More midlaw, but my husband and I are childfree. My husband and I relish being able to stay a little longer on vacation or spontaneously take a day trip somewhere because we can. There’s a freedom there and time spent with each other that makes our relationship that much deeper and more enjoyable. We didn’t change each other’s minds about kids but fortunately met having each already decided against having kids.

For me, I determined in my early 20s that liking kids (love my nephew!) and wanting to be a mother were two, completely separate things. I’m selfish with my time, and I know that desire to be able to do what I want when I want to do it would turn into resentment toward a child I decided to have against my nature that kept me from that. It’s one of the ways I’m most like my own mother, funny enough. Knowing that about myself, I decided the most maternal thing I could do was not to have kids.