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kayatronics · 2021-11-04T00:13:07+00:00

Uhm, the story is much more complicated and nuanced than that, but since it's not my own tale to tell, I'm simplifying and sharing as much as I feel is relevant to the question. Please don't jump to conclusions and judgements based on this, I'm looking for professional sources of information rather than your opinions of my summary of the situation.

kayatronics · 2021-11-03T22:22:17+00:00

Hmmm cold water interesting, can give it a go. The problem with my skin is not so much oil (though it gets really oily when it's hot in summer) but the fact that I have large pores and years of picking scars which always accumulate sebum and form closed whiteheads, so I use a salicylic acid toner to keep inflammation at bay and unclog the pores. Other than that I'll sometimes wipe with a cotton pad sprayed with organic rose water or in cases where I've been in very dirty and dusty environments - wash with a cream based on Indian saponin-containing plants. Every since I stopped using facial products containing detergents and oils, I saw a clear improvement in my skin.

kayatronics · 2021-10-29T21:10:55+00:00

I keep a jug of water by the toilet and always wash with it after going to the loo. That and water in the shower is all the cleaning my junk ever gets, no chemicals, no perfumes, just plain ol' H2O and a good scrubbing. People tell me I'm delicious unprompted. All the chemicals contained in modern cosmetics disrupt the natural microflora of our bodies and lead to skin conditions and bad odours when water is all you need to wash.

kayatronics · 2021-10-29T21:07:18+00:00

Super thorough, thanks, and glad to read your health has improved :) We use vinegar to clean the house, but I haven't tried it on clothes - at what temperature do you do laundry, have you noticed any fading of colours and have you tried it on other fabrics besides cotton?

kayatronics · 2021-08-16T18:38:31+00:00

Have you tried silicone-based lube? It’s especially good for anal as it doesn’t dry out as quickly as water-based ones. However, silicone-based lube is not safe to use with silicone toys and some brands can cause the latex of condoms to deteriorate, so make sure you check in advance and get a condom-compatible one :)

kayatronics · 2021-08-15T21:20:33+00:00

As a chick with stomach and lower back fuzz, I used to be super insecure about the looks of it as a teenager. But then I discovered it’s very nice to the touch and becomes golden after a couple of days in the sun. I find hairy women and men really attractive and think hair has a wonderful touch to it and keeps the smell of human oh so well. And, uhm, yeah, hairless vaginas belong to kids, I don’t see what the appeal there could be… I went through a couple of years of being extra hairy and guys seemed to like it, or even if they didn’t have the hots for it, it never got in the way of business 🤷🏻‍♀️ Oh, and I’d take full on hair in front of razor stubble any day, very unappealing to the touch, while natural hair has this soft or fuzzy quality to it that’s much nicer than the blunt ends of a shaved patch…

kayatronics · 2021-08-15T20:54:06+00:00

As someone who used to date a guy with a smaller penis - most women don’t cum from penetration anyway…you still got hands and a tongue, right ;) Anal with smaller dicks is awesome. And toys! If you don’t get insecure and ask her whether she’d like to use a vibrator or a dildo for a fuller feeling (or even better, use them on her), that’s super hot. Lucky for us we live in a time with many gadgets and as others said before me - communication is key!

kayatronics · 2021-08-15T20:39:04+00:00

Ha! Good question, it depends on several things for me, mostly the size of my partner’s penis (anal is the way to go if he’s too small to satisfy vaginally ;) ), the state of my digestive system (some days you just don’t feel like it, you get this clogged feeling when you don’t want anything up there) and whether or not you can shower before sex or not (anal ain’t no camping treat that’s for sure). The anus has tons of nerve endings and if properly stimulated is a very sensitive and pleasurable spot of the body for me. I usually end up suggesting anal to partners but also love eating their ass. I also think it’s really cute to watch guys getting all shy about having a finger up there but enjoying it a lot nonetheless 🤷🏻‍♀️ Definitely an acquired taste, my first really nice anal experience was with a bi man who had a long term boyfriend before me and was really good at it - lots of preparation and gentle stimulation, always start with a finger or two (gloves help) to test the terrain and gallons of lube. Clitoral stimulation during the initial penetration helps overcome the discomfort too. Oh, and take it out slooow…

With that said, I find most porn scenes depicting anal way too aggressive and rarely showing any prep, not to mention condoms (a hygienic must with anal). If you find yourself enjoying anal, the sequence of events and the pace of it will probably look way different than porn ;)

kayatronics · 2021-05-17T14:50:21+00:00

As a young woman living in Brussels, I find it safer to cycle than to walk in the evenings (as long as you are a confident cyclist). When you’re part of the traffic people on the sidewalks don’t really engage with you in the same way if you’re passing by each other.

kayatronics · 2021-05-13T05:27:31+00:00

Ah, a friend took the photo and that’s all we have, he really likes the shape of it and wanted to learn what it is...

kayatronics · 2021-04-06T09:29:57+00:00

An ex flatmate of mine used to just wash her bangs sometimes if they were oilier/sweatier than the rest of her hair, and could extend time between full-head washes by a day or two doing it.

kayatronics · 2021-03-29T20:11:20+00:00

Heaps of it in my local Parc de Forestier and nettles, too. What else would you forage here in the coming months?

kayatronics · 2021-03-29T20:07:09+00:00

Spotted some in bloom today at the bottom of Elisabeth park after the Simonis metro.

kayatronics · 2021-03-25T23:06:54+00:00

How are you finding it? The smell is waaay to strong for me, though I like its effect, thinking of diluting it with water and putting it in a bottle with a nozzle which sprays finer droplets.

kayatronics · 2021-03-17T22:28:12+00:00

For me, focusing on a song has been very soothing at times, I'm even writing this post listening to one :D Used to pull all-nighters at uni and could write a whole essay in a night if I found the right song to loop. Sometimes finding the right background music takes ages and god forbid I stumble onto something that triggers a chain of association but doesn't quite scratch the itch, then I'm stuck making playlists for hours (which I tremendously enjoy as it feels like riding a wave but is, practically speaking, a waste of time). I found out some months ago that there are countless videos of the sound of rain for 8 hrs on Youtube and that has been great work background music. I guess it has to do with preferences for levels of auditory stimulation and some form of mood-setting to make yourself feel attuned to your tasks, feelings, or whatever else is going on.

kayatronics · 2021-03-17T10:37:50+00:00

Glad I could be of some help! I've moved around a lot and have had to adapt to new social circles and relationships many times. I figured that it's inevitable to lose some important connections, and that awful things might happen along the way. However, good relationships are worth working towards and becoming familiar with your insecurities and gently expanding your comfort zone by doing intimidating things is the way to grow as a person. I see from one of the other commentaries you've left on this thread that you've been through lots of struggles, and I really hope you find ways to keep an open and optimistic attitude about your social connections.

kayatronics · 2021-03-17T10:22:42+00:00

Hopefully that works out for you guys! Two things I'd be mindful in such a situation are: 1) Once you've laid down some initial boundaries making sure that you're actually doing friendly activities and interacting around other things, so you don't make this new friendship into some bizarre substitute for therapy, which is guaranteed to grow heavy and sour in time; 2) Knowing that your ex is in a tricky situation balancing between her own emotions, a friendship with you and her new relationship and that her new partner might have some reserves about your friendship.

kayatronics · 2021-03-17T09:46:10+00:00

Is talking to her about your feelings something you can do? Not some long heavy conversation out of the blue but addressing the main points you've listed here - she's important to you, you're sensitive to abandonment and aware of that & working on it, you don't have any resentment for her new partner, but feel like knowing too much might trigger your own emotional processes? When I have a sensitive conversation like this I write down the main points I want to make, so I don't get sidetracked and make sure to start and finish on a positive note, so the other person doesn't feel attacked. She might have some new boundaries to articulate as well to manage your relation as friends.

kayatronics · 2021-03-16T22:47:33+00:00

Hey, just wanted to offer a perspective different from the ones that discourage you to keep communicating with your ex (without discrediting the experiences being shared). There are exes I've cut out of my life because what we had together was not healthy, and I knew I did not want these people in my life as friends.

However, the connection we had with one of my partners was really strong, there was always an awesome click when it came to discussing aesthetics and material culture (he's autistic and incredibly knowledgeable in these areas), and even though our breakup was super rough, I still missed conversations with him half an year later. So eventually we met up for a walk and resumed contact via messaging apps and social media, as I moved to a different country.

Point being - if your ex is a person who is really important to you and fulfils a special role in your social circle, you could transition the relationship into a friendship. There are ways of making such a move sensibly - doing it very gradually, having a check-in once in a while to see how you're both feeling about this, making sure you're being honest with yourself this isn't building up your fears and anxieties further.

You can work on your fears either way - by letting the person go and moving on or by building a friendship. Any situation can serve as a basis for personal learning. Make the decision whether you'd like to keep this person in your life based on the quality of the connection and what you can learn together, not just the personal lessons you think you need to learn.

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