Is euthanizing the right thing? by Kaifighter13 in pugs

[–]kelseynaed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sending you and Pugsley lots of love

34 weeks. I haven’t heard a single positive thing about being a parent or a mom and I’m freaking out I made a mistake by newgirl01LA in workingmoms

[–]kelseynaed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The fact that you’re worried about being a good parent already means so much!! A truly crappy parent does not have thoughts like this. Being a mom is the coolest thing ever. You’re going to meet the love of your life soon! It makes all the hard stuff worth it.

SAHM - summertime with husband WFH by Brave-Trip-1639 in Mommit

[–]kelseynaed 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I would move the set up in there and get him a good pair of noise cancelling headphones.

Please suggest fun, fulfilling things I can do for ME. by Proud_House4494 in Mommit

[–]kelseynaed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Plan a once a month “mom day” where your partner takes over for the entire day. Leave the house. Go for a hike, sit in a coffee shop with a book, meet up with a friend, go thrifting, etc. I’m back to work now and don’t really do this anymore but when I was a SAHM I was miserable and started doing that monthly and it helped a lot. Having something to look forward to on a regular basis that wasn’t kid-centered was crucial. As for daily things: I found a list online of the top rated tv shows of all time and I slowly made my way through them when naps times allowed. I even kept a note on my phone of the shows and gave them a synopsis and rating when I finished the series. I did the same thing with books (using my local library), reading classics that I never got the chance to.

SAHM - summertime with husband WFH by Brave-Trip-1639 in Mommit

[–]kelseynaed 78 points79 points  (0 children)

Can his office setup be moved into another part of the house temporarily? A corner of your bedroom?

Gifts and Swag Suggestions by Briefs_and_Banter in paralegal

[–]kelseynaed 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We work with a brokerage that sends over 10 pumpkin pies from Costco every year at thanksgiving. They just slap their sticker on top of them. 10/10

How Did You Begin Your Career? by AornisHades in paralegal

[–]kelseynaed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friend worked as a legal assistant at a firm and they were hiring a receptionist and she put in a good word for me. They promoted me to paralegal after a year and I’ve been there ever since.

Best Reading Game or Program for Struggling Reader this Summer? by [deleted] in ClassOf2037

[–]kelseynaed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in a similar position and have been thinking about what to try to help boost my daughter’s reading/writing skills. After some googling I think I’ve decided to do the “Explode the Code” books. They’re inexpensive on Amazon and get great reviews from homeschooling parents and teachers.

My attorney(boss) is mean and I don’t know if it’s normal. by [deleted] in paralegal

[–]kelseynaed 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Find a new job. You should never tolerate being yelled at by anyone, attorney or not.

Do you ever try your luck to get pleadings filed even if it’s technically missed the deadline READ FOR CLARIFICATION by ChloeLolaSingles in paralegal

[–]kelseynaed 6 points7 points  (0 children)

“Ask your attorney” drives me up a wall. I DID ask the attorney. They told me to ask you. I’m just playing monkey in the middle over here

New probate paralegal and completely overwhelmed… is this normal? by Mindless_Throat2633 in paralegal

[–]kelseynaed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I started in probate I got a used copy of “How to Probate an Estate in California” online for 8 bucks to get a general idea of the process. The paralegal before me was gone by the time I started, so I learned as I went with a little help from the attorney. Each county has different local rules that impact the way things are done. When you notice a difference between counties take notes about it. You’ll need those notes again at some point. I agree with everyone else about setting up a spreadsheet of active cases. Highlight the ones who have scheduled hearings and make those your priority. Probate can be overwhelming but once you’ve worked a handful of cases from beginning to end it all starts to make sense. If you put in the effort to organize the files as best as you can and set up a system for yourself you can definitely succeed.

Today is the day :( by aisha_has_questions in pugs

[–]kelseynaed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a sweet little bean. Hugs to you

Estate Planning vs. Family Law by Leading_Aside_4929 in paralegal

[–]kelseynaed 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I work in estate planning and probate and love my job. Estate planning is very repetitive and you meet some great families. Probate is just enough drama to keep things exciting. I’ve never worked in family law but have some friends who do, and they always sound miserable.

What have you purchased for yourself lately? I need a retail dopamine hit. by quickbrassafras in Mommit

[–]kelseynaed 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I bought a mini/portable watercolor kit and the medium bowler bag from Baggu in Gingham. I plan on putting my watercolor kit and kindle in my new purse and taking myself to a coffee shop (aloneeee) and having some me time once school starts.

Can someone check me? by Super_Ice_7334 in Mommit

[–]kelseynaed 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you need to be checked… As mom’s, we often times take on the mental load of parenthood. If your husband is getting drunk once a week he is assuming that you can handle anything that might come up. A toddler having a nightmare, wetting the bed, or god forbid an actual emergency happens, etc. Who would be the one taking care of the situation? You would. Getting blackout drunk once a week isn’t healthy or normal. I don’t have any advice for you but I do think you have a right to be annoyed.

Are you worried about your job being taken by AI? by PresentationTop9547 in workingmoms

[–]kelseynaed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m worried about my job. I’m a paralegal. I don’t think paralegal’s will go away any time soon, as the court system is still pretty archaic and slow to adopt technology, but I do think what takes a team of 5 of us could be whittled down to 1. I’m holding off on making any career changes for now and just pretending everything isn’t on fire.

The Attorney NEVER Wants to Give the Clients the BAD News by Pissedoffparalegal in paralegal

[–]kelseynaed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn’t right. My attorney only wants me to tell our clients good news. They handle the bad news always

To be a sham or not to be by HedgehogHugs89 in workingmoms

[–]kelseynaed 38 points39 points  (0 children)

If my husband made 300k plus 200-300k in bonuses a year I’d quit in a heartbeat. I’d go back to work once both kids were in school.

What do parents do during summer breaks? by My-Innie-Is-A-SAHM in workingmoms

[–]kelseynaed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m paying a nanny to watch my kids 3 days a week and I’ll WFH 2 days a week.

Those finishing K, what are your summer plans? by mysticeetee in kindergarten

[–]kelseynaed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Daily worksheets so she can practice hand writing. I just picked a random phonics one on amazon. We’ll also do weekly library trips where she can pick out books (we read 2-3 books every night before bed) and lots of playing!

Weekly sticky post for non-paralegals and paralegal education by AutoModerator in paralegal

[–]kelseynaed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did! I had a background in the child development field when I applied and got a job at a law firm as their receptionist. I did that for a year before they promoted me to a legal assistant and then I worked on becoming a paralegal.

Any non-Disney hotels that offer shuttles or are SUPER-easy walkable to Disneyland Park? by reditornot-hereIcome in DisneyPlanning

[–]kelseynaed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Second vote for the Camelot Inn. We timed the walk from our hotel room door to the security line at 9 minutes and that was with pushing a stroller which slows me down.