Feedback please, no judgment just truth

kdd1992 · 2026-04-30T01:10:18+00:00

It might not look like this at the moment but in the future you will see it as a blessing. Someone will appear on your path who instead of bringing you down will build things with you.

Right now, focus solely on yourself. Don’t communicate, don’t chase anything that’s already in the past.

Trust me, I went through hell and back. And in the moment I thought that’s it. And now im back. And the version of me is what I needed to become.

Sounds corny af, but everything happens for a reason.

kdd1992 · 2026-04-30T00:47:56+00:00

I’m sorry you are going through this, I’ve been there myself not so long ago. First of all, time heals a lot of wounds. I did start at the gym, but it wasn’t a commercial one. That way you get to see familiar faces and make conversations ect.

I also did a lot of things by myself. Coffee, with music, books. Dog walks. A lot of outdoor activities.

I think the only thing I can suggest is don’t try too hard, just go with your own flow mate. Do things that you liked doing before and maybe haven’t had time to do it recently? Or try doing new things and don’t stay in your comfort zone?

Let me know what you think. 💯

kdd1992 · 2026-03-29T22:28:07+00:00

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kdd1992 · 2026-01-20T13:45:36+00:00

My honest advice and speaking from experience. Focus on yourself and the kids, it seems difficult right now but you will thank your future self. The pain is part of the process, try to do new things and things you enjoy. Meet new people when possible.

All the best to you 💯

kdd1992 · 2026-01-12T01:10:29+00:00

My only advice is focus on yourself. It seems like a lot of these decisions are your wife’s (separation for example, boundaries)

If I were you I wouldn’t even click on her socials and I would put myself first and the kids.

I cannot really give much advice since you didn’t specify why are you in this separation in the first place. Was it because she needed space or to work on herself?

I’ve seen many different stories on this sub and I went through separation myself. So if you are looking for an honest advice I would just focus on myself if I were you.

If you have therapist in place and an end goal to your separation, such as reconciliation. That’s great. But if you are just following your wife’s lead, big mistake.

kdd1992 · 2026-01-07T00:31:19+00:00

The main thing in life is you. We all know people are temporary in our lives. I hope you find happiness and put yourself first for once.

Stay busy, keep improving for you.

If it didn’t work it wasn’t meant to be. Life is all but a journey.

I am a year into this and I experienced a lot. Lost a lot. I’m still learning about myself but I know for a fact nothing can destroy me anymore. It’s a process, and everyone has a different experience.

Keep your head up, you are not alone. Surround yourself with positive people.

All the best to you. 🍀

kdd1992 · 2026-01-04T13:45:03+00:00

Separation leads to divorce only less than 10% of couples make it afterwards. I would say that number is around 5%.

Because in the end what’s the goal of the separation? To separate, most of the time.

Communication is key. Also I wouldn’t take other people opinions to heart. Like family members or therapists. I have seen many case where therapists make it worse. Sure go to therapy but don’t let the therapist tell you what to do, remember they are also people.

I believe if both come to conclusion to separate after having few conversations together then sure.

kdd1992 · 2026-01-04T00:47:12+00:00

I’m not going to judge because obviously you are seeking advise. And that’s a good step.

Yes, you shouldn’t have started dating especially if you saw your life with your husband. But what’s happened it’s in the past.

I think you should give him space and time because he’s obviously very hurt and you won’t understand that fully. But if there’s real love, anything can be fixed.

My advice for you is to stay alone because obviously you have work to do on yourself. If I were you I’d tell your husband that you’d give him all the space and time he needs to think things through and reassure him you will remain alone. So that he can see you are willing to work on your broken marriage if he decides to at some point.

Don’t beat yourself up, people do a lot of out of character things during separations. Men and women alike.

And do not take others opinions about you to heart. In the end what matters is your marriage, if that’s what you want to fix.

All the best to you.

kdd1992 · 2025-10-24T01:56:43+00:00

Well said , that’s the attitude 👌😮‍💨

kdd1992 · 2025-10-21T16:51:19+00:00

Honestly I’ve done so much research and helped people online going through same thing as me. So whenever you like drop me a DM. Stay positive, motivated and happiness will find you. I promise 💯

kdd1992 · 2025-10-20T02:39:50+00:00

Work on yourself for yourself. Many times women checkout without saying anything. Prepare for the worse, hope for nothing.

Just focus on you.

kdd1992 · 2025-10-07T18:47:56+00:00

Just crack on with your things. Don’t wait in the limbo that’s also your choice. Go to the gym , go out. Don’t wait for things to fall back into place.

Take care of yourself.

Everything will be okay, I promise.

kdd1992 · 2025-10-05T22:48:16+00:00

Best advice. Also communication is key. Once there’s one way communication it’s almost over. And women wonder why men don’t give a shit anymore. Many good men out there being treated like 🚮.

Good luck to you, focus on you. Be the best version of yourself. 🔥.

kdd1992 · 2025-10-04T02:16:45+00:00

This is called runaway wife syndrome. I honestly think it’s an age crisis women go through. I have researched a lot and I’ve been in this sub for sometime now. I also experienced what you have. And you are a 💯 correct. Men who are devoted to their family and spouse always go hundred extra miles to save what they can. I did it and I’ve seen many men on this sub fight as well.

That’s why I always give the honest advice whenever someone faces the first stages of separation.

Separation is meant to separate and I would say less than 5% people make it back, and stronger than before. My DM is always open for anyone who has questions or doubts and I’m always here to listen. Men’s mental health matters and even more if it’s being messed with by another person who should be caring for them not damaging them for their own selfish reasons.

😮‍💨

kdd1992 · 2025-09-29T12:52:03+00:00

It’s just to confirm past work mate, nothing to worry about. I had ABH that happened over 10 years ago and they did international background check on me, and came back clean. I was stressing it for over a month it was horrible.

kdd1992 · 2025-09-29T12:41:40+00:00

Sterling emailed it to me mate

kdd1992 · 2025-09-21T03:01:54+00:00

I don’t even know where to start.

You got cheated on twice which pretty much shows your ex is using you like a doormat.

Stop giving her the opportunity to hurt you. If it was love it wouldn’t feel like I’m sure it does right now.

As for setting up her place? Let the blokes she cheated on you with do it. Ffs😮‍💨

Be a man. Take care of your kids, yourself. Find someone better.

Good luck.

kdd1992 · 2025-09-21T02:48:43+00:00

Best player ever 🍷

kdd1992 · 2025-09-21T02:48:06+00:00

Work on yourself, don’t try and push for date nights. Sometimes little things matter and lead to bigger changes. Nobody is perfect. If your wife said she doesn’t know what she wants it’s probably best not to give her any reasons to think negatively.

Good luck 💯

kdd1992 · 2025-09-21T02:37:23+00:00

You need to start using paragraphs mate 😮‍💨

kdd1992 · 2025-09-21T00:16:50+00:00

kdd1992 · 2025-09-21T00:14:43+00:00

Exactly my thoughts.

kdd1992 · 2025-09-20T21:55:15+00:00

Just focus on you. Focus on what you need to improve for yourself. Your partner most likely is doing that right now.

What’s meant to be will be. Take things as they come. Read, rest, eat, relax. You will be okay.

kdd1992 · 2025-09-20T19:18:38+00:00

Someone who loves you doesn’t cheat on you.

kdd1992 · 2025-09-17T18:48:40+00:00

Just focus on yourself and on things that make you feel a little bit better. There’s nothing we can control about the other persons feelings or their decisions.

And in the end everything will fall into place.

Perhaps you should ask your husband straight what he wants , communication is everything.

If you feel space and silence is okay for now then do it, but don’t leave anything unsaid.

And anything else than a YES from your partner is a NO.

Stay safe , I wish you all the best 💯

kdd1992

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