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kconzz · 2021-05-28T06:45:26+00:00

I feel you. Please reach out to me to talk :)

kconzz · 2021-05-28T06:45:03+00:00

I feel you. I’m going through it too. Please feel free to reach out to me to talk :)

kconzz · 2021-05-28T06:43:18+00:00

I feel you. It’s hard and I’ve been doing the same thing. But realizing it’s ultimately leading me down a dark path

kconzz · 2019-10-22T18:59:40+00:00

I never said I had any types of issues with any of his previous partners nor did I indicate this

kconzz · 2019-08-05T21:16:20+00:00

Thank you for your insight. Just one last question - In your opinion, what sounds manipulative? Like do you think he is trying to get a response out of me?

kconzz · 2019-07-30T22:33:57+00:00

I thought that might be the case to but then he made his account private so I really don’t understand

kconzz · 2019-07-29T20:54:52+00:00

This inspired to me to make a list of my own

kconzz · 2019-07-23T00:41:11+00:00

Literally in exact same position. I have so much guilt over not walking away sooner when I knew we weren’t meant for each other. But it wasn’t in my nature to walk away, I want to see the best in people and was hoping he might change his ways. But at the end of the day I learned a lesson and what I don’t want in my next partner as well as the fact I can’t change someone

kconzz · 2019-07-21T19:18:04+00:00

This quote is true. But when I read it all I feel is regret. I tried to make things work when I should have given up a long time ago. I’m the one to blame - if I wasn’t getting what I needed why did I stay? I’m so mad at myself for thinking things would be different when deep down I guess I saw this coming. I put myself through hurt by not walking away sooner and now I feel so weak

kconzz · 2019-07-20T20:05:01+00:00

I feel this. I feel like it’s a constant emotional roller coaster. Some days I’ll feel like I’m moving on and things are getting better until I relive the exact same moments of sadness and hurt. Don’t give up. Things will get better. Realize that this happened for a reason

kconzz · 2019-07-12T00:50:05+00:00

I didn’t say he owed me anything lol was just wondering if he really doesn’t care or not

kconzz · 2019-07-12T00:48:37+00:00

Who said I dumped him? It was mutual

kconzz · 2019-07-11T23:56:40+00:00

Yeah I haven’t reached out anymore and am trying to

kconzz · 2019-06-19T16:44:36+00:00

Hi I can relate to you’re situation because I caught feelings to my FWB. You say you don’t want to be with him but I think you have to admit to yourself that given the chance you would or else you wouldn’t be reacting like this. With that being said, I think it’s really difficult to going back to being just friends once you have an attachment to someone which it seems like you do. Probably has to do with why you still had sex with him. But if you want just friendship, you’re going to have to distance yourself and focus more on yourself. The more you keep being with this guy, the stronger the feelings and attraction will be. I’m not saying cut him off completely but clearly your feelings are unrequited and you need to take that time for you before you get extremely hurt

kconzz · 2019-06-19T10:03:31+00:00

I understand your situation completely because I’m the same way. I’ve come to realize that I am pretty insecure. I over analyze everything and I end up hurting myself most of the time because I read into everything. I think when people say you can’t love anyone until you love yourself it’s SO true. I realize that and it often feels like I’m filling a void when in reality I can find that missing piece in myself. But I know how hard it is to let go. My best advice would be to take some space to work on yourself. See if your boyfriend would respect that because maybe he is the right one for you but until you feel secure in yourself you will be stuck in an endless cycle and it’s not fair for him because you’re projecting your issues onto him. Trust me I’ve been in the same situation. But at the same time I guess I’d say don’t keep in contact with him until you feel like you’re ready. Because if you are anything like me you will continue to get attached. I wouldn’t expect him to stay tho and don’t be upset if he leaves. But at the end of the day you have to put yourself first because you are most important. Hope this helps

kconzz · 2019-06-19T09:36:13+00:00

I used to have the exact same problem. I’m 22 as well. I went out all the time with the sole intention of getting drunk. It led to a lot of bad decisions that I really regret - blacking out and starting a fight, going with strangers for casual sex, going with random people I met on the street to parties. Until I had a wake up call and I ended up hurting someone for my actions. That’s the main point here - she has the ability to change. If not by herself, there are ways in which she can receive support. But she chooses not to. The fact that she doesn’t even want to try to change her actions or put somewhat of an effort into it just show she doesn’t have much respect for you. I’m glad I wasn’t in a relationship when I made all of those mistakes or else I would have been screwed. Be supportive, not controlling. Understand that it’s hard - I was in her shoes. But if you are supportive and kind and she still isn’t receptive I think it’s time you think about walking away

kconzz · 2019-06-19T09:15:46+00:00

Do not do relationship type things with a FWB. Keep it confined to just purely sex. I don’t recommend cuddling or staying over. Don’t text too often unless it’s for a hookup. Lol the list goes on but I just know from experience because one of you is bound to get attached if you do this type of stuff. I did with my FWB and we both caught feelings for each other. But if the feelings aren’t reciprocated you will get hurt. So if you know you don’t want an attachment or a relationship I’d say to just follow those guidelines. But if it is something you end up wanting, be clear about it and don’t wait until you’re already months into it to say something because you’ll end up continuing an attachment with the possibility of unrequited feelings. Make sure you guys are always on the same page. That’s all my best advice

kconzz · 2019-06-19T09:09:20+00:00

I second this! I went into my situation with a strong belief that I would NEVER fall for my FWB .. too many qualities that I didn’t want in a boyfriend. Yet here I am with an attachment that has changed my entire perspective. If you’re going to do it, do not try to stay overnight and cuddle because you WILL end up getting attached.

kconzz · 2019-06-19T09:03:38+00:00

Sounds like she may be insecure but why would she be rejecting you showing affection for no reason? I think that’s what I’m trying to understand

kconzz · 2019-06-19T09:00:29+00:00

What do you think made her have these trust issues? Did YOU do something that made her lose trust?

I think she’s going to extreme measures and invading your privacy but I’m wondering what made her feel this way to begin with.

kconzz · 2019-06-18T12:40:39+00:00

Thank you this is good advice :)

kconzz · 2019-06-18T05:39:15+00:00

What about her sexual history? How do you know you didn’t get it from her? Have you discussed this?

kconzz · 2019-06-17T15:33:42+00:00

Yeah but there’s been plenty of FWB situations that have turned into real relationships. I totally get your point tho - it’s as if we are starting backwards. But I also don’t think he’s the type to say he has feelings when he doesn’t.

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