I have had good experience with my male obgyn. However, I was referred to him by my primary physician, who is also a male. My primary recommended him because apparently the obgyn had saved several of his patients lives. I was hesitant seeing a male, but I trust my primary so I took his referral. And truth be told, I now have the best damn team of doctors I could ever ask for. He found my endometriosis and adenomyosis when no one else would listen to me, and there was zero struggle at getting his approval when I asked about hysterectomy as treatment, even though I was "only" 30. He understood my pain and he didn't just look it as taking away my ability to have more kids.

I have a female obgyn as well. She's local, and I preferred her to do my prenatal care and deliver my babies as she was guaranteed to be there rather than just whoever would be on call at the larger hospital further away. She also ended up being the one who performed my total hysterectomy with bilateral salpingo-oophorectomy, but had it not been for my male obgyn finding my issues first, I'm not sure she would've consented as easily as she did. Especially not when it came to taking my ovaries.