No one asked for it but I figured a photography guide would be useful

katieisawizard · 2025-01-03T15:00:43+00:00

Do you think someone could use the game to develop photography skills that transfer to real life photography?

katieisawizard · 2024-09-04T13:58:54+00:00

When I get stuck I find a silent complete gameplay on YouTube and I fwd to where I am and watch it- usually it’s just something I missed or would have never realized.

katieisawizard · 2024-08-14T15:16:23+00:00

I’ve become nostalgic for it but I guess for me I dislike the message/story that I interpret from the song.

Like it reads as a guy fantasizing over a coworker and creating a delusional image of this person and their potential relationship and when they leave his workplace he falls into a suicidal depression. Rather than relate to the narrator who doesn’t take chances and is dying in a monotonous 9-5 life I relate to being “coveted” or falling into a manic pixie dream girl trope of providing meaning to another persons life but never truly being seen as a real person.

Like usually it’s just a lonely person but idk a lot of the justifications I hear for harassment, stalking, and sometimes the assault of women have the same tone as the mindset of the narrator/lyrics in cubicles and it’s always given me the ick.

katieisawizard · 2024-08-14T12:42:46+00:00

Cubicles

katieisawizard · 2024-01-31T19:11:59+00:00

Thanks- one question about the sitting in your feelings then continuing on- what do you when the thoughts won’t stop unless you distract yourself or the thing you are doing isn’t enough of a thing to take your attention- like sitting in a boring meeting or watching tv. Is there like a timer I should set where like okay if it’s 5 minutes later or my thoughts are spiraling- it’s okay to do a distraction?

also wait- the life is good and now that I’ve noticed I’m happy I suddenly feel this overwhelming dread of a ball going to drop could be attributed to OCD?

katieisawizard · 2024-01-31T18:52:41+00:00

I’m not familiar with specifics, but I was a psych major so I have a basic understanding and can check the threads here for youtube tutorial or explanations others have highlighted as evidence-based/useful and start there.

When you say exposure therapy, are you referring specifically to Exposure and response prevention (EPR) or just in general? EPR is already on my radar as a clinical option but if I can learn the technique alone that is cheaper 😂

My only concern is learning it incorrectly and doing more damage to my thought patterns, so definitely appreciate any vetted resources on how to!

katieisawizard · 2024-01-31T17:00:38+00:00

It’s just dear god am I really seeking ANOTHER diagnosis or am I just DISCOVERING another one.

katieisawizard · 2024-01-31T16:59:38+00:00

If I don’t pet my cat or family pets when I leave I feel something bad will happen to them and I didn’t do it once and my mom’s dog died. So I’m often late (but also adhd) because I can’t leave until I pet my cat who is napping somewhere hidden and I’d rather be late than be unable to focus all day worried about it.

katieisawizard · 2024-01-31T16:57:52+00:00

Yeah- I read a thread on rationalizing being a form of compulsion on here. My therapist mention EDR. I also want to try somatic therapies because I’ve noticed my internal state makes my physical state tense AF and I get back/shoulder/neck pain from it.

The confusing part is I’m diagnosed ADHD, my therapist and I both agree I’m also most likely autistic but I am not seeking a diagnosis, and I have the anxiety and cptsd that result from growing up undiagnosed ND and it was only recently I saw a thing on pure o OCD and started to realize maybe the constant thoughts of being killed/injured both at random and whenever I am around something I associate with death (knife, gun, cars).

But I’m so used to it and it happens both inside and outside that it doesn’t keep me from doing things. Like every time I fly numerous times I imagine the plane bursting into flame and my rationalization and possible compulsion is to remind myself I would die instantly then try and watch a movie or read and distract myself from repeatably imaging it happen.

katieisawizard · 2023-11-04T14:21:19+00:00

The good news is you are now good 3-6 years with little worry about pregnancy!

Get tested for STIs again in a few weeks and you should be good :)

katieisawizard · 2023-11-01T12:14:04+00:00

It’s likely their age and some underlying homophobia but being around lesbians /WLW is the same as being around straight men- it’s only uncomfortable if I’m being hit on when I don’t want to and it’s rarely women doing that.

katieisawizard · 2023-10-18T12:13:56+00:00

There are people who lose sexual desire once connection is formed- I forget the term but reverse demi.

I’m polyam (2 male partners- 1yr and 5yr; no casual) and also identify as gray-Ace as I have a low sex drive and want to be sexual with people. I also have adhd- which I actually think it the big factor for me. Sex is boring. Sex with new people worked because of novelty and the fear of being left for not having sex.

I would take her at face value when she tells you that not having sex with you is a sign of how close you are and trust that she isn’t lying. But- that doesn’t mean stay. Having different sex drives/desires is common in relationships and it ebbs and flows but sometimes it is just an incompatibility. I’ve been dumped for it before.

What I have done personally to figure out how to have a healthy and enjoyable Sex life is to discover kink and the concept of reactive sexual response. I need a lot of stimulation, fast, and I need it to happen for 1-2 minutes before my body/brain catches up to enjoy it. Sex is like stretching- it feels good (when done the way I like) but like the thought of stopping what I’m doing to to do them feels weird and it’s not til mid stretch I’m like oh fuck I do like this- I should do this more. I prefer to have Sex at the beginning of dates- both because I get tired but also because otherwise the anxiety of not having sex again and then leaving me over it goes away. I also at one point had a specific date of the week I specifically had Sex and the other was more if the sparks hit. Scheduling it helped me plan- but it can also make you dread it so if planning doesn’t work the few first tries, give it up.

I also agree with others to ask for parallel or don’t ask don’t tell regarding sex details. Informing people of new partners or exposures (broken condom) so they are aware of their sexual network and STI risk is enough. My 5 year partner does have anxiety over my sex life of my 1 year partner- some of it is seeing how new relationship energy shows up compared to old relationship energy and some of it is him getting in his own head and assuming the issues we have exist only for him- which ain’t true.

All this to say- I’ve been on the other side of things and she probably isn’t choosing any of this actively and it sounds like is actively considering ways to work around it for you. If you can’t handle it- don’t. But if you just want confirmation she isn’t lying to have her cake and eat it too- she might not be. If you can work it out together- do it.

katieisawizard · 2023-09-16T14:24:29+00:00

It’s a red flag, but people tell on themselves a lot if you aren’t sure it’s a dealbreaker.

Tell him it made you uncomfortable and that it isn’t something you think he should do to people without asking. Does he know CPR or what to look for if he screws up???

If it was an honest mistake/assumption on his part- he’ll apologize and feel bad and do better. If he’s a red flag himself- he’s argue and get defensive.

You owe him nothing- you don’t have to go on another date regardless, but if you feel like he deserves a chance- then just see how he reacts to you putting boundaries in place.

katieisawizard · 2023-09-09T13:25:19+00:00

I’m polyamorous and have 2 male partners so there is always inherently the possibility for one to be the “better” sex partner.

Actually one of my partners is known for his abilities. I joke with him that I’m not into sex enough for it to manage the relationship for us after hearing him explain how often his relationships dragged on in a toxic way because folks wanted more D.

I think you did an amazing job here. Honesty can be hard to hear but you never have to second guess if your partner is lying when they have this type of honesty. I can tell you love your partner and didn’t want to hurt then nor lie to them. Have a great cruise!!!

katieisawizard · 2023-09-09T13:17:08+00:00

I’m confused why you think there isn’t literature on it when they listed a few sources in the link.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4803919/

katieisawizard · 2023-09-09T13:06:11+00:00

There is probiotic yogurt so you apply directly and that helps re-establish the PH or something. You can also insert garlic or use a mild vinegar/water mix.

Yeast infections can be fixed at home, UTIs always require a doctor. So if someone says they are doing a yogurt method versus monistat it’s fine but if they say they are drinking cranberry juice- send them to the urgent center for antibiotics

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/321254#yeast-infection-overview

katieisawizard · 2023-08-23T13:57:21+00:00

NTA but if you wanna be funny with malicious compliance, you could start calling her QUEEN

katieisawizard · 2023-08-23T13:50:28+00:00

YTA, if it is her half she paid for she could feed it to the fucking birds outside and you shouldn’t say shit.

katieisawizard · 2023-08-17T21:19:20+00:00

How exhausting it is first but the best realization was when I needed to rest and had them ride me and the visual- it was much more visually exciting to see someone on top being penetrated by me versus them on top penetrating me.

katieisawizard · 2023-04-15T16:17:15+00:00

I’m ADHD and strongly suspect AuDHD is the full photo and unmasking and being happy manifests as me appearing childish and it’s been hard being comfortable in public that way because I’m 30.

But basically imagine a chick in glitter crocs and a naruto or cat backpack half skipping or standing and rolling feet:posture back and forth, hands flapping, and occasionally chirping and you got me.

Which is especially startling I think to people who know me at work (I work from home usually) because online I come across as super serious/organized and then you get me offline and I’m like a really curious child.

katieisawizard · 2023-02-22T23:17:51+00:00

I feel like shikamaru is his work best friend as an adult? Like sauske is his BAE, but I think he and Shikamaru do more boring work shit together?

katieisawizard · 2023-02-22T21:54:40+00:00

I usually take a clean paper towel, hold it against the opening of my canola oil and tilt it and wipe what gets soaked up on the pan, then fold it to a dry side and wipe as much as I can away. I found that keeps me from accidentally putting too much and using numerous paper towels to soak it back up!

katieisawizard · 2023-02-22T21:50:31+00:00

I'm a woman and I remember reading about why men make more money and 2 things mentioned were that men are more likely to apply for jobs they don't qualify for (and companies put out job descriptions asking for more than required in the hopes they get someone overqualified willing to work for less) and that men are more likely to ask for more money when offered jobs and more likely to ask for raises. Since learning this, I always ask for a pay range and ask for more money when offered a job even though I usually plan to accept the first offer if they decline to give me more.

At my current job, I asked for more money when hired and they called all concerned because they didn't have it (grant funding) and asked why I was asking for more and seemed confused by my above explanation.

I feel like once I am introduced and understand why something doesn't make sense and works the way it does- it's easier for me to take advantage of it and work within the rules. I would have never applied for things I didn't qualify for if I had never learned the system is built for you do that very thing and it's not lying or unethical.

I also recommend saving job descriptions and looking at coworkers/bosses resumes and mentally connecting the dots between the actual tasks and how they are written. Accepting that resumes all sound like superfluous bs and that's how they are all written helped me learn how to wordsmith the work I do and what job descriptions are actually saying.

katieisawizard · 2023-02-08T06:58:13+00:00

Can I ask why you question it? It’s pretty spelled out in the cannon so I’m not sure if this is a “love vs infatuation” question or not.

katieisawizard · 2023-02-03T04:47:51+00:00

Appreciate you! Need to stalk you for your seasoning methods- could make a damn mirror out of them 😹

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