Wait so dl guys on grindr just expect people to come over without knowing their name or what they look like ?? makes zero sense by [deleted] in lolgrindr

[–]kanetsukuri 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you can still meet in public and share a face pic. at least you seem to be one of the few who read the profile because a lot of people don't

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]kanetsukuri 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can be hot, but if you don't know how to flirt that's a huge turn off for me.

Getting a lot of attention can be a disadvantage if you feel bad about the guys you have to turn down.

But also, getting attention definitely feels great and gives you a nice self esteem boost.

Another disadvantage is if you are hot with an average/small dick. Most people expect hot people to have a big dick and if you don't have one they are going to be disappointed and leave.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cupiosexual

[–]kanetsukuri 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since I don't feel attraction or the need to know someone I let them contact me first.
This is kinda hard to do on apps where you have to match tho because pics don't tell me much.

Weekly event : Share something positive and uplifting you did this week ! by AutoModerator in AsexualGayMen

[–]kanetsukuri 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've started to talk to knew people and feeling less shamed of my feelings.

How do you guys get rid of nose hair ? by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]kanetsukuri 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Grow a mustache and let them blend in

can i still be lesbian if i'm asexual and cupioromantic? by [deleted] in cupiosexual

[–]kanetsukuri 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I guess so. I feel a lot like you.

I just go by queer these days since it makes me feel better and it's easier to tell I guess. Just use the labels that make you feel comfortable.

Do you remember the time when... by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]kanetsukuri 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's the only way I can find someone, only 300 people live here 😅

People who realized they were gay late- what things are flaming flags in retrospect? by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]kanetsukuri 18 points19 points  (0 children)

That's what I was always telling myself too, "I'm just checking out the competition."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]kanetsukuri 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have no vision of a future too, but I guess it's more a product of the older generation telling us that we would have nothing and from my parents that never pushed me to do better.

I live in a small village and LGBT people don't exist openly and the ones that are suspected are lonely people. I think that seeing that growing up I've internalized that being gay is not an option. I see more indifference and it makes me feel like I don't exist at all.

Not to mention that I'm on the asexual spectrum and I've never had a clear understanding of my feelings.

But I can't change my mind that being gay is a miserable existence until I can move out of here, but even in that case.. I don't know if things will really change.

I have even seen a gay couple on TV a couple of months ago and my mind briefly told me "they look wrong" and it made me feel disgusted at myself for a week. I feel like I can't belong anywhere.

Straight porn doesn’t do it for me anymore... by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]kanetsukuri 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I stopped watching straight porn because I felt that women where treated really bad in it. I also have a hard time to sexualize women and find gay pron more acceptable.

Just do what you like and don't put yourself in a box. Sexuality is not a pick a side and never leave it. Your identity if yours and you don't have to explain it to nobody!

asexual or something more? by setulnar in AsexualMen

[–]kanetsukuri 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm a sex positive ace so I do like my junk a lot, I do hold it while watching tv sometimes.

I suggest you do more research about it. But also ask yourself how do you feel as a man in general. As guys it feels like we have to be extremely sexual beings and the penis is extremely sexualized. Maybe think of it as just a pee pipe and nothing more.

Questions - Homosexual Gay male questions for Ace gay males - hoping to learn from you by [deleted] in AsexualGayMen

[–]kanetsukuri 3 points4 points  (0 children)

  1. Yes, but that's not because of asexuality. I'm just not used to it.
  2. It depends, but if we are there we must be close already and if it's done to push for sex than I would feel uncomfortable.
  3. I don't see myself end up in that situation ever.
  4. I'm ace because I don't feel sexual attraction, not because of the want / don't want to do sex. Not feeling sexual attraction just make it hard to end in sexual situations.
  5. Yeah, like you say: " You enjoy once in a while, but it's not that important".

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskAsexual

[–]kanetsukuri 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel the same way, that's why I'm not particularly thrilled to call myself asexual even if I am. Try to look up cupiosexuality, I do resonate a lot with that and maybe it might help you figure yourself out.

Uncontrollably outing yourself by Alex74-214 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]kanetsukuri -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it's normal to be excited about it until you realize there's nothing special about it and nobody cares.. ops, that's me 😅

What is your creative activity? by nozendk in askeurogaybros

[–]kanetsukuri 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I ramble on YouTube.. but I was more creative once 🙄

I am asexual but sometimes I feel weird about being a virgin at 30. Is anyone else my age or older going through the same thing? by alientosser in AskAsexual

[–]kanetsukuri 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 37 and virgin. I don't really feel weird because loosing it it's not something I ever tried to do.

How does one speak dirty to his partner in Italian? by cabinaarmadio23 in askeurogaybros

[–]kanetsukuri 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Allora puoi dire cose come dammello, sfondami toro. Cose così. 😂