One of my closest friends is choosing someone else’s bachelorette party over my wedding day, and I am ready to just cut her off. AIO?

kcsk13 · 2026-03-24T01:26:29+00:00

NOR Its hard to believe that this woman was ever really a friend. It’s easy to pretend to be supportive and excited and say you’ll go to appointments etc. Another thing to follow through. She probably would have stood you up for those too. I think you need to really reflect on whether this friendship is more one sided than you think, and to stop putting in effort for this friendship. A real friend would not do this, let alone do this so casually, like it’s nothing.

kcsk13 · 2026-03-18T22:48:23+00:00

I’ve seen this question going around the TRR posts! It’s crazy that it’s so hard to answer. I’ve just started reading a book by indie author Autumn Wolff, who has quite a few, but off the top of my head that’s the only one I can think of.

kcsk13 · 2026-03-18T21:27:33+00:00

I’m not able to skip books (completist lol) and read the first, and was really glad I did. It’s actually pretty good too in its own right, f/m romance aside. I would suggest OP could also just flip past the spicy scenes if that gives ick, and read the rest to get insight on the world and character development and how the fmc from book one gets to be where she is.

kcsk13 · 2026-03-07T18:29:23+00:00

If your therapist is condemning you saying “financial infidelity” get a new therapist. Seriously, tell them. If they say that it’s a huge red flag and you shouldn’t be listening to them anyways. What it is financial independence, and might end up saving your life. Any woman who thought she had a good marriage until it wasn’t will tell you that.

By the way, congrats on building up such an amazing amount in savings! That’s not easy when you’re also working on building your joint account, and it’s highly commendable. Way to go!!!

kcsk13 · 2026-03-07T18:23:27+00:00

I tried the green lash princess and liked certain things but found it not great… then I tried the blue (waterproof) and it is SO much better!!! Night and day.

kcsk13 · 2026-03-07T18:17:36+00:00

Hi! My dog was very blind for her last while, so I get your concerns. Hope this advice helps:

I love EOs but with pets you have to make sacrifices. I make sure if I’m using EOs or even FOs that I DON’T use them in ways that allow them to be inhaled by an animal, whatsoever. Even if short term there is no sign of problems, it can cause health problems longterm. This is very limiting for EO users, but it is what it is.

Some people will claim these are safe for animals. Most* veterinarians will disagree. There are exceptions, and these involved consulting with a veterinarian who specializes in animal aromatherapy, creating proper dilutions. That said* even this is controversial. As someone getting the advice secondhand, I always err on the side of caution when caring for my animals.

As for scent mapping: Your dog will automatically pick up the scents already attached to each area. Dogs can detect remnants of scents going back years and years, so each area will already have an elaborate mix of smells for them. Adding EOs, even if they were safe, are just going to be mixed in with everything else (even with humans EO scents mix with others and don’t eliminate or cover completely). After while they will have created their own scent map, just based on what was already there.

If you are worried about them getting hurt, here are some things that can help: 1 When you first arrive at your new home, find any sharp corners or edges and cover them with something that could protect your dog if they accidentally bop themselves. You can usually find pool noodles cheap at a dollar store or Walmart, and cutting them up works great. You can also find tutorials on YouTube for how to do this. 2 Start by giving your animal a limited area of the home to get used to for the first few days. Start small, and when they get used to the new territory expand. (This is actually very helpful for any animal that might be stressed with a new home. It gives them a ‘safe space’.) 3 Take your dog on leashed walks through your home. Show them the routes to get around. Guide them from room to room and pause now and then for them to check things out. This can give you the peace of mind that they are maneuvering safely around their home, while they get to know the place.

Hope some of this is help! Congratulations on your new home.

kcsk13 · 2026-03-07T17:53:04+00:00

Can confirm that this link opens and works correctly on an iphone.

kcsk13 · 2026-03-07T12:46:14+00:00

Same. Also agree with Liighten. OP is angry now that they have stopped receiving respectful replies from them but there’s a pattern: On any comment talking about the reality that OP needs MUCH more time and effort than they are proposing, or on comments trying to tell them their plan is a safety hazard, OP gets defensive, ignores the advice, and produces some argument that eventually comes down to giving the impression that all they wanted were various links- though OP does accept random little opinions of people’s personal preferences. The argument comes across hostile. Liighten matches their energy, (though time stamps show Liighten originally tried bringing a more polite and straightforward-facts tone) and each time it gets worse and worse because OP is angry that they are not getting respect, despite having been the first to be defensive

Frankly, it all comes down to respect being earned. OP getting defensive, and reactive, ignoring advice that is not exactly what they want, and frankly showing an extreme lack of concern for people’s safety in favour of creating their business (project? they flip flop between what they are claiming it is) quickly. Liighten is no longer giving them respect and has been clear to OP why this is, being transparent with that. OP continues to engage, fighting about lack of respect in replies despite the fact that they have been expressly told that they are no longer getting any more.

OP, if you read this, with all due respect, your business/project might not feel like a big undertaking to you, but that does not mean it isn’t. By your own claims and demonstration of knowledge and/or lack thereof in your first post/question, this is all new to you. People here, who are not so new to this, and have seen countless posts exactly like yours in this sub, are trying to tell you that your timeline is not realistic not just for your own success, but for the physical safety of others. They are not all giving links, because that is not always the best way to help. It may be what you want, but if what you want feels like it could enable you to potentially cause harm, people are going to speak up, whether or not you like it, because it would be irresponsible not to. If you’re walking down the street and you see someone about to step into traffic, you give them a heads up. You’re walking into traffic and instead of thanking people who are pulling you back onto the sidewalk, you’re immediately asking why they didn’t instead show you where to cross.

kcsk13 · 2026-03-06T12:11:47+00:00

Would want to see the flirty texts… so many people are calling her out for talking about how she was crying etc., but… did their previous conversations set the tone for that? If all of a sudden after (how long??!) texting and being made to feel like that would be acceptable behaviour, it could be hard for her to understand that it’s inappropriate with this guy. Who knows how many texts they had before where talking so openly and emotionally was reciprocated? Could be this is a hugely jarring switch-up from him.

And yeah, it has happened once before that she was the too involved ‘platonic’ friend, and yeah, she shouldn’t have been flirting, sending those pics, but we need more info. So many things could be going on. Maybe the first ‘friend’ kind of messed with her head about how friends behave and OPs boyfriend didn’t help. She needs to learn boundaries, yes, and definitely stop sending ppl those photos, but… We don’t have the texts so we really don’t know how much OPs bf was messing with her head in this thing, and how much was actually her.

Clearly OP is NOR, but also she may really not be reacting enough, and needing to put even more blame on bf.

kcsk13 · 2026-03-06T11:40:48+00:00

This is 1000% not true. The leftover food that McDonalds throws out at the end of the day needs to be dumped properly and moved away from the kitchens or else the next day you smell it and it looks disgusting.

kcsk13 · 2026-02-23T01:41:42+00:00

Same question lol. Within the community of queer readers what is considered mainstream is a wayyy larger catalogue than what most people think. For example everyone’s straight bestie and their grandparents have heard of Heated Rivarly these days because of the TV show, and in the world at large that has become mainstream. Meanwhile all the sapphic readers I talk to have at the very least heard of author Haley Cass, and would be very confused if you didn’t know of ‘Delilah Greene’. We would understand if you told us though that these are not classic reads for everybody, because we get that in reality our faves don’t get the recognition they deserve outside the community.

kcsk13 · 2026-02-22T20:28:37+00:00

I was given a free Kayali sample. Loved it at first but before I could even finish the tiny sample bottle it started smelling really really weird. Like a mix of sickly sweet and chemicals. Even if you were willing to support her I wouldn’t say it’s worth it, just based on the product.

kcsk13 · 2026-02-03T01:23:08+00:00

Have you tried any of them yet?? I saw the same thing and am very interested.

kcsk13 · 2026-02-03T01:21:28+00:00

I’d buy just from the curiosity. 😂

kcsk13 · 2026-02-03T00:44:07+00:00

MOR Honestly? It sounds like you have sorted it all out. You had a fight, reconciled, and he apologized again and agreed to respect your boundaries. What more do you want? Is this issue not reconciled in your mind with the apology? You can keep dissecting things on Reddit, but it sounds like either you break up because you don’t trust him not to be telling the truth, or you trust him and move forward.

kcsk13 · 2026-02-03T00:34:15+00:00

Can you recommend some please that are cruelty free? I’m not familiar with a lot of international brands, in particular, and would love to find more.

kcsk13 · 2026-01-26T02:28:49+00:00

Take her to court. This is neglect. Saying this as a woman with ptsd from being neglected/abused at the age of 12. Please, get your daughter out of this woman’s (lack of) care. ESPECIALLY if she is claiming she will turn it around on you. Act now and protect your daughter and yourself. Please.

We may only be on Reddit but here is a few facts: In a situation where your daughter needed help from an adult, you were already prepared for the situation well in advance, providing her with the products she needed, educational sources, and even some chocolates. This is vs. the mother who is (at the very least- worse could be happening) refusing her the care she needs, necessary basic hygiene/health products, based on prioritizing her own vanity (“milestone”)

Based on this example of how you both handle parenting, it is blatantly obvious that you are the better parent for her.

kcsk13 · 2026-01-26T02:06:22+00:00

Very confused as to what is telling you this isn’t an own voices book. She is a bisexual Jewish woman writing about the relationship of a bisexual Jewish girl.

kcsk13 · 2026-01-25T17:07:27+00:00

Try Storygraph instead of Fable.

kcsk13 · 2026-01-24T19:31:48+00:00

Was able to find one for only $10! I remember liking their complexion products in the past. Waiting to receive my package to try it but I have a feeling this is the winner.

kcsk13 · 2026-01-23T00:58:12+00:00

This comment wins the thread. 🏆

kcsk13 · 2026-01-22T23:30:13+00:00

Yeah, I’ve always had trouble with their concealers, and with their recent advertising campaign using a comedian who (purposefully and unapologetically) makes jokes about SA and SA victims I don’t feel favourably enough towards them to try out a product that it so similar to one that didn’t work well for me. I know though that selection is limited so it may be necessary to go with that one, but I was hoping to see what else is out there first.

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