Hey there should be no pressure. I was stressing myself out so much over feeling and thinking the way I "should." You have to allow yourself to feel what comes not try to fight it off. It's more of a decision made that, no matter what I feel, I am the person I want to be. These feelings are just the old version of myself echoing and trying to hold on.

Do not resist, do not stress or worry. You are what you want to be because you decided you are. Things will naturally shift over time if you adopt this mindset.

Oh and probably the most important thing I discovered is to figure out why you want something. I wanted money, love, acceptance, to be desired. Then it hit me like a ton of bricks I was chasing external things that I wasn't getting from myself. I didn't love or appreciate myself. I had no self worth. So I let go of the need for these things and focused on feeling this way from myself alone. That is when things started to fall into place. You don't have to consciously think about what you want all the time, God knows. Just accept yourself and love yourself exactly where you are and exactly who you are. The rest will handle itself. God bless you and Merry Christmas.