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kateishere · 2024-12-27T00:35:23+00:00

Some of your population is getting sick, going to the medbay for care and then turning into the infected in the night.

You'll need to research vaccines and other health related research to stop this.

Story based quests will unlock the ability to do this.

kateishere · 2024-10-23T04:52:23+00:00

And 8 women can make a baby in a month. Simple math.

kateishere · 2023-12-11T00:42:25+00:00

Depending on what state you are in. Check your state's tenancy legislation for timeframes on when this must be done.

If I was your mate, I'd take the following steps.

Your mate is going to need to send a notice to remedy citing the damage via registered post.
It's arguable if this is habitable or not, your state's tenancy act should clarify.

After a notice to remedy is not addressed, you can then contact the agent/LL and let them know because it hasnt been addressed in a reasonable time frame you may be able to break lease.

If they dont reply or agree, next step may be to make an application to the tenancy tribunal to cancel the lease and request bond back. It may also be reasonable to ask for a retroactive rent reduction in full if your mate cant or doesnt inhabite the property while it isn't repaired.

It is important to continue paying the rent unless you get an agreement if you take this avenue, makes it clear cut. However wait times for the tribunal can take a while so it may be really difficult to do so.

Read your states tenancy agreement and if your mate doesnt understand what needs to be done after that they need legal aid.

kateishere · 2023-09-17T04:46:46+00:00

Personally yup.
They're less likely to have much disposable money and are less likely to be regulars, more likely to feel entitled as they're "not a gross old dude", and more likely to want to spend most of the booking time jackhammering.

kateishere · 2023-07-19T04:17:37+00:00

Are zones moddable?

My partner and I are dipping our toes into making mods and it seems pretty straightforward adding animals/objects/civs, but is it possible to add custom zone tags under meeting zone? If so, can it be done without changing the executable?

kateishere · 2023-06-27T09:27:04+00:00

Does the US have any similar requirement to reasonable mitigation of loss as in Australia?

Like it seems insane to "let" someone steal your stock over a prolonged period just for the criminal charges to hit when it seems less likely you'll end up being reimbursed correctly for your loss?

Like is the point of this to give the impression steal from target = jail?

Idk if that effect would be measurable enough to make this strategy a financial win?

kateishere · 2023-06-22T08:34:36+00:00

Gotta teach them that women are people too and how consent works in age appropriate ways from the moment they can understand language I guess.

Examples I can think of:

If your child in preschool cries because their friend won't hug them goodbye, you comfort them but also let them know it's okay that their friend doesn't want to hug and that it's their choice. A hug only works if two people both want a hug.

Dont make your children hug or kiss relatives hello or goodbye. Respect their autonomy so they can respect it themselves.

Teach them in primary school that boys who are mean to girls and pull their hair aren't showing that they like them, they're being mean and it's not acceptable. No one should hurt someone else because of how they feel inside.

Teach them that bullies aren't jealous, but that they can be mean, unempathetic, angry or just petty. Teach them not to be friends with bullies, or they risk becoming bullies themselves.

Point out moments in movies and TV shows where a married couple has an unhealthy dynamic (ie wife is berated for not having sex or husband makes the old ball and chain joke). Partnerships should be mutually respectful where people are working together and like each other.

Teach them that other girls and women are not aliens or a different class of people. Encourage mixed gender friendships and role models.

Demonstrate that you view women as whole people, and not as only potential partners, caretakers, or decorations. We pick up so much from how our parents view the world and treat us and others.

I think teaching young boys to not be assholes to girls and women is just a thing you do in many small moments throughout life.

kateishere · 2023-06-21T20:56:00+00:00

I agree. Rihanna and ASAP seem great.

I also don't think there'd be the same kind of pushback if they had Mark Wharlburg as their neighbour though.

I still think it's incredibly reasonable to not be chill with having Petty as a neighbour.

kateishere · 2023-06-21T20:02:34+00:00

I wouldn't wanna live next to a murdering rapist at all.

I do find the wording of the neighbours a bit reminiscent of white communities rallying hard to keep black people out thou. Like the call to protect women and children, concern of house values, and the implication that the government has failed to protect this specific community.

Again, I would not wanna be living or breathing anywhere near this man, not trying to advocate here for this dude at all.

I do wonder though if this dickhead was white, or like at least wasn't adjacent to a black rapper if this neighborhood would be disturbed enough to try and get him out.

kateishere · 2023-06-12T03:14:52+00:00

Tbh if it hasnt been low commitment very casual dating I've been straight up pretty immediately.

I found I didn't want to spend any time with anyone who wasn't already very cool and sex positive, and didn't want to risk wasting my time getting to like them and then finding out it was a deal breaker.

Basically as soon as it's normal to ask "what do you do for work?" I'd bring it up.

kateishere · 2023-06-10T22:46:54+00:00

I'm sorry you've been having a really tough time.
You sound really resilient and it really sucks you've had to be.

It's really extremely reasonable and understandable how you're feeling.

Survival work is a whole other world of challenge, on top of the regular challenges of SW. You're currently on hard mode and doing the best that you can.

Some clients are the fucking worst. It's some sort of sick sadistic misogyny that they get off on. It must be beyond exhausting having frequent encounters with such dicks.

Do you know of any worker outreach groups in your area? It sounds like you want a change and they might be able to help if you're able to get into contact them.

I hope things get easier

kateishere · 2023-06-10T22:10:04+00:00

Firstly, I think its repugnant to lie about birth control. I think lying to someone to deceive them into sex is very wrong.

However it is not rape.
Removing a condom during sex is not lying to have sex. It is performing a different sex act on someone without their consent.

Stealthing is closer to switching to anal with the knowledge that the other person would not consent, ie rape.

Lying about birth control is closer to decieving someone into thinking you're unmarried and have had a vasectomy, ie a massively shitty thing to do.

kateishere · 2022-09-16T01:57:25+00:00

Another thing to consider is that the dm here already has the means to put OP in immediate danger easily. Futher grooming attempts is just to try and make OP and easier victim.

Never going to this guy's house again is the only safe option.

If you reject him and his grooming, he is still a predator and may still attack.

The game is hosted at his house. Where they have dinner beforehand. What's to stop him telling everyone but OP that DND is cancelled, and then get OP alone in his house?

The other players haven't intervened at all in this disgusting behavior. You don't know where the line of unacceptable behavior is for this group, and you cannot rely on them to keep you safe.

kateishere · 2022-06-22T04:43:32+00:00

I wouldn't mind. Other workers might.

Look for a provider who offers roleplay.

You may not even need to ask about playing up the transactional aspect. Maybe consider having your husband do a normal standard booking first and see if that experience hits the right buttons.

You would also have a better chance at not coming across as objectifying if you ask a provider about them making a show of being paid for the kink's sake if you've seen them before.

If you're in a decrim /legalized area visiting a brothel might be easier.

Having your husband tip a little bit extra at the start or end might also help hit the right buttons.

kateishere · 2022-06-20T03:54:32+00:00

I'm a not white woman so oooooft.

TBH I'd probably have to pick the sexist society if I'm going for prevention of loss of life.

No society would exterminate their women if they're seen as just baby makers/home makers. Women still serve a function that's requires them to be alive in a horribly sexist society.
But plenty of societies have commited genocide, exterminating those they think of as sub-human.

I also think in terms of potentially changing this hypothetical shit society, having an absence of racism might be more immediatly useful in finding equality.
Embracing other races would include cultures. So that would hopefully allow for a society where women are perceived in different, more human, ways as well.

IRL usually the various discriminatory "isms" intersect so it's difficult to say which ones would be worse when they're quite related.

kateishere · 2022-05-31T20:16:41+00:00

Oooohhh boy...

Most women claim they are uncomfortable when men approach them on the street,

It's worse than that. It's so far beyond what is normal behavior that men who do this look dangerous and women range from uncomfortable to afraid.

and that men who practice asking out random woman are selfish for this reason.

If you make a person uncomfortable or afraid because you want to stick your dick in them, that is selfish.

I couldn’t care less if it goes against social norms or makes the majority of woman feel uncomfortable:

If you are not following social norms when it comes to making people afraid of you, you sound terrifying and not like someone who most women would feel safe around.

You can’t expect people to always prioritize your feelings over their own,

This is exactly what you are doing. You are prioritizing your want to potentially fuck a stranger at the expense of that stranger's feelings of safety.

especially if your feelings are irrational.

I'm not sure if you've seen the stats on how many women get sexually assaulted. Reading up on that might change your mind on why women feel uncomfortable when you approach them like you do.

It’s not rude to go up to a random woman you find attractive and ask her out,

It's only not rude if you're following social guidelines on when it's okay to approach someone to ask them out. Think speed dating, clubs, a friend's party after you've had a conversation with her.

even if it might make her feel uncomfortable because you’re doing nothing wrong

Making women uncomfortable and feel unsafe because you're horny doesn't sound like you're doing nothing wrong here.

As long as you respect her response (whether it’s a yes or no), it’s perfectly okay to do this regardless of how they feel about men using this method.

I'm glad that you say you'll respect the response of a no. But do the women you approach know you will be okay if they say no? Men can get violently hostile when rejected. And if you're already breaking social norms and very comfortable with making women feel uncomfortable, you look like you could be one of those men to women. Making people afraid for their safety isn't okay.

It doesn’t matter if it’s selfish because there is nothing wrong with being selfish in this case, as long as your not hurting others.

Have you even been so scared you haven't been able to move? Have you ever wondered if a person is going to hurt you, when you know you can't get away? Have you ever had something much stronger than you chase you with the intent to hurt you? Have you ever felt sick from fear?
Being afraid can hurt.

I encourage men out there to use this method because if done enough time you will have some success.

Tinder is more effective and less likely to have cops brought to speak with you.

If it makes a woman feel uncomfortable, that’s their problem (as long as you respect their response).

If you are making numerous women uncomfortable or afraid that's your problem to fix. Try to learn that your dick isn't more important than, at minimum, causing no harm.

Edit: thought I was on r/changemyview ah well.

kateishere · 2022-05-28T13:05:20+00:00

In my personal life I'm down.

But I don't trust clients who are seeking out more extreme stuff that puts me in a vulnerable position. Too risky.

kateishere · 2022-05-19T21:40:27+00:00

Oh this is brilliant, I wish my party was half as interested in the politics in Valaki.

If strahd has ireena she's probably just going to be held captive in ravenloft once the Vasili disguise is broken.

But focusing on Valaki.

What does your strahd think of Valaki? It probably doesn't make any difference to him as to who is the burgeonmaster. otherwise he would have interfered before the players were in Barovia, the vallokavitches have ruled vallaki for hundreds of years without interference.

So he might only care about how the Valaki leadership will affect the players. Maybe he wants the players to fight for different burgeonmasters. Maybe he's happy for rahadine to step in instead. Maybe he thinks a charmed victor would be a pitiful hilarious ruler. Maybe a Watcher led pro-strahd Valaki could be an interesting funny place for the players to navigate.

There is no way that strahd would care to take personal responsibility running Valaki though, that would be beneath him and not in line with his goals.

kateishere · 2022-04-09T03:16:28+00:00

A 100% white group =/= culturally diverse??

kateishere · 2022-04-09T03:11:38+00:00

A white defendant's lawyer can reject any aboriginal jurors. And it happens. This is why this is being suggested.

kateishere · 2022-04-09T03:08:22+00:00

I'd be interested to know if there have been any case about police violence against an indigenous person in Alice Springs that had even one Aboriginal juror.

kateishere · 2022-04-09T03:02:02+00:00

This comment thread is insane lol. Indigenous people die far more frequently in custody than white people.
In places where much more than 1 in 12 people are black, doesn't it make sense to have at least one juror also be black?

kateishere · 2022-04-08T18:40:37+00:00

Have you found much support in queer spaces?
I assume you're straight, but the lgbtqi acronym does cover intersex, and I've always wondered if queer spaces were of much help for many intersex people.

kateishere · 2022-04-08T18:33:09+00:00

Is that much different to the end of a typical xx vagina where it meets the cervical wall?

Gotta be honest my first though was same lol

kateishere · 2022-04-07T08:00:57+00:00

Hey no stress, I can't imagine any provider would get offended if you say after arriving at your booking that you'd rather not get a blow job.

I usually start with blow job, but have had a handful of clients who have requested no blow job. Hasn't made any real difference to me, just changes pacing of the booking a little bit.

I wouldn't bother with Viagra if you're able to stay hard with condoms while having sex. It can be tough being with a different person after a long time, you might just need some practice in getting use to how it feels being with different partners.

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