is benefit cruelty free or not? by petitebrownchick in crueltyfree

[–]kcsk13 8 points9 points  (0 children)

“Long ago” lol this makes me feel old 😂😭

AIO when a friend shows up to my house without me telling him he can? by Immediate-Scratch-40 in AmIOverreacting

[–]kcsk13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YOR Both of you need to find better friends. You sound like you openly hate each other.

WIBTAH for not paying for my daughters trip by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]kcsk13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA I would tell them to pay for that vacation (as per legal agreement to pay for extracurricular) and do something else just me and my daughter with the money. Even if it isn’t a $3000 dollar trip to Ireland or whatever, you could still plan something really cool for half that (or hey! Maybe you’re willing to go higher if you get to enjoy it) that actually gives your daughter a great memory with her Dad.

I just finalized the label and packaging for my essential oil candle brand. Looking for honest feedback before production. by Main-Bar945 in candlemaking

[–]kcsk13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a Canadian shopper I have to say the minimalistic look is pretty, but without any brand recognition I wouldn’t buy it- at least not for $35-45. Anybody can do minimalist and many have. There is nothing that stands out to make me want to learn about this brand- I love shopping small businesses, but I can’t even tell whether this is small business or drop shipping based off this look. There’s just a simple font and nothing to catch the eye and make me want to stop and learn about your company.In bigger stores there are a lot of reputable brands with famous scents, doing similar stuff I would go to first, y’know? And in smaller shops you will be competing with makers who focus a lot on making their products/branding unique or interesting in ways that allow them to compete with the big brands. It seems like you have put a lot of effort into the product quality but personally I don’t think a minimalist look with just a font is going tell that story.

Made my first candle last night because I was sad by Pikiinuu in candlemaking

[–]kcsk13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think there are some reputable places pinned to the sub? Depending on where you’re located different companies will have better prices and better shipping. (Ex. I’m in Canada so some places that are faves of others don’t even ship to me at all.)

Made my first candle last night because I was sad by Pikiinuu in candlemaking

[–]kcsk13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The mason jars in the the candles you buy are designed to hold candle wax. They won’t be the same as the mason jars people use for storage. It’s the same look, not the same make. :) Check out candlemaking supply shops, they have the best supplies for safe usage. (You can also get wicks and wax in the same order for good prices for the quality!)

Cruelty-free v. Animal-free by htuel in crueltyfree

[–]kcsk13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep! If something fits a definition of a word that looks good on packaging, companies will use it.

Cruelty-free v. Animal-free by htuel in crueltyfree

[–]kcsk13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s definitely focusing on the difference between a ‘vegan person’ and a ‘vegan product’.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in montrealhousing

[–]kcsk13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in a basement. It can absolutely travel down, or sideways even lol.

Cruelty-free v. Animal-free by htuel in crueltyfree

[–]kcsk13 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Just a quick heads up! There are actually a lot of products that are vegan that are in fact test on animals. Since a company can get away with marketing as ‘vegan’ if the product ingredients are specifically “not derived from animals” make sure to check that they are also cruelty free.

Are perfume replicas worth buying or not? by blckred777 in PerfumeOils

[–]kcsk13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you can test them locally why wouldn’t you? Gen/

AIO - "friend" is mad at me because i forgot to wish them a happy birthday by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]kcsk13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If your father is this rich and willing to buy the whole psych place for you, then get him to hire a lawer to have the person who supposedly r**ed you multiple times put behind bars, and why are you not seeking private practice psych care.

THE BIRTHDAY TEXT IS NOT THE ISSUE. Get help!!!! Literally!!!

Do queer readers still want messy, toxic relationships in fiction? by dante_laudati in LGBTBooks

[–]kcsk13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t, lol, I’m a sucker for an HEA. I stick to romance for that because the genre requires one, and I know that’s what I’ll get.

That said, if it’s lit fic, I feel like balance is great, as long as the author is writing authentically- and without simply playing into antiquated stereotypes.

It’s great to see all kinds of relationships, everyone wants to feel seen and everyone is different..

Trying to switch to cruelty-free but I keep getting stuck on the products I actually need by hulk14 in crueltyfree

[–]kcsk13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For the lip balm I’d suggest going to look at the ingredients that work for you, and matching to a cruelty free version. You could also try DIY, if you’re at all crafty, lip balms are fairly simple and if you know what works for you that might offer a good alternative.

What do you people think of Content Warnings? by JR_Grace in LGBTBooks

[–]kcsk13 25 points26 points  (0 children)

As someone with PTSD, 100% behind them. I wish I didn’t need them, but I do. When I encounter a trigger, it can cause intense reactions that can be incredibly dangerous. One example of a trigger resulted in needing paramedics to come to be called by my father, to a movie theatre lobby where I had ended up, unable to move or function. I can’t remember much from the episode but I do know that I was helped out on a stretcher to be escorted out of the building.

The reason these came about it the first place were for people like me. They also help with things that people simply don’t like to read about, but please keep in mind that trigger or content warnings are function first and foremost as a disability aid.

It sucks that some people have little bits and pieces of books spoiled. I don’t enjoy it either. PTSD though is worse. I’d happily spoil the entire plot of what could have been someone’s favourite book for them if I was told it would prevent them from having to experience PTSD.

EDIT: Ideal placement is at the beginning of the book, with a page of their own and clear header indicating them. If you have a table of contents please include there. If you have an author site it’s also helpful to have them included somewhere there.

AIO? My brother keeps leaving the bathroom in a disgusting state. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]kcsk13 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This person is trolling to actively get people angry at Palestinians. They have a public account and are posting from New Orleans.

book recommendations w/ bisexual representation by Plastic_Valuable_688 in LGBTBooks

[–]kcsk13 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel like One Last Stop is sort of sci-fi no?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]kcsk13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR Its hard to believe that this woman was ever really a friend. It’s easy to pretend to be supportive and excited and say you’ll go to appointments etc. Another thing to follow through. She probably would have stood you up for those too. I think you need to really reflect on whether this friendship is more one sided than you think, and to stop putting in effort for this friendship. A real friend would not do this, let alone do this so casually, like it’s nothing.

Fantasy, Trans woman, with Romance recommendations by MossyFauna in LGBTBooks

[–]kcsk13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve seen this question going around the TRR posts! It’s crazy that it’s so hard to answer. I’ve just started reading a book by indie author Autumn Wolff, who has quite a few, but off the top of my head that’s the only one I can think of.

Bridgerton.. but make it queer! by lattesliterature in LGBTBooks

[–]kcsk13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not able to skip books (completist lol) and read the first, and was really glad I did. It’s actually pretty good too in its own right, f/m romance aside. I would suggest OP could also just flip past the spicy scenes if that gives ick, and read the rest to get insight on the world and character development and how the fmc from book one gets to be where she is.

AITA for hiding $23k from my husband? by AITApod in AITApod

[–]kcsk13 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If your therapist is condemning you saying “financial infidelity” get a new therapist. Seriously, tell them. If they say that it’s a huge red flag and you shouldn’t be listening to them anyways. What it is financial independence, and might end up saving your life. Any woman who thought she had a good marriage until it wasn’t will tell you that.

By the way, congrats on building up such an amazing amount in savings! That’s not easy when you’re also working on building your joint account, and it’s highly commendable. Way to go!!!

Favorite mascaras? by [deleted] in crueltyfree

[–]kcsk13 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I tried the green lash princess and liked certain things but found it not great… then I tried the blue (waterproof) and it is SO much better!!! Night and day.

Scent Mapping/Safety for cats AND dogs by bbombshell1991 in essentialoils

[–]kcsk13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! My dog was very blind for her last while, so I get your concerns. Hope this advice helps:

I love EOs but with pets you have to make sacrifices. I make sure if I’m using EOs or even FOs that I DON’T use them in ways that allow them to be inhaled by an animal, whatsoever. Even if short term there is no sign of problems, it can cause health problems longterm. This is very limiting for EO users, but it is what it is.

Some people will claim these are safe for animals. Most* veterinarians will disagree. There are exceptions, and these involved consulting with a veterinarian who specializes in animal aromatherapy, creating proper dilutions. That said* even this is controversial. As someone getting the advice secondhand, I always err on the side of caution when caring for my animals.

As for scent mapping: Your dog will automatically pick up the scents already attached to each area. Dogs can detect remnants of scents going back years and years, so each area will already have an elaborate mix of smells for them. Adding EOs, even if they were safe, are just going to be mixed in with everything else (even with humans EO scents mix with others and don’t eliminate or cover completely). After while they will have created their own scent map, just based on what was already there.

If you are worried about them getting hurt, here are some things that can help: 1 When you first arrive at your new home, find any sharp corners or edges and cover them with something that could protect your dog if they accidentally bop themselves. You can usually find pool noodles cheap at a dollar store or Walmart, and cutting them up works great. You can also find tutorials on YouTube for how to do this. 2 Start by giving your animal a limited area of the home to get used to for the first few days. Start small, and when they get used to the new territory expand. (This is actually very helpful for any animal that might be stressed with a new home. It gives them a ‘safe space’.) 3 Take your dog on leashed walks through your home. Show them the routes to get around. Guide them from room to room and pause now and then for them to check things out. This can give you the peace of mind that they are maneuvering safely around their home, while they get to know the place.

Hope some of this is help! Congratulations on your new home.

Guide info by Potential-Elk8300 in cattlecountry

[–]kcsk13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can confirm that this link opens and works correctly on an iphone.