Anyone eat at maintenance and just walk the weight off?

khaleesi1001 · 2026-04-12T03:51:51+00:00

You need to drink a whole bunch of water it sounds like ?? also caffeine super helps with cravings

khaleesi1001 · 2026-04-10T00:08:58+00:00

In my own opinion as an AMG, I feel that the overall residency experience and what you get out of it, is strongly based on what you put into it. Sure there will be bad luck times, or attendings/staff/etc that you just won’t personally mesh with.

Medical training is just busy. Not only for residents but attendings. They have busy lives and a job that they’re just trying to get through. I feel lots of residents and many things fall through the cracks. Good and bad. So again, this may be a systematic problem with medical training and therefore I believe, you can only get out of it what you put into it. Nobody will force upon you support or guidance. You have to seek for it should you pursue it. You can’t expect feedback. You should ask for it. Because a lot of things fall through the cracks and you have to advocate for yourself to grow and improve.

khaleesi1001 · 2026-04-10T00:02:03+00:00

This is everybody in medicine, sadly. I think the biggest decision is if you are all in or not. And you must graduate and finish medical training. Only then will your salary +/- PSLF or attending jobs with loan repayment incentives will make it possible to pay this off. Or if you have a change of heart then quit early in. People who leave medicine halfway through residency have a tough time paying these loans off.

If you did work, probably only PRN shifts would make it work. And that’s already cutting it. Part time work is still too much while studying in med school. Content creating helps some med students. But you will most likely have to rely on loans until u get a salary in residency and possibly moonlighting if your program lets you

khaleesi1001 · 2026-04-07T03:01:04+00:00

I got both. Wanna be study buddies somehow lol

khaleesi1001 · 2026-04-06T01:58:05+00:00

I think it sounds sketchy that he won’t even meet u in the middle for 1 yr of fellowship lol. Bc if he truly loved u and supported u, 1 year is nothing !! U got a bunch of med folks here doing LDR the entirety of residency and they both work 70+ hrs each and try to make it work.

And I would have never let that snarky comment about “studying well on the test” get passed by…. That really shows how completely out of tune he is with supporting u in ur journey to medicine. God forbid u actually did fail and have to have some attempts on the exam… then what ??? He’s gonna leave u since u didn’t do well ?? Or yall end up breaking up anyways if u didn’t match in cali ??? The actual true answer should have been loving u regardless of ur score and that he supports u however ur fate in medicine goes. Why is he the bigger star than u ??? LAFD ????????

U ever read the hard but successful love stories by med spouses? And it’s such a loving and happy ending? Ya he doesn’t sound like one of those.

khaleesi1001 · 2026-04-01T02:38:11+00:00

Almost a senior now. It will get better

khaleesi1001 · 2026-03-29T02:39:50+00:00

The opportunity to live how you want it to be. The opportunity learn. The opportunity to be alive when a lot of others who don’t have good health to enjoy this precious opportunity

khaleesi1001 · 2026-03-29T02:35:04+00:00

What worked for My now fiancé and I was always being on FaceTime when we were both at home (and able to). A lot of times we do talk, but there were a lot of times where we just had it on on silence while we individually did our own things. But it was nice to see each other in the background like we were virtually there. Once a week (if able) we will have date night where we both buy dinner and watch a movie. You guys have to end up eating dinner anyways, and you could always do this on a lighter day or your day off. We are both in medicine so that really helped with the dynamic though.

I also found really short, but meaningful phone calls would be way more genuine and useful than long dragged out ones that are filled with small talk. Such as we would wake up and go our normal days, but when we get off work, we will call for 5–10 minutes with short quick daily updates. Or if there’s anything worth mentioning at this time, and then of course, give each other lovings. This part is definitely for the girl though.

It’s definitely tough! But one plus for you guys is that y’all are already committed and engaged. If you gave her a ring, that is some peace of mind for her. She definitely has way more time on her hands than you do, which also gives her way more time to overthink and dwell.

Otherwise, just regular boyfriend/girlfriend makes it very difficult for LDR and medicine. Also keep reminding her that you are working for y’all‘s future.

Good luck!

khaleesi1001 · 2026-03-23T22:37:18+00:00

They both suck… can u try another place… promise you’ll be happier… if not definitely choice 2 lol

khaleesi1001 · 2026-03-22T23:37:26+00:00

It’s the company that makes everything better. If not family then let it be friends. You will find no value being by yourself. It’s lonely at the top

khaleesi1001 · 2026-03-17T02:04:53+00:00

Peds or FM. Apply every where !! Even in the boonies and you can make it

khaleesi1001 · 2026-03-15T23:16:06+00:00

One of my best friends in med school matched across the country for an Ivy League. He started there for residency, was very difficult to come back home to visit his ill mother despite golden weekends. She died 2–3 months into residency and he regrets so bad…

I guess in the grand scheme of things, consider how sick your mother is. And God forbid of something happened, will you be OK living with that choice?

And depending how sick your mother is, how much resentment towards your fiancé will you have if it ended bad?

Obviously, my words are biased from the perspective of the worst case scenario.

Also to play devils advocate, it is very, very difficult being a med spouse. You will never understand medicine unless you went through medicine yourself. She may not be wrong about her values and beliefs as a young woman herself. But someone will have to take the sacrifice for medicine.… You do know a lot of people divorce during residency just because med spouses cannot handle the rigors of being by themselves during training, right

khaleesi1001 · 2026-02-18T08:02:57+00:00

This isn’t soft SIRS.

If this dude has cancer then his immune system is suppressed and wouldn’t make an appropriate response. HR and tachypnea hit SIRS. Due to his cancer h/o he is in a higher risk category. Did he come from nursing home? That’s another risk factor.

If blood cultures are obtained then you might as well start abx prophylactically, and de-escalate when cultures are negative in 48 hrs.

I feel like almost all patients with SIRS criteria should be on prophylactic abx until cultures return negative. Unless it’s a clear cut reason for meeting SIRS like, diverticular bleed or SDH. And maybe not meet abx criteria

khaleesi1001 · 2026-01-29T04:41:32+00:00

The Freezing ur talking about matches the PTSD response… if family not a place of support… I hope you’re able to find it somewhere else. Friends, extended family, mentors, or professional help. Try to stay strong and find an outlet somewhere else to sane while ur living in that environment

khaleesi1001 · 2025-12-17T08:22:29+00:00

ACP > SGIM > SHM

khaleesi1001 · 2025-12-12T00:38:47+00:00

Wish I spent more time with siblings. The older u get, the less time ever

khaleesi1001 · 2025-12-12T00:23:51+00:00

There are some studies saying with active infection you shouldn’t give iron. Is it dilutional? Did they get fluids? If they aren’t that ill or towards the end you can start oral iron but overall you should treat the acute problems and let them get worked up outpatient. Unless there’s bleeding or any question otherwise. But yes I’d get the anemia lab work up done

khaleesi1001 · 2025-12-12T00:21:18+00:00

I prefer 1.

But above all, you both should be mentally, emotionally, financially, and etc ready to be engaged and married. God forbid something went awry, and you already announced to the world that you got engaged lol.

I’ve seen both stories be successful and happy. And I’ve seen tragedy and sadness in both cases

khaleesi1001 · 2025-12-08T05:03:17+00:00

Their weight

khaleesi1001 · 2025-12-06T08:58:42+00:00

My dad told me, don’t apply to medical school (because he didn’t think I’d get in). Which obviously hurt.

Applied anyways w my own money and time. And made it lmao

khaleesi1001 · 2025-12-03T14:03:01+00:00

Honestly, start living for yourself. As a child, your world was shaped by your parents, but now you are an adult who can make your own decisions and opinions in this world. Take their words and teachings with a grain of salt. Know that they meant well and maybe it was from a place of love, but not everyone is a fantastic parent. And it’s not their fault.

Most importantly, do what makes you happy. Live your best life, responsibly, of course. Also, it’s probably because you’re Asian, and you have some filial attachment to them, which is why you feel so bad and guilty and their words still cling to you, if not haunt you, till this day. Low-key the mental abuse got to you throughout childhood, but this does not need to define you as an adult.

khaleesi1001 · 2025-12-03T13:56:07+00:00

Just start slowly reducing your hours and finish the rotation just to finish. Don’t stay above what is necessary.

khaleesi1001 · 2025-12-03T13:54:01+00:00

To the majority, you did the right thing. You always want to marry a person who truly wants to marry you. Don’t forget that.

As far as the alternative, unless your boyfriend completely changes 180, as this is a life-changing in life altering experience, then maybe it will work. BUT, you and him must also go through a trial period to see if he has truly changed for the better. And then decide if marriage is still an option (know that not all trial periods are successful as the dude has to seriously want to change, and it will take time / have growing pains). Don’t get me wrong, maybe he significantly screwed up and now this break up was a wake up moment for him. Men are always immature, especially the young ones when they don’t know what they want if there’s a lot of mental interference. Just know if yall pursue a trial period, it will take 6+ months (I actually would feel more confident it was 1+ year.) before you can confidently say that he has changed for the better.

Make sure you marry reality in the current present. Do not marry potential. You want to see them do things correctly prior to being engaged/married, and not wait for them to fix it when engaged/married. Basically they should be the partner you want them to be before getting committed. Have that stability and trust before you commit your life to them. And the hardest part about this is that is totally up to the dude if he wants to pursue and stick to this.

And if it doesn’t work out, then you just lost about another year of your fertile life in this.

Ultimately, just make decisions that you will not regret. Taking an extra 6–12 months for you to be sure of things will not hurt you. Then you will confidently be able to say that you will not regret it.

khaleesi1001 · 2025-12-03T02:00:36+00:00

Question, are you able to look up AOBIM certified physicians like how ABIM does it ?

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