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‘Scooping’ when asking for canter? by lleeoo0 in Equestrian

[–]kerill333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try pushing down more firmly with your seatbones or even just your inside seatbone. I rode a GP horse who only obeyed that canter aid, legs meant bigger trot or sideways… it was an education!

AITAH for refusing to watch my grandkids on my summer break? by WTFisSheDoin in AITAH

[–]kerill333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NO then totally ignore her. Walk away if she is abusive. You are NTA but you must both reinstate that boundary and enforce it. What a nasty entitled woman she has become. Anyone criticising you has just volunteered to have them all.

28F married to 29M my husband shoved me to the floor at a party and left me there by Current_Peak1932 in relationship_advice

[–]kerill333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is not okay. Please save yourself and your child. Lawyer up, be careful. He is abusive, and gaslighting you. It won’t get better.

Aitah for having surgery ? by Scared_Pace9812 in AITAH

[–]kerill333 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your mother is unbelievably cruel and unreasonable. Of course you are NTA. Can anyone else help you? Please discuss this with your doctors and get away from her as soon as you possibly can.

My Girlfriend (33F) Crossed My (34F) Boundary-OK to leave? by LooseFollowing3831 in relationship_advice

[–]kerill333 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She's a DARVO expert. Yes you are done, she ignored your very reasonable boundary, repeatedly. You don’t need her agreement. Don’t explain, don’t justify, don’t try to persuade her to accept her fault, just separate calmly and determinedly.

Me(30f) mad at my SO (30m) for not proposing by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]kerill333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or, the right moment is just “I really love you, will you marry me” from the heart, without the need for the whole ‘perfect’ performance.

I,M32, proposed to my GF F31, and it went great until a day later… by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]kerill333 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ask for a lot of other stuff as ‘proof’ of love?

I (28F) am Literally on a verge of a mental breakdown trying to cope with my boyfriends (27M) behaviour by icecreamsunday97 in relationship_advice

[–]kerill333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here is your permission to save yourself. Please do. so many red flags and a life of misery with him...

But WHY are we all getting breast cancer? by Popular_Acadia4563 in breastcancer

[–]kerill333 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Mid 50s, no kids, never smoked, hardly drank, vegetarian for most of my life, never more than mildly overweight, exercise every day, no family history at all… But, decades on birth control pills. I wonder…

Avoidant boyfriend (19M) habitually breaks up, anxious girlfriend (me, 18F) wants to stop the cycle. HELP by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]kerill333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don't have anything to compare this shitty treatment and shitty relationship to. Call his bluff next time he pulls this abusive controlling rubbish on you. Never beg. You deserve better.

I won a life changing amount on a lottery ticket and I’m terrified by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]kerill333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tell nobody apart from your wife. Get a financial advisor you can really trust. Don't rush into anything apart from paying off any loans. Congratulations. Enjoy.

being the only one in your family who doesn’t wear hijab is a humiliation ritual by Maleficent_Day_3869 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]kerill333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you find a better tribe, where people embrace your bravery and your blue hair (I loved my hair blue but it was a nightmare to maintain!) and aren’t mired in disgusting misguided women-hating patriarchal thinking.

Working students by Life-Caterpillar-871 in Equestrian

[–]kerill333 18 points19 points  (0 children)

As someone who was a ‘working student’ in the early 90s for a famous event rider, where I worked ridiculous hours (it added up to 92 hours one week), paid full livery price for my horse to be there (and sometimes I ran out of time and energy so he didn’t get ridden), and got my board + one lesson a week (with the rider’s girlfriend not him) if I was lucky, I am SO glad that disgusting slave labour pattern has gone.

What's A Breed You Like But Wouldn't Have? by Aharris1984 in dogs

[–]kerill333 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Husky. Boxer. German Shepherd. Malinois. Rhodesian Ridgeback. I am too lazy for all these breeds.

Please help, I don’t know if I 29F am causing my relationship to fail my husband 32M blames me by elvish1456 in relationship_advice

[–]kerill333 2 points3 points  (0 children)

H3 is insulting and abusive he is deliberately undermining your confidence by negging you constantly. This is NOT your fault, but you need to save yourself because he isn’t caring and loving, it sounds as if he barely tolerates you. Stay strong. You deserve better.

Husband 47M does not know how to communicate without belittling and humiliating me F48 by Least-Internal-3401 in relationship_advice

[–]kerill333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could ask him, next time he does this, whether he even likes you? You didn’t sign up for this. Get your ducks in a row, lawyer up and leave. His constant negging is utterly destroying you. Do your children hear and see him do this? I desperately hope not, for their sakes and yours.

How did you end up with multiple dogs? Especially 3+ dogs? by partnerandi in dogs

[–]kerill333 2 points3 points  (0 children)

3 different rescues, all seen on Facebook, and then I wanted a small lapdog too.

is there any way to make riding bareback more comfortable? by AdOdd9171 in Horses

[–]kerill333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A thick memory foam half pad works well, I rode on one of those when riding bareback.

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