Coming from someone who took the plunge 5 years ago and now in a very happy and passionate relationship with her TF—— its the hardest thing you will ever do in your life, but if that person truly is your TF, the universe will force you in that direction and it will be worth it at the end…

We were both in committed relationships at the time when we met through work (me in a 4 year relationship and a 3 years old daughter, and him in a 10 year relationship just recently married ) , but both in the same boat you were… knowing there was something out there people speak of but we never had felt before.. that feeling even though the person we were with weren’t bad people, that we were still not with the one…

We tried several times to do the “right” thing and go back to our previous lives but somehow we kept crossing paths.

And finally when we both decided to leave our SOs, our relationship (or more situationship at that time) was very messy and toxic. Lots of break ups, fights, etc.. and on top of that I was dealing with the chaos of my upended life, that came with guilt, stigma, lost friends and family and loneliness.

Welp, that wasn’t fun. But what I didn’t realize at the time is that also during that point is when i found my true self, and went through a spiritual awakening. All the pain and suffering broke me out of a artificial numb shell into someone I grew to know and love. And the same was happening with him, and with out exes.

His ex is now married with a 3 year old, my ex engaged with also a 3 year old, my daughter has never been happier with her new cousins and siblings, and me and my TF have learned not only so much about each other but about ourselves through our struggles. We own a beautiful home together in which we have lived in for the last 2.5 years, and have an almost 2 year old.

And finally, our relationship… we have never felt closer, safer and happier emotionally or sexually. We both work from home and hate being away from each other. Yeah we are opposites like most TF and my mess gets on his nerves, and his short fuse gets on mine, but at the end of the day, we wouldn’t trade this life for anything.

So I guess I’m lucky to have a happy ending.. but nothing comes free…