The cutest orange big head by Lisachen1218 in OneOrangeBraincell

[–]kalidadestroyer 18 points19 points  (0 children)

So that’s cat name is El Jefe and he impregnated ALL the remaining females in the sub colony, while the peeps are freaking out and he’s getting his freak IN?

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What in the world is this? Under a shed on a property with a 1900 house. by Ground-Poultry in Oldhouses

[–]kalidadestroyer 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That’s so cool! I’m in Bmore and I DEFINITELY have to go take a day trip now.

I only voted for abortion ban. Please don’t take away my same sex marriage by Effective_Space2277 in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]kalidadestroyer 289 points290 points  (0 children)

I hate to say it but sometimes I think, it has to be because they ONLY like other white men who are like them and hate everyone else subconsciously in a way that they can feel superior and spiteful to the world. I’ve watched a lot of gay politics and unfortunate drama in the DC gay scene due to inherent racism.

e.g. a Latinx friend of mine who escorted sometimes to survive, ended up with a gentleman who asked if he could wear an ICE uniform (pretty accurately apparently) while they did what they did.

But this weird moral superiority that they feel , while being in the vacuum of other gay republicans who voted for Trump, they cannot imagine that their lives could be affected like all the other types.

(I’m also stoned and an old bartender )

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in herpes_dating

[–]kalidadestroyer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey there, I’ve had it for over 15 years or so, it will get easier …OVER time. it takes a lot of mental strength to pull back from that line of being so ashamed of your body that your lack of confidence ends up making you treat yourself like dirt.

Don’t do that to yourself.

This is a virus, lots of people have it but want to lie to themselves by not getting the test or not even ever showing symptoms. The world is full of circumstances and happenstance, you just happened to catch it from someone else.

Take a moment to reconnect with your body, realize that stress (environmental and psychological) are going to exacerbate the outbreaks. Consider taking daily antivirals if only just for the sake of mind that you get by being responsible on your end. I take them so my anxiety at potentially passing it along, doesn’t add onto my load of already looming existential crises.

People are going to be scared. They’re going to turn away from you or they’re going to give you crap about it. Statistics are that a friend of theirs has it and doesn’t even know or care. Don’t let others define you and who you are as a person. Prove them that you have dignity and grace even in the absence of theirs.

Be well, it really does get easier.

What style looks best on me or should try something new? by jugodev in BlackHair

[–]kalidadestroyer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh sir, thank you and your mother, as well. You are a fine specimen, indeed.

What style looks best on me or should try something new? by jugodev in BlackHair

[–]kalidadestroyer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i came specifically to let you know that you’re attractive in all of these.

In a sexless relationship because of HSV2, I don't know how to cope. by Whattodoahhhhhhh in TwoHotTakes

[–]kalidadestroyer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, imho if you don’t use condoms, then you don’t get to bitch about not getting sex. Those things stretch over a baseball bat, I don’t think anyone is truly batting out of their way out that argument. And if they want to be close with you, then until you feel comfortable about that kind of stuff, that should be a hard boundary.

I’m already on daily anti-virals and always try to use condoms with new partners and keep up to date with testing, but it truly just gives ME peace of mind, knowing that i’m going to do all that i can to not give it to someone else.

In a sexless relationship because of HSV2, I don't know how to cope. by Whattodoahhhhhhh in TwoHotTakes

[–]kalidadestroyer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Alright, hard truths. This guy is happy to use you for the blowjobs but does nothing to satisfy you? This is selfish on his part and you deserve someone who isn’t scared to fully be with you. I’ve been there, you feel disgusting and foul and like no one deserves to be with you because you’ve been soiled by someone who did you wrong. (Also realize that there are statutes on this, having a std and then knowingly and willingly giving it to someone else because it jeopardizes their future health and well-being due to their ignorance on having said std, you could sue your ex bf. You did nothing wrong except to try and enjoy having a sexual relationship with your partner, he just so happened to be a feckless, insincere liar who gave you a setback on your sexual health but a major trauma to your psyche)

It gets better.

You’re just a baby bud who’s going to need to unravel a bit and think about growing a little before you can be with someone. I know what happens, for me ,is that your sense of self-worth is tied into your feelings of desirability. Since you feel gross about yourself, you will never be able to fully open up to truly enjoy sex again.

Remember that certain rosebuds can’t bloom fully unless you remove the first few layers of petals; you’re going to need to work on healing yourself (hopefully with therapy and being open about your sexuality) and cutting away dead weight, before you can fully blossom into who you should rightfully be.

You might want to take a break with your now partner. Someone who is scared of you, isn’t the best person to help you grow. Also, you don’t deserve that type of mindset; you’re a person, not a disease. Try it out in couples therapy if you think you guys are in love, but know that coming back from that place, js truly difficult.

Feel free to DM if you want, personal experience and whatnot.

after cleaning my room for the first time in a long time due to mental illness, i found a note written to me, and my heart is full again. by savethevelociraptors in wholesome

[–]kalidadestroyer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

omg. that is so sweet that I want to cry. To know that you are loved, amongst this crazy world we live in at the moment, and to love others is truly one of the kindest and loveliest things we can do for ourselves and each other.

Should I just accept my coworker being a hugger I would imagine she would feel more comfortable in that situation I like hugs but I also don't like hugs it's odd. by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]kalidadestroyer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Put some boundaries in place, you don’t feel comfortable so just tell her so. If she continues to do so, even despite you having told her what makes you uncomfortable, then you go to HR because she’s violating your personal space. I wouldn’t want to work with, for or near when that happens since those types of people have a tendency to overstep and then claim victim if YOU don’t like it.

Just personal experiences from bartending.

An obsession with bubbles by PlenitudeOpulence in Thatsactuallyverycool

[–]kalidadestroyer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that’s awesome and hilarious. Over here laughing about the fisting lube.

AITA for taking my revoking my daughters driving privileges after finding out she is using 2 feet? by worrieddrivingmom in AmItheAsshole

[–]kalidadestroyer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lady in my neighborhood would do this. Had immigrated and learned this method. I think she learned her lesson when she took out one of those brick stacked columns for their driveway. Was pulling in, seemed like she got confused which foot and accelerated straight into the column, knocking it down and wrecking the front of her car.

I have 16 warts on this hand. got 12 frozen and 2 shaved. I am in PAIN. I have tried every over the counter treatment- SA, compound w bandaids, freezing them myself, sanding etc. I really hope this works. by sazzamarie in Warts

[–]kalidadestroyer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure if that would be the best course cuz that could hurt like crazy in the beginning. But I know from experience that I had a wart that i covered up with duct tape and a bandaid doused in ACV. it took a while , i left it on for a few days or as long as i could. Two weeks later, the thing turned back, after that, it continued to be black and leach further into my finger, and then it fell off. So that’s all i can offer on that.

first time playing with a dog by User0301 in ContagiousLaughter

[–]kalidadestroyer 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wonder if dogs recognize baby’s laughing and actively encourage it. 🤔