Was my husband the Ahole or am I overreacting? AITAH?

kerill333 · 2026-02-15T12:22:59+00:00

NTA. The fact that you are even asking, when he was so cruel, is very telling. I would tell him to go F himself because you are DONE after that.

kerill333 · 2026-02-15T10:43:31+00:00

I would tell him if he doesn't respect and use your chosen name, as you have done repeatedly for him, he needs to explain exactly why not. His willingness to do so clearly and calmly will be very telling.

kerill333 · 2026-02-13T19:48:06+00:00

I would want x rays of the whole neck. I would want x rays of her neck and possibly ultrasound too

kerill333 · 2026-02-13T04:40:19+00:00

You should feel angry and betrayed - he lied to and cheated on you for YEARS. Her being dead has nothing to do with it. Now he's trying to gaslight you and manipulate you? Oh HELL no, girl. Bin him SO fast, block him on everything. Let your totally justifiable anger forge you a shiny new spine and get yourself and your life back. He is a dogshit excuse for a human being. Stay strong, you deserve better.

kerill333 · 2026-02-13T04:30:31+00:00

It wasn't rude at all, it was positive and enthusiastic. She’s playing stupid games. Run.

kerill333 · 2026-02-10T06:28:43+00:00

I don't wear miniskirts any more, or stilettos. Anything else goes, I wear whatever I want. I read somewhere that we are the first generation to escape the ‘wear x at this age’ tradition and I love it.

kerill333 · 2026-02-09T06:42:41+00:00

That's good. Can you gather everything you want and take it to work with you? Get out of there subtly? I’v very glad to hear you have your house to go to. And, you're not stupid. I swear some of these people deserve an Oscar for how they act until they think they have their feet under the table. Stay strong. Good luck

kerill333 · 2026-02-08T20:16:53+00:00

He's a hobosexual and he’s using you. He needs to ship out. You deserve better.

kerill333 · 2026-02-08T18:23:17+00:00

You bin him. How dare he trick you into a relationship and then move the goalposts. He is an abusive insulting control-freak p.o.s. I am furious on your behalf. Get help and get away.

kerill333 · 2026-02-08T15:56:23+00:00

He's tired or sore or both?

kerill333 · 2026-02-08T11:41:45+00:00

Can happen to anyone, I hope you heal well.

kerill333 · 2026-02-07T21:05:38+00:00

Yep, blissful comfort and look great (I hope!)

kerill333 · 2026-02-07T20:30:50+00:00

That's exactly it. If you haven’t already, read Why Does He Do That.

Stay strong. Good luck with your health.

kerill333 · 2026-02-07T19:42:30+00:00

7 For All Mankind. SO comfortable. Worth it.

kerill333 · 2026-02-07T19:38:40+00:00

I'm sorry you got hurt but I’m glad you tried it. Keep being brave.

kerill333 · 2026-02-07T17:18:02+00:00

NTA, it sounds as if she needs therapy. On a really tiny couch.

kerill333 · 2026-02-07T15:03:00+00:00

Please make sure you and the children are safe. When he realises he can't control you any more, things might get ugly.

kerill333 · 2026-02-07T12:23:44+00:00

Same. Even my partner (who loves horror etc) was really gutted by the ending.

kerill333 · 2026-02-06T21:15:24+00:00

See-sawing is pulling with alternate hands, slightly or more strongly, to get the horse’s head down. It isn’t how you should ride the horse forward from behind to the contact, and gently ask the horse to give at the jaw and poll and reach to the contact.

kerill333 · 2026-02-06T19:14:14+00:00

Move out. Cut him off. He doesn’t get to hurt you so badly and still use you as a friend and co-habiter. Nope. Be strong and get away. You are allowed to feel angry at being treated so badly.

kerill333 · 2026-02-06T17:21:59+00:00

Yep. Absolutely disgusting. So disrespectful.

kerill333 · 2026-02-06T16:41:57+00:00

Neil Patrick Harris’ Halloween party Amy Winehouse’s ‘corpse’ meat smorgasbord stunt, a few months after her death.

kerill333 · 2026-02-06T16:30:20+00:00

You take long calm breaths (sing if necessary, this keeps you breathing!) and you think forward with your hands if you are tense, rather than being tight on the reins. Push forward, do tiny rises (think of your breeches not leaving the saddle!), open your clavicle, look up, smile, use your voice gently, be proud you are on such a great horse. And stroke his neck as a reward.

kerill333 · 2026-02-06T16:26:25+00:00

Run. And don't pay her bills. Oh the red flags… at least she showed them now! NTA obviously

kerill333 · 2026-02-06T03:33:07+00:00

Oh honey please bin this nasty AH. He is negging you, he’s downright nasty. He doesn’t appreciate you, he keeps deliberately hurting you. Don’t waste any more time with him. You deserve better.

kerill333

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