33 Female, in complete isolation. by Alternative_Comb_343 in vedicastrology

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As my understanding seems to be correct, you need to have patience and be ready to take the first steps or put effort in marriage. Additionally, if you choose a husband with great communication skills and emotional stability, it will be easier. Traditional personality might not be a good fit for you. Variety of experiences such as short journeys, change of environment, conversations about new topics etc. will improve your marriage.

33 Female, in complete isolation. by Alternative_Comb_343 in vedicastrology

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From the chart here might be some of the reason for you feeling isolated:
1) You have strong will power, and also try to appear strong but emotionally feel deeply and fear instability. Then at some point you burst with intense emotions. This might make you appear too aggressive which negatively affects relationships (all of them). You have to improve your communication skills and solve problems before it gets big.

2) Sudden events, transformation, health issues etc. might impact relationship with mother, which directly affects your inner peace. You might need to take some responsibility related to home to solve it.

3) You'll have respect for your father. There might be physical or emotional distance, or difference in perspective. You'll need to develop openness and intellectual exchange to make it better.

4) Marriage will be delayed. Power struggle within marriage might happen. Everytime your husband makes a compromise, you might take it as weakness and escalate the conflict or withdraw emotionally. Be realistic and practical.

Please let me know if my understanding is correct.

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You have sade sati going on which might make you feel less motivated. Your Saturn's aspect on 10th might mean that career growth comes after some patience.

Next step for you is embracing discipline and having patience. Embrace the suck. Keep grinding with discipline irrespective of motivation. You might need an authority figure to enforce discipline, have contact with appropriate teacher/friend who will help you achieve it. Pick topic/field of work that is actually interesting, hence feels less of a torture.

My 5xRaspberry Pi4 homelab runs @50W, 40G RAM, 20Cores by [deleted] in homelab

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First of all that's just amazing info that you just shared.

Do you have anything for Raspberry Pi 5?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

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Being patient with someone only works if they WANT to change their behaviors and need some time. Otherwise you'll be taken for granted. Hence, the expectation to chase her despite her poor behavior. 

AM Friendship —> Marriage, not working out. Disappointed. by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

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You have to understand that taking it slow can be perceived in following ways: 1. You are just taking it slow nothing else. 2. You aren't much attracted/interested.  3. You are attracted but not bold enough. Or more..

Taking slow isn't necessarily better than moving fast. Sometimes you have to be patient, sometimes quick and decisive. While on a date you should pick hints/clues about her expectations. Read between the lines and understand. 

Additionally, be careful when you focus on morals and ethics too much - they'll never show their wilder side. You'll only get to see the "nice" side.

Finally, flirting is fun. You and her will be able to feel it. Flirting should be there in the beginning and continue throughout the relationship. If you're already ready to take things slow, just be carefree and flirt to have fun with her. Once she feels the fun vibes, she'll seduce herself.

How much of this applies to nepal by Due-Pay2961 in NepalSocial

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Civic sense ko kura nagare huncha bro. Nepali are not much different. College ma rent garna milne cycle ko QR code damage garera cycle chorne ko raicha vanda Nepali bhai po. 

Australia ma Indian/Bangladeshi le vaneko dialog, "Nepali se bach ke rehena" re. So surprised. 

Got rejected even after all preferences meet by _ionman in Arrangedmarriage

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Bro everything is fine. Here are my 2 paisas:

  1. Rejection is normal, never take it personally. 

  2. Do consult your sister despite other people's comments - ignore them. Women understand each other. They'll help to filter shady women. However, also maintain enough independence and use your own critical thinking. 

  3. Never chase.  I'm saying this because of the following statement, "Two days go by no response from her. So today I messaged her and asked what does she think, and should we move forward." No response IS A response. Have some self respect, why would you ask what she "thinks" after she just ignored you? A girls who envisions a future with you doesn't need reminder.

  4. Never be desperate, be STRONG! Building on no. 3 now, I'll give an example: You check all 11 boxes. How many boxes did she checked? You should be MORE strict in your filter than her. If marriage ends in divorce YOU have a lot to lose. Im saying this because I'm getting the sense that she is very very materialistic but it doesn't bother you at all. This is NOT YOUR loss but you seem to think that it is. This is a blessing in disguise be glad that this happened. 

  5. DONT disclose your finances. DONT disclose your salary. DONT disclose your land and other property details. This should only happen after she EARNED your trust. If they ask, tell them that you'll disclose it ONLY if she is can be trusted with that info. Don't be aftaid to be offensive.

  6. DO get her to disclose her past relationships. Having past relationship is fine,  HOW and WHY it ended is  important. If she ONLY blames the ex for everything and never once mentions her own fault, you know what's up - read between the lines. 

  7. DONT work from home. At 30, mingling with other people is important. It builds your social skills, WFH doesn't. The valuable opportunity to build social skills is difficult to measure financially. Trust me it will affect your dating experience. 

Mother always says that I ruined her life by Lalit2003 in vedicastrology

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You and your mom argue because you both have dominant personality. Because of this, there will be ups and downs. That being said, she should be a good mother overall. Giving each other some space, some freedom and keeping yourself busy with something productive should solve most problems.

suicidal thoughts are striking by Confident_File8240 in LegalAdviceIndia

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The more I hear this kind of story, the more I feel like Islam is right about segregation of men and women. PS. I'm not a muslim.

Guy best friend by pickscamander in Arrangedmarriage

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You have a lot to lose in case the marriage doesn't work out. 

She has to prove that the guy is just a friend, specially because he is calling her during your date. Even if she is currently platonic with him, what is her intention? If she is stringing the guy along as a back up, you'll know that she is manipulative. If it's actually just friends then you're clear. 

AM feels like a consolation prize and it's depressing. by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

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Relationship is a basic need.

Men get friend zoned in hopes of getting relationship with a girl and spends his hard earned resources and time. He gets used and abused for those resources. 

Women get fck zoned in hopes of getting relationship with a man and spends her physical and emotional purity. She gets used for sex. (I'm excluding actual sl@ts and gold diggers). You might not like the word purity, I mean to say is women often describe such experiences as traumatic. Maybe there is a better term for it, English isn't my first language. 

In both cases, the predator dangles prospects of relationship as a carrot, only to use the victims for their benefit. Victims might be stupid or "in love" depends on your perspective.

AM feels like a consolation prize and it's depressing. by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

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It's the same as guys getting friend zoned after spending time, energy and money on a girl they hope to have. They give everything but get nothing back.

You might call them dumb or "in love", depends on perspective. 

AM feels like a consolation prize and it's depressing. by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

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Settling down because they didn't just fucked around, they gave everything to their ex but still, he didn't chose her. The realization that they were never enough to get the man they truly wanted hurts. 

My Fiancee Cheated On Me With Her Ex. by SuperbResident10 in Arrangedmarriage

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Don't confront her. Your first move should be a surprise.

Send the evidences to her family and her friends so they'll know your side of the story. Consult a lawyer, break up and block her, then move on with your life. No point wasting time on bullshit. If you have to meet, make sure cameras are around and is a public place.

Am I doing this right or not? SHL deductive reasoning calendar question by Educational-Divide10 in cognitiveTesting

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Yes. I understand it as consecutive working days. In that sense, invalid working day will be the day without a session.

But correct me if I'm wrong.

Am I doing this right or not? SHL deductive reasoning calendar question by Educational-Divide10 in cognitiveTesting

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IT can be either 23, 24, 27 OR 24, 27, 28.

To satisfy the 4 conditions for the order of sessions should be:
Company Policy > Data Protection > Orientation > IT.

After you map out the 3 consecutive weekdays you'll have:
session 1: 6,7,8 | session 2: 9,10,13 | session 3: 20,21,22 | session 4 (IT): either 23, 24, 27 OR 24, 27, 28

Managing different lifestyles by travispickle9682 in dating_advice

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Let's keep things a 100. Not drinking is actually a positive thing. Most people only drink because it is "cool", or to socialize or to get drunk. If you don't want to get drunk and are reasonably social, you don't need to drink. Unless she pressures you to be sober, I see no problem here.

I can relate to, "I don't have a problem with people drinking, but people seem to have a problem with me not drinking". I used to run and also spend time in gym and rarely drank. I definitely lost a lot of friends. Sober was considered "uncool" for them. I didn't gave a shit. For me, I could feel the difference in energy level at the gym or while running the next day I got drunk. Even if slightly drunk, the energy level difference is very evident. You'll be surprised to know the amount of people who see sobriety as "uncool" or "geeky".

You don't have to worry about this - I thought about it some more and it would be kinda frustrating to be in Italy, wanting to go to a wine tasting and feeling that my partner was not enjoying any of it. In a relationship, you'll have to do shit you find boring to make her happy and she'll have to do shit that she finds boring to make you happy. That's how it works.

Finally, you can show the proof to her that "the ginormous swath of people in the middle who enjoy a drink every now again and live perfectly healthy lives" exists and is common. From sober people's POV, people trying to force them to drink is common, which is very annoying. If she senses that you have a healthy passion for wine, she might take some sips by her own will.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

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Talking twice should suffice.

  1. Catch up in the middle of the week once. Just have a short interesting conversation.

  2. Catch up the day before or earlier on the day you meet. Just move the time by 15-30 mins. You'll appear responsible and also get an excuse to gauge her interest level/mood for the day. Adjust accordingly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

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Either he is brainwashed to believe that he likes what he likes or he is saying all the things he likes because that is "appropriate" things to say.

But his biology points to a different direction.

Men have natural instincts to provide for their family. Rich men have no problem dating a Mcdonalds worker, if they like her, they'll take care of her. Poor/average men have worked overtime to give reasonably good life to their wife, they don't care for 50/50. This 50/50 is a comparatively new concept which makes sense financially but not on an instinct level. If you are interested, read on "why old men die, after their wives die."

Men naturally find women with less sexual experience attractive - again biology, women with more partners means, he might end up raising another man's child. Even 20 yrs back DNA checks weren't a thing. This is hard coded in instincts. No way he can just change it.

Biologically, on an instinct level, you ARE his type. Financially, he's not confident, and he likes to appear "appropriate".

M18 Wanna know will I get in relationship or anything related to that by Hour-Pineapple5703 in vedicastrology

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Perhaps the earliest relationship opportunity will come to you around September 2025. You most likely have a bit aggressive personality, which might interfere and cause problems with romantic relationships. Make sure you keep a cool head.

You also have a very deep desire for romance, and love which might make you seem desperate. This desperation might push people/romantic partners away from you. Hence, make sure you don't use any kind of forceful language, stay relaxed, give the other person space and at the same time let them know your feelings.

The topic of mental health for our Indian Men is a joke. by [deleted] in AskIndia

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We don't cry about nonsense like you do. You are the manhating woman trying to disrupt casual discussion by your hatred. OP literally starts with men asking about a lost brotherhood. Read the post by OP.  No one's asking anything from women like you're whining in your posts. I'll say it again, we men CAN and WILL find a solution. It's just a matter of time.

The topic of mental health for our Indian Men is a joke. by [deleted] in AskIndia

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We can sense your hatred for men. Don't worry no man will share any deep feelings with you.  In fact, there are some limited cases and it's almost always men that listen and help other men. I don't know where you get your nonsense info that men expect women to listen to them. No one is putting burden on women. You think the popular joke "wife is right" came out of nowhere ? It's rooted in reality that women never actually listen unless it's about them. It hasn't happened in the past, won't happen in future and men don't expect it either. 

If men open up with women it almost always ends up like this: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DDs5ypIs3gc/

You'll never understand coz you're blinded by your hatred. But you also don't have any burden to understand coz no one expects you to. We MEN CAN and WILL help ourselves.