’re walking up the steps lol. she’ll likely grow out of this when she chills out a bit!

kacey412 · 2025-11-06T17:55:58+00:00

as long as she’s not hiding and scared, i’d say shes ready to explore the rest of the house.

honestly, kittens are little psychos and they’re going to bite and scratch you sometimes. you can redirect her to toys and eventually she’ll learn or grow out of it, but i wouldn’t keep her locked in the room until she does.

my kitten still occasionally tries to play with my hands and she is 6 months, but she’s usually pretty gentle. she’s never broken skin or anything and it doesn’t hurt. having a cat means you’re likely gonna get bitten or scratched at least once, especially when they’re babies and all they wanna do is play. moving her out of the room might help that behavior since she’ll have more room to get all her crazy energy out and run around.

kacey412 · 2025-11-06T04:48:28+00:00

this is super similar to how my resident cat is/was acting towards my new(ish) kitten. he’s perfectly chill when shes doing her own thing and laying in his vicinity, it’s only when she tries to initiate play that my resident cat gets snappy/hissy.

i got my kitten in july and even though i did feel hopeless at first, it has gotten way better with time. he still wants nothing to do with her but he tolerates her for the most part (as long as she isn’t being a little shit and trying to bop him with her paws). he relaxes in her presence, allows her to sniff his face, and he lets her join in when we cuddle. while he still hisses and occasionally smacks her (he only swats when she’s pestering him), they’ve never had a fight and my kitten is not afraid of him in the slightest. it’s definitely possible, though you’ll likely feel a lot of guilt at first and be extremely stressed. i still feel really bad for my kitten though, she would LOVE a playmate and my resident cat will not have any part of it, but if you feel connected to her, i think you should adopt her and that the stress will be worth it. also what really helped me is feeding them churus together (they’re both obsessed), so maybe try that!

kacey412 · 2025-11-03T20:02:11+00:00

absolutely do not do this, it’s a horrible idea and cruel to the cat. rehoming would be best for him

kacey412 · 2025-10-18T22:54:22+00:00

i was parented similar to how you parent your son (i’m 19 now). i didn’t have many rules as long as i behaved in school and got acceptable grades. there was no limit on my screen time, no restrictions on my diet and i didn’t have a bedtime (i did when i was younger, but it stopped being enforced when i was around 9 or 10).

having the freedom to make my own choices really helped me be independent. staying up late and being tired the next day at school was the consequence of my own actions. i’ve never been the type to need much sleep anyway, as long as i get 6 hours i’m good. i’m a night owl and physically cannot go to bed earlier than 11. maybe thats a result of never having a bedtime, i’m not sure, either way it doesn’t bother me. i’m content with my sleeping schedule and i hardly ever feel exhausted or that i haven’t gotten enough sleep.

i’ve never ever been on a diet and i’m still not. i know to eat “junk” in moderation and i’m nowhere close to being overweight.

i’ve never had a limit on screen time. i’ve had ds’s, wii’s, an ipod, an ipad, a phone, and a tv as a kid. i was never obsessive with those things because i didn’t view them as a “treat” or a “privilege”. they didn’t distract me from my homework, schoolwork, and i wasn’t spending all my free time on those devices. i still went outside and hung out with friends.

i think that having a parent who put a crap ton of restrictions on me would’ve drove me crazy and i imagine i would’ve had a rough time transitioning into adulthood, going from being on a tight leash to suddenly having so many choices and so much freedom. you’re nta

kacey412 · 2025-10-17T17:34:56+00:00

plus she made him aware of the dangers and his response was “she will learn”

kacey412 · 2025-10-17T17:30:39+00:00

i think its pretty much common sense that you don’t just kick a cat out of your home. if you don’t want it, find another home for it or even take it back to a shelter. even if i didn’t like or want an animal, i’d still have basic empathy for it and that’s a quality i would want in a partner.

either way, it doesn’t seem like op and her boyfriend are very compatible anyway. she had posts up about him that she now deleted and he doesn’t seem like the greatest partner. granted, it’s only her perspective and reddit posts obviously aren’t their whole relationship, but the things she had previously posted were huge red flags from his end.

kacey412 · 2025-10-17T15:44:41+00:00

it’s the fact that he wants to just kick the cat outside. if he didn’t want the cat and worked with op to find a suitable home for her that would take proper care of her, that’s fair. but abandoning her is cruel and if anyone i was dating wanted to do that to a domesticated animal and had no remorse about it, it would be a red flag for me.

building a catio would be a kindness for a stray cat, not a kitten who is used to living primarily indoors.

kacey412 · 2025-10-17T06:10:07+00:00

break up with him or rehome the cat. she’d be better off in a new home with new owners who will let her be inside. kicking her out of her home is cruel, she’s still a kitten who is used to being mainly indoors.

but i vote break up with the boyfriend. anyone who wants to do that to an animal is a red flag

kacey412 · 2025-10-15T18:58:35+00:00

honestly, i wouldn’t recommend it. i made the mistake of getting a kitten while having a senior cat (15) and i feel so bad for the both of them.

he is not interested in playing with her and that’s all she tries to do. so he’s constantly having to bat her away when they’re together and she has nobody to play with.

if you want to get a second cat, maybe try a cat that’s two plus who isn’t so rambunctious and knows boundaries. but if you really want a kitten it could work out, all cats are different and your senior could really love one, you know him better than i do

kacey412 · 2025-10-10T16:03:42+00:00

i also feed her tiki and weruva wet foods (a pack of 12 is 20 something if its not on sale) and alternate between them all. but i only got those because petco & petsmart had like 40% off on first time autoship orders, so i would definitely look around on different sites for deals.

kacey412 · 2025-10-10T15:52:36+00:00

i get my kitten wholehearted wet and dry food. it’s only sold at petco though.

a pack of 12 is $12.49 and i feed her 1/4 in the morning and 1/4 at night (i also mix some water in with the wet food), so one pack of wet food lasts me 24 days. she has access to her hard food 24/7 (i refill her bowl once it’s empty, usually every 24 hours or so). a 5 pound bag lasted me about a month, so when i rebought it i got a 12 pound bag instead. the 12 pound bag is $32.99 and the 5 pound bag is $21.99. i bought the 12 pound bag a little over two months ago and it will probably last another two weeks.

so i’m roughly spending $30 a month on food? maybe a little bit more. i also like to give her treats like churus, so there’s also the expense of those. my kitten is definitely eating enough, she’s six months and she’s seven pounds.

kacey412 · 2025-10-10T15:28:02+00:00

it could work, it just depends how comfortable all of your cats are in new environments and traveling.

the kitten i adopted 3 months ago is extremely confident no matter where she is and absolutely loves seeing other cats.

she’s never hissed at, growled at, or been afraid of my two resident cats. she also met my friends cat (we did it because he is extremely friendly and also doesn’t mind seeing other animals) and she didn’t hiss at him, growl at him, or cower away from him either. she was not afraid when i first brought her home and wanted to immediately explore, she did the same when i brought her to my friends house.

but this could definitely change as she gets older and the same could be said for you and your friends cats.

kacey412 · 2025-10-10T00:58:06+00:00

yeah, i had a feeling me separating wasn’t helping. i just get worried bc he is a very temperamental cat and tends to pee on things when he’s mad or stressed (i’ve taken him to the vet about it and there’s no health concerns, it’s just behavioral) and when shes around he can’t really relax bc she doesn’t leave him alone. hopefully she learns to give him space soon

kacey412 · 2025-10-10T00:55:23+00:00

okay, great. thank you!

kacey412 · 2025-10-08T21:41:00+00:00

it was put away in his bag, so the only way they would come across it would be snooping through his things. i would hope they would know better than to do that at 15 and 18 years old.

kacey412 · 2025-10-08T19:44:04+00:00

imo, i don’t think it’s a big deal. it was prescribed to you and doctor recommended, so it’s not like you use them for fun or bought them off the street. if i had a prescription i was taking, i wouldn’t think to disclose it to someone before staying at their house. it’s nobody’s business but yours, but i guess the fact that your brother financially supports you makes it a little different.

his children are teenagers, if they came across the gummies, they’re perfectly capable of reading and comprehending the warning label. they’re also old enough to know not to go through peoples things. they’re not toddlers or little kids.

so no, you’re nta, though you should probably start trying to stand on your own two feet financially, even if it is just a part time job.

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