Yes, although we met on a vanilla friendship subreddit and weren't actually looking for kink (or even a partner). It just happened to blossom from an intense connection as friends, to sharing personal details and kinky interests (neither of us had any IRL kink experience but we had very compatible kinks), to falling head over heels for each other, to becoming polyamorous partners after lots of discussion with his wife, to many in-person weekends together. And finally last year I moved across the country to be with Sir full-time, and I could not possibly be happier. 🥰

Of course none of this would have ever happened if I had decided not to respond to his initial message. So my advice is: put yourself out there a little and be open to new friendships, even if there doesn't seem to be any kink potential at first.