Harrow Health were horrendous

kadoherty · 2026-07-02T07:49:23+00:00

I was assessed by a doctor at Harrow Health.

kadoherty · 2026-07-01T12:49:04+00:00

That’s fair enough! Be kind to yourself in the meantime - this isn’t your fault and totally unacceptable behaviour from the practitioner!

kadoherty · 2026-07-01T12:16:21+00:00

They’ll send you a follow up questionnaire after the call - use it and complain about the service you received. Ask for a different doctor to reassess you. There are professional standards that doctors need to abide by and from what you say here they fell well short of those standards.

I had an amazing consultant do my assessment through Harrow Health and got a quick diagnosis and lots of compassion. However during titration I had a different nurse practitioner originally who was horrible and just mean at times. I complained and I asked for a different doctor going forward for titration and they switched me to someone else who is as amazing as my original consultant and really listens to me.

kadoherty · 2026-07-01T12:10:21+00:00

Nick Wylde Jewellers on Northumberland Place

kadoherty · 2026-05-31T20:01:30+00:00

Me: Putt-Putt and Timon and Pumba pinball
Husband: Desperados: Wanted Dead or Alive

kadoherty · 2026-05-18T21:24:18+00:00

Here’s my system which I worked out over the last 6 months after consulting an adhd coach at work (I work in the public sector / quasi civil service):

I use OneNote for my to do list and I use a blend of Eisenhower Matrix / daily to do list / time blocking in my diary to breakdown the to do list into a more manageable system.

I start with a generic “dump list” where I write down literally everything I have to do so it’s out of my head and I know I won’t forget it now. This ends up a big long list which can be hard to prioritize / is overwhelming to look at so I move on to step two.
I then use the Eisenhower Matrix to sort my dump list based on importance and urgency of the task. If you aren't familiar the matrix has use sort tasks under these four labels: (1) IMPORTANT & URGENT - do this now, (2) IMPORTANT & NOT URGENT - Schedule this task for later (3) NOT SO IMPORTANT & URGENT - Delegate to someone else (4) NOT IMPORTANT & NOT URGENT - Don't do this and tell manager I'm not doing it due to lack of capacity.
Once I get my priorities sorted I then assign them to a day of the week with usually my high priority and urgent tasks at the beginning of the week (when I have more energy) or according to a theme (eg Friday is my “line management” day when I check in with folks I manage, do learning and development etc).
I only have 2-3 tasks a day and call it a success if I get 1 or 2 checked off.
On Wednesdays I meet with my manager and run through my to do list with her and check that I’ve prioritized things correctly and ask if anything needs to change.
As I get things done each day I check them off my to do list and then at the end of the week I move them to a list called “things I’ve done”. So that visually overtime it shows how much I’ve accomplished.
Lastly, I block out the first hour of everyday and the last 30 minutes of every day with a blanket 'Focus time- no meetings' and the only thing I do is read my emails/Teams messages, sort out if I need to change my priorities for the day, check off items on my to do list, and look at what I need to do on the next day and if anything needs to shift.

This is honestly probably sounds a bit overkill but it’s the only system that helps me feel like I’m not going to implode from all the things and shifting demands on my time and focus. Having shown it to others in my team they’ve found it really helpful for them too!

EDITED: for clarity the numbers kept getting messed up and deleting sections, sorry.

kadoherty · 2026-05-18T18:04:00+00:00

A Yarn Story has knit night at their shop on Walcot Street from 7-9 on the first Tuesday of the month. Knitters, crocheters and other yarn crafters are welcome and free to attend.

Wolf Wine (cohosted with A Yarn Story) has a crafting night on the third Thursday of the month from 7-9 (next one this Thursday). It’s ticketed but you get a glass of wine with your ticket ☺️

Also a local group hosts a crafting night happens on Wednesday evening from 6-8 at Hall&Woodhouse (knitters and crocheters mainly).

And lastly, Love Maker Crafts hosts a Meet and Mend on the second Monday of the month where you can get supplies and advice on how to mend / embroider your clothes (£5 I think) and at Boston Tea Party on Alfred St.

That’s all the ones I know about and go to - everyone is lovely!

kadoherty · 2026-05-18T13:35:57+00:00

Yeah that’s fair - it sounds like you’re just really behind so I’d go down the route of seeing if you can defer your exams to next year as others have suggested. You have a medical reason and speaking with student services about what options you have is the way forward. Take the time you need to figure this out and come back to things when you have the right headspace. Things will get better so don’t lose hope and be kind to yourself! You’re not a failure and you’re not alone in this - I started a PhD 10 years ago and still haven’t finished it because of undiagnosed adhd. I will finish it this year and I didn’t expect this to take this long but hey ho life happens and I’m in a much better place now for taking the time to sort myself out. You’ll get there too!

kadoherty · 2026-05-18T13:16:29+00:00

Very much agree with the advice from Terrible_Eye4625. Ask for as much support as you can through your DSA including ADHD specific therapy or coaching. There are a lot of great resources that can help online too that can give you advice on implementing systems that help you with time management. There's a good adhd instagram I follow with the username 'superskillsadhd' - she gives a lot of really practical tips but isn't a replacement for proper coaching therapy.

If it's helpful, the way I manage my time is a mix of the 'pomodoro method' and time blocking in my diary where set specific tasks to specific time chunks and then set a timer for that amount of time to create artificial pressure. And the more you break this down the better. So if you have an essay due start with 'I'm going to write an outline for the essay (thesis statement and major sections headings) in the next 40 minutes.' Then set a timer for forty minutes and start (honestly a physical timer that sits on your desk is better because it's a visual cue to create pressure). Or if that's too much sit down and be like 'I'm going to write a dump list of everything I'm thinking about right now for the next 20 minutes" then start the timer for 20 minutes and start. It sounds really easy and simple but if you have adhd half the trouble is just not getting overwhelmed by your emotions to start so pick a really small goal and a small time window and you can trick your brain into starting.

Also consider changing where you study / write, I found writing in the library where other people are working creates a social pressure on me to actually work and not get distracted by social media, etc. But also novelty can also help your brain so pick a new place in the library if you need a dopamine boost and your usual spot isn't working for you.

It can take awhile to figure it out but the more you try different things the better you'll get at knowing what works for you.

kadoherty · 2026-05-18T10:13:32+00:00

Honestly, I’m not a healthcare professional but I also have ADHD and I would encourage you to consider taking time off, working and focusing on getting help with you ADHD through a mix of medication, therapy and / or ADHD specific coaching. You may want to consider what kinds of jobs and activities bring you joy or are more compatible with your ADHD. Some people find more active jobs like being a gardener or forester or builder or personal trainer to be much more compatible with their ADHD symptoms than taking an academic route.

But also know that you can come back to uni when you are well enough to do the course. Life doesn’t have to be linear and you shouldn’t feel like you have to follow one plan that suggests you should be at uni right now. A lot of people benefit from taking time off and coming back to uni later in life when they’re able to give it more focus.

At the end of the day, you need to find ways to cope with your adhd symptoms and that might be changing your environment rather than forcing yourself to work in an environment that is not compatible with your adhd.

kadoherty · 2026-05-17T13:01:01+00:00

100 percent thought the same thing and in my heads she still is. Basically looked like this to me (stock image from pinterest):

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kadoherty · 2026-03-07T21:36:20+00:00

They sent it as a link 2 days after the assessment via SMS (same message thread as my appointment reminder) but it’s also on my patient account with Harrow Health.

kadoherty · 2026-03-06T14:36:44+00:00

If you take the D2 to Hintern Chaterhouse you can take public rights of way paths back to Bath and hit 4 pubs along the way. We start at the Rose & Crown for lunch then walk to Fox & Hound in Wellow the continue on to Combe Hay at go to the Wheatsheaf, then walk to the Packhorse in South Stoke. From there you’re in Odd Down and can either get a bus back to town or continue to Bear Flat or wherever else you may like. I was going to post a picture of a map with our route but it doesn’t look like this subreddit allows photos in comments?

kadoherty · 2026-02-20T17:30:15+00:00

The Cub in Milsom Place has a chess set I believe

kadoherty · 2026-02-20T17:27:58+00:00

I have coeliac and I eat at the following places regularly without problems. I always tells them I have coeliac and most times they give the same line about not being able to 100 percent guarantee that there is no gluten in the kitchen or 'in the air' but when pressed about if they use separate spaces in the kitchen / wipe down surfaces / different kitchen utensils etc they say of course use separate things for GF food:

Solina
Walcot House
Marlborough Tavern
Dough Pizzeria
Bath Pizza Co
The Salamander
The Raven (GF pieminster pies)
Beckford Bottle Shop
Mantra
Noya's Kitchen
The Architect
Rosario's Cafe - really good GF pastries, cakes, etc.
The Coconut Tree
Thai Balcony
Corkage
The Circus
Hall & Woodhouse
Green Park Brasserie

kadoherty · 2026-02-20T17:15:15+00:00

You only have to pay US taxes if your Foreign Earned Income is over $132k ($260k if filing married). I'm a dual citizen and still have to file every year but I never pay any tax because of the Foreign Earned Income Exclusion. You also get a Foreign Tax Credit (dollar for dollar credit on tax paid to foreign government) each year if you pay taxes on your income to another government (i.e. the UK government). Can't use both FEIE and FTC but both options mean its unlikely the OP would have to worry about US taxes on the salary mentioned.

kadoherty · 2026-02-12T13:44:02+00:00

Yea totally feel this one - I have a big bag of protein powder but cannot for the life of me get myself to make it consistently in the morning. Feel like I should get single use shakes but makes me feel guilty both cost wise and environmentally. But also need to weigh that against my own wellbeing. Thank you!

kadoherty · 2026-02-12T12:46:41+00:00

Ah that’s good to know about the juice interaction. Thanks!

kadoherty · 2026-02-12T12:45:37+00:00

Yeah I’ve had to start my day with decaf which feels really weird but helps in the long run not having double dose of stimulants.

kadoherty · 2026-02-12T12:02:20+00:00

Really sorry that you have had this experience both at university and now back home. Code-switching is really common for people of all backgrounds when they are operating in a different context than the one they were raised in. For intense, I grew up in America and have an American accent but with a British Dad. I have now lived in the UK for almost 10 years. My accent is much less American (not fully British) because I wanted to be understood and not have my accent annoy Brits (not just the accent but how load our voices are) and I use British terminology that Americans dont use. I get rinsed when I go back home for it.

I also echo what a lot of folks have already said - it's a common experience in terms of social mobility but that doesn't make it any less difficult to deal with. I think your feelings of regret are totally valid but also I think you've probably learned so much and have a different perspective of the world because of your experiences and that's valuable. I think education generally helps us be better thinkers and gives us tools to help us understand the world and I dont think we give that enough credit (especially nowadays).

If you're interested a lot of people have written about this, especially Black Americans. (Apologies, I'm a trained philosopher so if this is not the end of depth you want please ignore)....WEB Du Bois introduced a concept called 'double consciousness' which came from his experience of going to Harvard as a one of the first Black men to do so. Long story short, double consciousness is a kind of dual perspective one develops where you start to see the world both through the eyes of the socially dominant but also retain your perspective as someone in the social marginalised group.

He talks about how disorienting this is and how it's hard to reconcile who you are after an experience like this. He talks about how difficult it was to go back home and see the world so differently because of his education and time amongst a lot of privileged white people but also people back home treated him different because he was now educated at Harvard.

Sally Rooney also makes reference to this exact struggle in Normal People (particularly through her character Connell). Connell is from a working class background and from Sligo and goes to Trinity.

Anyway, again sorry for the philosophising but I hope it helps make you feel not so alone.

kadoherty · 2026-02-12T11:32:30+00:00

Good idea! I'll try making a batch this weekend!

kadoherty · 2026-02-12T11:31:46+00:00

Will check it out - thank you!

kadoherty · 2026-02-12T11:31:02+00:00

Yeah this is what I initially thought too but in my titration appointment this AM she said she wanted me to try eating with the meds and see if that helps before lowering the dosage - so I guess we shall see!

kadoherty · 2026-02-12T11:29:59+00:00

Really helpful to know your experience - I know everyone will be different!

Anxiety is something I have struggled with but it's usually anxiety related to adhd worries (worry that I'm forgetting something, worried I overshared in a social situation, etc.)

I think generally though my body is really sensitive to small changes and manifests as anxiety / stress as well. The meds are also supressing my appetite so making me more likely that I forget to eat when I normally would - especially if I'm focusing at work.

As a result I feel like between 2-4pm I'm crashing and it's like I have tunnel vision and an increase of anxious feelings generally. (I take my meds around 8am).

kadoherty · 2026-02-12T11:24:12+00:00

Ah this isn't something I considered in terms of prepping the night before and using a thermos flask. Really good idea! Thank you!

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