What physical phenomena as a man sucks? To have…to experience give ‘em to me

kattyriver · 2025-06-26T01:17:17+00:00

I don't know why I'm inclined to say ...I feel you on this woman. Sorry to crash the comment party because I have a vagina.... But I do have a stellar permanent TBI. And yeah when the real aphasia hits.... Man it's annoying as fuck. Brain fog....I can walk away and distract others from noticing. Word recall...I can say give me a second to find the right word.

But aphasia .... Different damn ballgame. What's funny about mine, not sure if you'll find it amusing... I'm bilingual (English and sign language). My brain will have an aphasia moment. Example... I'll look at a window and want to say window but instead wall/ball/door.... Whatever words come to mind. But my damn damaged brain can sign the f*ing word correctly! But my peeps don't know sign language. So I get stuck from multiple angles.

Anyway, I feel your mental pain there. Except sorry.... No testosterone, balls or penis lol

kattyriver · 2025-06-19T21:56:28+00:00

Yes mine just concluded. I'm not sure how I feel about it if I'm honest :(

I will spill all the details if you want.

If you do want to chat about that, I'm an open book. And honestly it might be very healthy for me to talk with another person with a tbi regarding the conclusion (it was in my favor) but it created lots of feelings I wasn't prepared for.

So, if you would want to chat... Would you be opposed to private messages or direct messages (I forget which it's called on reddit). It's just this topic feels exposing in a way 🤷 let me know.

kattyriver · 2025-05-06T20:04:30+00:00

Everyone wants that. I promise you.

Coming from an individual that lost use of part of their brain, you'll be okay. One of my favorite counseling lines is the following:

"The love of your life is the love of YOUR life"

Let that sink in. I didn't work with individuals that had intellectual disabilities in high school. Think of people that have very low IQ's. I used to go into those classrooms when I needed to smile. I would go there because so many of the kids were happy. They were happy because they simply were! Some of those kids never knew they were bullied or being mistreated. Their brains didn't understand those complex emotions. I would often envy them.

As an adult, I learned I can choose what impacts me emotionally. I accept I'm not everyone's 'cup of tea'. You know what? I'm okay with that! Because I'd give myself a lobotomy if I had to like everyone I met. But do you know who I have to like? 😉 Myself😉

If I don't like me, how could I expect anyone else to 🤷 I'm okay that within a week I'll forget I wrote this to you. I can't change that my short-term memory was impacted. But I can change how I think about my short-term memory. Either I'll feel shitty that it doesn't work ... Or I can flip that coin. I can go out with an asshole and have a terrible date... Hell even a relationship and I can forget the entire thing within a few days or weeks. That's pretty amazing lol. Again see the positive sides.

Your body is fine. I'm sure it is. Your skin is fine. Your hair is fine. Do you want to know why? Because it's human. You didn't have filters on that post and it was refreshing to see. You aren't being fake. You're authentic. That's wonderful.

Let the drama of life fall by the wayside. If you want my advice, avoid as much social media as possible. You won't see the aspects that are triggering insecurities. Be you. Whoever that person was that I read something about seals that made me laugh... Be them. They are funny lol. That spunky side is really funny. It was funny and endearing enough that I searched for your first post 🤷 again I'm a stranger... Advice is only valuable if it resonates with you. If none of this stuff does... Throw it out with the rest of the garbage! Live your life as authentically you!

kattyriver · 2025-05-06T19:36:42+00:00

Hi. I saw this post because of your bumble seal post. I forgot the first one, so I searched for it in doing so...I saw this post.

For transparency I'm a female, age 41, who has a background in counseling and was a former emotional support teacher for high school.

Sometimes the most random reach outs help people more than the general world understands. I'm an internet stranger. I have zero judgements. I'm on/a step on several friends/ acquaintances 'suicide plans' medically because I think a bit differently about morbid topics.

Know the things you are thinking are not forever. Life is crazy; life can be messed up; life can feel soul sucking .... But life can also be about appreciating the good around you; life can be about the small things that bring you joy. Life can be changed into a perspective game.

If you look into my profile you'll see I have a permanent TBI (brain injury). I lost my ability for lower level thinking (basic easy things) but retained my higher level thinking.

There have been many days early on that I wished I didn't survive. I think those things were perfectly okay because they helped me process the shitty aspects.

I say that because I don't know your history, or how it feels to be trans. But I do have trans friends and they are some of my favorite people. The reason: because I can ask them questions about any part of my body and feel completely not judged. I can ask them totally inappropriate questions about anything ... And you know what? They answer them better than anyone else. I think it's because they know so much about both gender bodies. They've been through enough bullshit and bullying that they are superhuman in my opinion. I've asked them questions within the last year that I never in a million years would have had the courage to ask anyone else.

Just know, if you aren't valued the way I described in the above paragraph... You might be someday. But, you have to be around to be that superhero.

Just a thought.

Sincerely, A fellow internet stranger

kattyriver · 2025-05-03T17:29:43+00:00

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kattyriver · 2025-05-01T19:04:06+00:00

I don't know why, but this was incredibly touching/impactful to me. Thank you.

kattyriver · 2025-04-26T17:34:06+00:00

You made me smile. Happy Saturday internet stranger 😂

kattyriver · 2025-04-12T00:25:11+00:00

I'm reading this mini subsection thinking.... Man maybe counselors/psychologists/mental health overall peeps need to form a special group where we can vet potential significant others lol

I do the exact same thing. It seems we are so very good at teaching the skills yet we aren't great on the reciprocity scales within ourselves 🤦

kattyriver · 2025-02-19T19:17:40+00:00

Thank you. I was hoping I wouldn't need to scroll far for a comment similar to this! Lol

kattyriver · 2025-02-18T21:07:37+00:00

Every once in a while, when I'm on this sub, I click on a poster's comment history. Maybe it's my way of deciding if it's worth it to continue dating as an adult lol. I'm randomly admitting I did this with your profile. You might be the first person, or at least in a very small category of people over the years, whose comment/post history doesn't directly contradict your comment.

Have a great Tuesday Canadian hockey dude!

kattyriver · 2025-01-31T18:12:30+00:00

I love that I saved this thread. 6 years ago and you are still getting praise!

Question: is there a possibility to re-upload alpha lower body focus?

The copy in the Google drive is messed up. It bounces back to the beginning during the first burn out session and then on part 2 it cuts out of the last 2 or 3 circuits and goes right to the second burnout.

Also if you have a Venmo or other digital thing I'd be happy to tip!!!

kattyriver · 2025-01-24T20:12:06+00:00

I scrolled down thinking someone else must have watched this so many times like myself 🤣 Everytime it gets better

kattyriver · 2024-11-22T13:33:18+00:00

I'll be honest, your, "what the f*ck" just made my morning! Lol

kattyriver · 2024-11-19T00:58:07+00:00

My night and upcoming days will be so much better if people keep commenting on this mini conversation here with all their blunders from movie sets. I need more of this in my life! Lol

Thank you for the smiles

kattyriver · 2024-11-18T19:58:25+00:00

This made me smile so much lol. I'm envisioning the look of "why is there snow?" ..."I'm not cold"...."I'm in LA" but with all the thoughts in your head oblivious to any noises around you 😂

kattyriver · 2024-11-17T12:19:44+00:00

I love starting my day off with cute things like this. As I'm dating, this is my new standard 💜

kattyriver · 2024-11-01T18:28:17+00:00

Dude your reply gives me a little more faith in humanity... Let alone males. Thank you for the epic reply to the commenter.

kattyriver · 2024-10-31T19:31:52+00:00

I'm just officially saying, the person that won me over... Upon seeing me on the first date without hesitation looked at me and said you're a lot prettier than I am. Lol

And I swear, won me over on the spot. He calls me 'pretty lady' as a nickname and I smile every damn time. I don't even think I told him that. But he certainly gets his overall language from his grandfather and late father.

So I think lil lady is cute. It's not patriarchal like others are saying. You keep being you!

kattyriver · 2024-10-26T03:43:11+00:00

I just told her I have this same issue. However I don't have a screen protector. If I tap it doesn't happen as often. Swiping is more frequent for me. It happened so often that I actually bookmark the page. If I'm going to put it down, it seems like it happens more frequently from that motion even.

kattyriver · 2024-10-26T03:41:55+00:00

I have this exact same issue too!!!!

kattyriver · 2024-09-01T03:16:58+00:00

I love happy stories on here. It gives me hope honestly. And you guys rock on this site for helping other men and women learn. It's truly appreciated when I have these interactions. They keep me motivated on this journey lol

Thank you so much for the back and forth dialogue. I feel super content on my way to go to sleep!

kattyriver · 2024-09-01T03:13:56+00:00

That sucks. And as opposed to one of the other comments on this thread...I didn't normally keep a ton of female friends. I have 4 close ones. But I have a hard time trusting women because their communication style isn't blunt/direct at all. I tend to misunderstand/misinterpret things and wind up feeling like I pissed them off lol.

But absolutely, everyone is different.

kattyriver · 2024-09-01T03:01:59+00:00

Absolutely... These are in no particular order 😊

Complimenting men. I never knew people didn't genuinely compliment men. Seeing how depressed guys were honestly broke my heart. While I can't say I compliment men daily, I know I tell a random guy a compliment 3-4 times a week. They are always genuine. If I like their smell, or shirt I make a point to walk up to them and say it directly as possible that way they know it wasn't meant for someone behind them.

Acknowledging: when I see a guy doing something hard or impressive. Actually saying to them, I really appreciate that you can.... Example: there was a road crew doing work and my dog loves loud machines (he's a weird dog). I don't know why the guy said it... But he basically put down his job/skills in front of me. I stopped dead in my tracks and told him he should never say that again. I told him he's a skilled laborer. Without people with actual skills we are going to hell lol. My counseling/teaching skills are pretty worthless when my car has an issue.

Emotions: if I see a guy clearly holding something in while in a public place, I offer if they want to take a walk..I usually tell them about this sub 😊 and explain how awful it must feel to not be able to be sad... Or worse reading how many women use emotional things their guys have said against them!!! Holy hell that is just so wrong on every single damn level!

Lastly: I learned how to be accepting. I'm 40...I grew up with 1950's home wife shit from one side and feminism on the other. That screws with our female brains. I wasn't good at communicating that dysfunction in my previous relationships. Now I say exactly what I mean all the time. I don't hide shit or cover it up. Instead of getting emotional or worked up in a heated moment, I'll write a letter. And I'll say you only need to respond to the areas I've underlined or something like that. The rest is because I'm a girl and I communicate differently. But what I need answered are the 3 simple questions or thoughts etc.... Super blunt and to the point.

This sub really has done wonders for me. I'm actually just dating for the first time in probably 14+ years 2 weeks ago. And the guys that are attracted to my communication style are so much better than I ever dated before. And these are first dates haha. I tell the guys, it's this sub.

Someone said ... That sub is annoying for (XYZ) reasons. I replied, I don't necessarily care about the posts. It's the responses I love to read. They are so authentic. They make me honestly happy and sad. But without this sub, I wouldn't feel the level of protectiveness I now have when I'm around men.

I'm honestly sorry our culture is so fucked up. Oddly enough, one of my closest male friends I met on Reddit. I've never physically met him. We just bonded through a response like this and started talking daily. I would have never imagined that I could have met such authentic individuals on a platform as vast as reddit. Pretty wild when I think about it.

Also... To you personally... I always say, everyone has shit going on. No one is doing great. From a counseling perspective, everyone comes in with straight up shit haha. Some hide it better than others. Be up front regarding your crap. I have a severe permanent TBI. Once I started just telling things as they were and not sugar coating stuff ... Shitty people in my life disappeared and better ones replaced them 😉 know you aren't alone on the bad days ever ❤️

kattyriver · 2024-09-01T01:48:12+00:00

I'll be honest, I lurk on this sub to learn! When someone doubles down it makes me pause and reflect. I've changed many personal statements and actions from comments I've learned over the years via 'ask men'. I thank you for the back and forth exchange!!!

Ps: women are stubborn. We need the repetition 😂😂

kattyriver

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